Feminist Wellness

Tenderoni Hotline #11: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re diving into three listener questions that so many of us face, especially during the holiday season when old patterns and roles come rushing back. First, why do I feel so guilty every time I say no during the holidays? We’ll explore why guilt isn’t always what it seems, and how your nervous system might be misreading safety and danger based on old programming. You'll learn how to recognize when guilt is actually fear and how to respond with compassion and clarity. Next, we unpack why you overexplain your decisions to family and others. If every boundary you set comes with footnotes, this segment is for you. You’ll learn how childhood experiences can lead to this habit and how to start saying less, not more, without shame or shutdown. Finally, we answer: how can I protect my energy during the holidays without avoiding everyone? I’ll guide you through somatic tools and practical strategies to help you stay grounded, present, and connected to yourself and to what really matters. You’ll walk away with insight, support, and simple nervous-system-centered practices you can use right away. So grab your coziest blanket, pour a warm drink, and come settle into the tenderness with me. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Apply to my group coaching program, Anchored: Overcoming Codependency: https://beatrizalbina.com/anchored/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Episode 85 - Guilt Guilt Guilt: beatrizalbina.com/85Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 16 December 2025

#356: Does the thought of holiday gatherings make your chest tighten? Maybe you're the one who always accidentally says the wrong thing. Or maybe you're the one fielding invasive questions about your relationship status, body, or life choices for the 473rd time. Either way, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm addressing something that happens at every family gathering: those seemingly innocent questions that assume everyone wants the same milestones, and that life happens in some neat and tidy order. Questions about marriage, kids, weight, work, and why you're still single - they often land like judgment even when they come from a loving place. Tune in this week as I lay out the worst holiday table questions (and what to ask instead), and exact scripts for responding to invasive questions without starting a gravy boat war. You’ll also learn how to stay grounded when someone crosses your boundaries, and five connection-building questions that actually bring people closer. 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th, 2025, to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://beatrizalbina.com/twelve/ Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/356 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

Transcribed - Published: 11 December 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #10: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re doing something a little different and a lot of fun. I’m joined by my dear friend and fellow coach Sara Fisk for a warm, thoughtful, and deeply validating conversation about people pleasing, fawning, and how to find your voice again after a lifetime of being trained to shrink. Together, we unpack what it really means to be a “good girl,” how people pleasing shows up as both a social strategy and a nervous system response, and why so many of us freeze or default to yes even when we mean no. Sara also shares a powerful communication tool that helps you speak with more clarity and confidence without swinging into harshness or abandoning yourself in the process. This episode is filled with laughter, real talk, and body-based insight you can start using right away. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why didn’t I say what I really meant?” this one is for you. So get cozy, pour yourself a little something soothing, and come laugh, learn, and heal with us. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Learn more about Sara Fisk: https://www.sarafisk.coach/

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2025

#355: We need to talk about burnout - and not just the kind that comes from working too many hours or answering emails at 10 p.m. This week, I'm addressing that bone-deep exhaustion that's become the background noise of so many of our lives, where your body feels like it's moving through wet cement and everything feels like way too much. I'm talking about the burnout that happens even on maternity leave, even in retirement, even while doing things you genuinely love. This isn't a work problem that a vacation can fix. It's about the chronic, relentless abandonment of yourself in the name of keeping everyone else comfortable. Tune in this week to discover how emotional outsourcing keeps us trapped in the burnout cycle. You'll learn why your nervous system reads disappointing others as life or death, and most importantly, you'll get a practical remedy for starting to source safety internally and becoming your own North Star once more. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/355 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

Transcribed - Published: 4 December 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #9: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re exploring two questions that are as vulnerable as they are common, and I know so many of you will see yourselves in them. First, why do I apologize for everything? From “Sorry to bother you” to “Sorry I exist,” we unpack the deep conditioning, especially for those socialized as women, that teaches us to shrink, submit, and soothe. You’ll learn why your nervous system uses over-apologizing as a protection strategy and how to gently shift into honoring your presence, your voice, and your needs without guilt. Then we move into a question about body twitches, spasms, and random shudders that seem to come out of nowhere. If your body moves without your consent and you’re wondering what’s going on, this one is for you. We’ll explore how these movements can be stress-related, why your body might be trying to discharge stored tension, and how to support your system with simple, effective somatic tools. You’ll walk away with insight, relief, and real strategies for honoring your body, your boundaries, and your healing. So pour a cozy cup, get comfy, and let’s drop into the tenderness together. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2025

#354: You know that feeling when your mom rearranges the table you just set, or your uncle makes that comment about your career, and suddenly you're spiraling?  That's the first arrow - the hurt. The second arrow is all the stories your mind creates about how “she always does this” or “nothing I do is right.” But there's a third arrow that I haven't found anyone really talking about, and it's the most damaging one. Join me this week to discover how to recognize the third arrow when it shows up. You'll learn specific remedies you can use right now when that shame spiral starts, including how to name it, change your nervous system state before trying to change your thoughts, and talk to yourself like someone you love. Because once you see the third arrow, you can't unsee it. And that awareness gives you a choice you didn't have before. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/354 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 27 November 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #8: This week on Feminist Wellness, I’m joined by the wise and wonderful Mary Jelkovsky, author, podcast host, and founder of Mary’s Cup of Tea, for a deep and playful conversation on healing emotional outsourcing, letting go of perfectionism, and reclaiming your self-worth. We explore how so many of us were conditioned to earn love by being agreeable, productive, or self-sacrificing, especially those of us who are eldest daughters, children of immigrants, or socialized as women in patriarchal systems. Together, we unpack the invisible pressure to be “good” and how it robs us of self-trust, the link between people-pleasing and nervous system dysregulation, and the cultural and generational stories that shape codependency and first-gen expectations. We talk about how to stop managing other people’s feelings and come back to your own, how projection shows up in relationships, and the power of presence work in interrupting old survival patterns.  You’ll laugh, reflect, and walk away with new insights into how emotional outsourcing shows up in your life and what it truly means to begin choosing you. Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Check out Mary’s podcast: Mary’s Cup of Tea: www.maryscupoftea.com

Transcribed - Published: 24 November 2025

#353: My love, it’s that time of year again. The holidays are coming, and so are the family dynamics that can send your nervous system into overdrive. If you find that walking into your family home instantly turns you into your teenage self, you’re not alone… and you're not imagining it. Your nervous system is time-traveling. The smell of gravy, the sound of that one family laugh, your dad's aftershave - these sensory cues can fling your nervous system back to being thirteen before your brain even registers what's happening. Join me this week as I walk you through those real holiday moments that tend to light up an emotional outsourcing nervous system. You’ll learn my favorite pre-holiday prep tools that will help you stay grounded and teach your body what choice feels like in an environment where you never had any, one sensory detail at a time. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/353 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 20 November 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #7: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and reclaiming your self-trust. In today’s episode, we’re diving into two deeply relatable questions that so many of us carry quietly. First, what’s really going on when you can’t stop thinking about your ex and keep reaching for “closure,” even though you know they won’t give you what you need? We’ll explore why this craving is less about them and more about your nervous system’s longing for completion, and how to create that sense of closure from within. Then we turn toward the ache of constantly seeking reassurance, even in a loving, safe relationship. If you find yourself asking “Are we okay?” again and again, this part is for you. We’ll unpack the roots of that pattern and talk about how to gently retrain your nervous system to trust safety, love, and steadiness without outsourcing your emotional security. You’ll walk away with nervous system-informed tools, a whole lot of compassion, and a deeper understanding of why your brain and body respond the way they do. Because you’re not broken. You’re healing. So settle in, grab your cozy beverage of choice, and let’s get into it. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 17 November 2025

#352: Ever catch yourself saying "yes" to something while your soul is screaming "absolutely not”? Maybe it's baking three dozen cupcakes for the office party when you're already running on fumes. Or RSVPing to an event that makes your spirit shrivel like a forgotten grape. Here's what might surprise you: these exhausting habits that I’ve coined emotional outsourcing aren’t character flaws. They're actually proof of your brilliance. Join me this week to learn how emotional outsourcing in action isn’t proof that you’re fundamentally broken, but rather survival skills that worked their adorable little hearts out for us and that need to be celebrated. You’ll learn what happens when we genuinely appreciate our survival strategies, and the difference between shame-based and love-based change.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/352 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 13 November 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #6: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re answering two beautiful and important questions from our community. First, we’re talking about what to do with a lifetime of suppressed anger, especially when your body feels too exhausted or fragile to let it out. If the thought of expressing your rage feels overwhelming or unsafe, you’re not alone. I’ll walk you through a gentle, somatic approach rooted in nervous system science and self-compassion to help you start moving that energy in a way that supports real healing. Then, we shift into a conversation about emotional outsourcing in the workplace, and how perfectionist, people-pleasing, and over-functioning habits can become survival strategies in environments that reward self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt like your worth at work depends on your ability to stay small, agreeable, and endlessly available, this one’s for you. You’ll leave this episode with real tools, new insights, and loving reminders that you are not broken. You are adapting, surviving, and learning how to come home to yourself. So take a breath, grab a cozy something, and let’s get into it. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 11 November 2025

#351: Do you ever find yourself reminding your partner about their doctor's appointments (again)? Researching options for your adult child because they might get overwhelmed? Managing the family group chat so no one gets upset? You tell yourself you're being helpful, caring, responsible. That this is how you show love. But what if I told you that this kind of behavior is actually inherently disrespectful?  Join me this week to learn what overfunctioning looks like so you can recognize it in your own life, and how breaking free from it requires recognizing that real love trusts people's capability and respects their autonomy. You’ll discover how to offer support without taking over, honor people's right to make their own choices (even ones you disagree with), and create space for authentic connection instead of constant strategizing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/351 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 6 November 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #5: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re talking about something so many of us feel but rarely name out loud: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). If the darker months leave you feeling heavy, tired, withdrawn, or just not like yourself, this episode is for you. You’ll learn what SAD really is (hint: it’s not just “winter blues”) and how it impacts the body, brain, and nervous system. We’ll explore the role of light exposure, circadian rhythms, and hormones like melatonin and serotonin, and how all of this connects to your mood, energy, and emotional well-being. This conversation blends science, somatics, and self-compassion. Because you deserve to feel supported, connected, and empowered, even in the darker months. SAD might visit, but it doesn’t have to take over. So grab your sun lamp, your tea, your blanket, and let’s talk about what it means to care for your tender self through winter and beyond. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 4 November 2025

#350: Most of us know about vampires - they can't enter your home unless you invite them in. But what's even more fascinating is they don't just ask once. They keep asking, they keep pressing, they keep finding new ways to try to make you say yes. Because they know that most people, if pressed, will eventually cave. The less literal vampires in our everyday lives are the largely loving, well-meaning people who treat your "no, thank you" like a rough draft. They’re the ones who ask again and again until your boundaries become a negotiation, and your truth becomes something to overcome with polite social pressure. If you've ever felt guilty for maintaining your boundaries or found yourself saying "yes" just to stop the asking, this episode is for you. Listen in to learn why well-meaning people often ignore our boundaries, how this affects your nervous system, and how to hold a solid "no, thank you" without explanation or justification. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/350 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #4: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system care. In today’s episode, we’re exploring what happens when you finally find the courage to speak your truth, only to be met with defensiveness, blame, or long explanations that leave you feeling unseen and small. We’ll talk about why this happens in the body, how your nervous system perceives defensiveness as danger, and how your own body might freeze, fawn, or shut down in response. You’ll learn somatic tools to help you stay grounded in your truth, even when the person in front of you can’t meet you there. We’ll also unpack what emotional outsourcing really means and how codependent, perfectionist, or people-pleasing habits actually live in the body. You’ll discover how your nervous system learned early on to locate safety, love, and belonging in other people’s moods or opinions, and how somatic work can gently rewire that pattern so you can begin to feel safe inside yourself again. This conversation is tender, compassionate, and rooted in science. Because you deserve relationships where honesty feels safe, boundaries are respected, and love doesn’t require self-abandonment. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2025

#349: Your partner twists your words, denies what happened, and somehow you walk away from conversations feeling like the villain. If you're dealing with an emotionally immature partner, this pattern might feel painfully familiar.Living with an emotionally immature partner can feel like trying to navigate a wilderness without a compass, where your reasonable needs get labeled as "too sensitive" and your reality gets constantly questioned. Whether you're planning to stay and work on things or gathering strength to leave, you need practical tools to preserve your sanity and sense of self while navigating this challenging dynamic. Tune in this week as I provide concrete strategies for grounding yourself when conversations spiral, building an internal validation system, and setting boundaries that protect your nervous system. You'll learn how to stop chasing clarity from someone who doesn't want to understand, recognize signs of genuine growth capacity, and assess the real costs to your wellbeing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/349 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 23 October 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #3: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system care. In today’s episode, we’re exploring why setting boundaries can feel so hard, and why guilt often floods in after you finally speak your truth. We’ll talk about the deep nervous system wiring that makes boundaries feel threatening, especially if you were raised to believe that love means self-sacrifice. You’ll learn how your biology, past experiences, and systemic conditioning all collide to make boundary-setting feel unsafe, even when you know it’s the right thing. We’re also unpacking why you procrastinate, even on things that matter deeply to you. Spoiler alert: it’s not about laziness. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from real or perceived danger. You’ll learn how freeze shows up, how perfectionism fuels it, and what gentle, practical tools can help you shift from stuck to self-led. This work is compassionate, science-backed, and deeply honoring of your lived experience. Because you deserve to set boundaries without betrayal, take action without fear, and build a life rooted in your own nervous system safety and self-trust. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 21 October 2025

#348: If you feel like you’re going crazy in your relationship, where simple conversations turn into confusing battles where you’re somehow always wrong, you might be dealing with an emotionally immature partner. Join me this week as I dive into the signs and impact of being in a relationship with an emotionally immature person. You’ll learn the key signs of emotional immaturity in relationships, how it affects your nervous system, and the connection between childhood experiences and current relationship patterns. If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells in your relationship, or constantly questioning your reality, this episode is for you. And make sure to tune in next week for part 2, where we'll discuss practical strategies for dealing with emotional immaturity in relationships. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/348 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #2: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our sweet little corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system care. In today’s episode, we’re talking about what happens when someone asks you what you want... and your mind goes blank. We’ll explore why identifying your needs can feel so hard, even with something as simple as choosing dinner, and how childhood experiences and emotional outsourcing shape our capacity to know and express what we truly want. We’ll also look at why saying no can feel so guilty it makes you say yes just to make the discomfort stop, and how that guilt is often grief in disguise. You’ll learn gentle, practical nervous system tools to reconnect with your inner yes and no, and how to start making choices that center you, with more confidence and less shutdown. This work is compassionate, science-backed, and all about honoring the wisdom of your body. Because you deserve to trust yourself, feel safe inside your own skin, and belong deeply to you. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 14 October 2025

#347: Have you ever wondered why you keep falling into the same patterns, even when you know better?Maybe you say yes when you really want to say no, choose emotionally unavailable partners, work until you're completely depleted, avoid conflict until you explode, or feel guilty for having basic needs. If any of these sound familiar, this week's episode is for you. Tune in this week to learn the science behind why we repeat patterns that don't serve us. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, why these patterns were actually intelligent survival strategies, and practical steps to start healing those unmet needs and create new, healthier patterns. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/346 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 9 October 2025

Tenderoni Hotline #1: Hello my beauty! I’m so excited to introduce a brand-new segment here on Feminist Wellness, the Tenderoni Hotline, where I answer your most tender, curious, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and the nervous system. In this episode, we’re diving into how to stop emotional outsourcing, that habit of looking outside yourself for safety, belonging, and worth, and start reclaiming those from within. I’ll share how to recognize when you’re losing yourself in other people’s needs, plus simple, science-backed nervous system regulation tools to help you catch dysregulation before it hits a 10. This work is gentle, practical, and profoundly powerful. You deserve to feel safe in your own body and to belong deeply to yourself. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected] Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 7 October 2025

#346: What if I told you that the reason you feel exhausted by 2:00 PM every single day isn't because you're weak or lazy, but because you've been running a full-time job you didn't even know you had?I'm talking about emotional outsourcing – the exhausting pattern of constantly monitoring everyone else's feelings, needs, and comfort levels while completely ignoring your own. You become fluent in everyone else's emotional language while losing the ability to decode your own basic signals. You'll sit through meetings with a full bladder, ignore hunger pangs until you're shaky, and suppress yawns because drawing attention to your human needs feels somehow wrong. The real tragedy isn't just the exhaustion or the resentment building underneath your constant yes-saying. It's that you never get to feel the full safety of being you in the world. Join me today to learn the true cost of emotional outsourcing, and why these survival strategies are no longer serving you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/346 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book EEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 2 October 2025

Today is the day! My book, End Emotional Outsourcing, which I've poured my heart and science-nerd brain into, is officially out. But getting it into the world depends on what happens this week. This isn't about the money. It's about getting these life-changing words into the hands of someone who needs them.This book challenges the "tough-it-out" messages we're constantly fed. I've created a new language around codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, calling it emotional outsourcing. Rooted in accessible nervous system science and my own story as a queer Latina immigrant, this book is about coming home to yourself.Your order sends a message that voices like mine matter and that we need more love, more care, and more science in this world. And when you order 10 or more copies, you'll get a free six-week live course with me! Plus, all orders are entered into raffles for amazing prizes like one-on-one coaching, breathwork sessions, and a spot in my six-month course, Anchored. By helping me carry this book, you're helping us show the world that cruelty doesn't get the final say - love does.Order the book here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2025

#345: Have you ever felt like you're watching your life from the outside? Like you're going through all the right motions, saying all the right things, but somehow feel disconnected from your own experience?I get it, and I've been there: checking all the boxes, looking successful on paper, while feeling completely lost inside. This disconnection from yourself isn't a personality flaw or something wrong with you - it's a brilliant survival strategy your nervous system developed to keep you safe.Join me this week as I share why I wrote my new book End Emotional Outsourcing and how it offers a revolutionary framework for understanding why so many of us feel trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/345 Pre-order End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book

Transcribed - Published: 25 September 2025

I’ve got two special surprises for you! Order 10+ copies of End Emotional Outsourcing and you’ll get a free seat in my six-week live course — plus a chance to win a full spot in Anchored. And if you’re in New York, join me on Sept 30th in Brooklyn for tacos, cocktails, connection, and the sweetest book party. Get your seat in the six week live course (and your raffle entry for a FULL spot in Anchored) here: https://beatrizalbina.com/10booksbonus/Get your ticket to the party here: beatrizalbina.com/pubparty

Transcribed - Published: 23 September 2025

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if you said the wrong thing? Or maybe you're that friend who can read a room in seconds, sensing every mood shift before anyone else notices? Here's the thing - that's not just being "super empathetic." It might be something deeper called emotional outsourcing.Your hypervigilance, your people-pleasing, your chronic anxiety about other people's moods - those are wonderful, amazing survival strategies that once kept little you safe, but are now keeping grown you small. This is exactly why I wrote my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, to give you a roadmap back to your own inner knowing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 23 September 2025

My love, I have something really special for you today: I’m sharing Chapter One of my upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This chapter unpacks what emotional outsourcing really is, how it sneaks into our lives, and why it’s not your fault you’ve been carrying these patterns. You’ll hear stories from my clients, my own journey, and the cultural forces that keep us stuck in self-abandonment... plus the first steps toward reclaiming your inherent worth.If you would like to read along, you can find chapter one at https://beatrizalbina.com/chapterone/ Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today. Pre-orders make a huge difference in helping this message reach more people.

Transcribed - Published: 21 September 2025

Do you ever wonder why you sometimes feel an inexplicable rage towards the people you love most? If you've ever agreed to take on more work when you're already drowning, pushed through exhaustion to help others, ignored your own needs to keep the peace, or found yourself inexplicably angry about small things, this episode is for you.  Join me this week as I teach you the mathematical formula for resentment. You’ll learn the science behind why saying "yes" when you mean "no" creates emotional labor debt, what's actually happening in your nervous system when you override your own needs, and how to start breaking free from the resentment equation. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/344Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2025

Do you find yourself constantly dispensing kindness and helpfulness in exchange for validation and approval?This "good girl chokehold" is a survival strategy that rewires the brain, making you a professional people pleaser and preventing true intimacy. It's like being trapped in the world's most exhausting improv show where the only rule is "yes, and," except you never get to be anything but the supporting character in everyone else's story. In End Emotional Outsourcing, you'll learn how to break free from the exhausting cycle of earning love through depletion, plus practical tools for reclaiming your inherent worth. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 16 September 2025

#343: I receive beautiful messages from listeners telling me that being called "my angel" or "mi amor" transformed their entire week, maybe even the whole way they relate to themselves. Yet others write to express their discomfort. The language feels too familiar, unprofessional, even anti-feminist. This divide illuminates a crucial truth about healing: when genuine tenderness makes your skin crawl, your nervous system is telling you something important. Tune in this week to discover the neuroscience of how gentle language literally rewires our neural pathways, and why some of us recoil from warmth like it's sensory overload. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/343Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 11 September 2025

You're lying in bed at 2 a.m., replaying that conversation from earlier where your joke fell flat or someone looked uncomfortable after you shared a story. Your brain grabs onto that moment like a dog with a bone, analyzing every word, every facial expression, every micro reaction like you're CSI social interaction. The mental hamster wheel spins: Did I say something wrong? Are they mad at me? Do they think I'm weird now? This is exactly the exhausting cycle I help you break in End Emotional Outsourcing. Start quieting that mental chatter today by pre-ordering. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 9 September 2025

#342: The word "codependent" is everywhere - on book covers (even mine), in therapy sessions, in conversations about relationships. But there's something fundamentally wrong with how we use this label. If you recognize yourself in patterns of people-pleasing, emotional caretaking, or losing yourself in other people's chaos, I want you to know something important: You're not broken. You're not diseased. And you're definitely not codependent. What you are is brilliantly adaptive. Join me this week as I share why I'm moving away from the term "codependent" and offer a new framework that honors your nervous system's intelligence while creating space for growth. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/342Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale EEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 4 September 2025

Pre-order your copy of Emotional Outsourcing from Barnes & Noble between September 3rd and September 5th, and you'll get 25% off! Just use the code PREORDER25 at checkout. This special online-only offer is the perfect opportunity to snag the book at a great price before it’s officially released.Even better, if you're a Barnes & Noble Premium Member, you'll receive an additional 10% discount automatically applied at checkout, making this an amazing deal you don't want to miss. Secure your copy today and be one of the first to read this highly anticipated book: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/end-emotional-outsourcing-beatriz-victoria-albina-np-mph-sep/1147732180?ean=9781538766439

Transcribed - Published: 3 September 2025

You can spot when someone's being lousy to other people from 3 miles away. You're like an emotional bloodhound who knows when your friend is lying, when your coworker is stressed, when your mom is about to lose it. But when someone hurts you, you suddenly need a jury of 12 of your peers to confirm that what just happened was actually messed up and maybe it's okay for you to be hurt.This habit of emotional outsourcing at its most painful means you're literally giving away your right to trust your own experience and handing it over to the person who hurt you, random friends, or the internet. This is such a crucial part of what I teach in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. In the book, you'll learn about the nervous system science behind why you doubt yourself, plus, of course, somatic body-based practices to help you reconnect with your body's wisdom. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 2 September 2025

#341: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you’re living with emotional outsourcing.Tune in this week as I explain how emotional outsourcing gets stored in your body as a procedural memory - not just a thought you can talk yourself out of. You'll learn how this adaptation develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in your body. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/341Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2025

Your value isn't in your productivity. That uncomfortable feeling when you stop moving, stop doing, stop managing everyone else's life? That's not laziness talking. It's the voice of a nervous system that learned early on that being needed equals being safe. Your actual people want you to rest. They want you to have needs, wants, preferences. They want to take care of you sometimes too. And all of this is exactly what I break down in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 26 August 2025

#340: Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I'm fine,’’ when you're actually anything but fine? Maybe you're getting everything done - crushing it at work, maintaining relationships, keeping up appearances - but feeling disconnected from it all. Like you're watching your life play out from behind a glass wall. This isn't just you being "too in your head" or "not trying hard enough to feel." This is your nervous system's brilliant (but outdated) protection mechanism called functional freeze. Join me today as I revisit functional freeze: the nervous system state I see most often in people living with emotional outsourcing patterns. We’ll explore what functional freeze really is and why it's not your fault, how to recognize when you're in it, and why understanding this pattern is the first step to breaking free. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/340Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2025

This bonus episode explores how childhood messages about being "too much" create lifelong patterns of self-shrinking that affect every area of your life. When you spend years making yourself smaller to fit other people's comfort levels, you lose track of where you end and their expectations begin.But what if I told you that's a lie? What if I told you that the right people are starving for your realness? What if I told you that your "too much" is actually someone else's "just right?" What if you're not too much at all? What if you've just been around people who are too small for your bigness? This is exactly why I wrote End Emotional Outsourcing, to help you stop apologizing for who you are and start celebrating your fullest self. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 19 August 2025

#339: You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time. That's the truth that so many of us struggle to accept when we look back at our past decisions - the relationships we stayed in too long, the boundaries we didn't set, the times we said yes when we meant no. There's this part of us that believes if we're mean enough to ourselves about these choices, we won't make them again. But here's what science tells us: beating yourself up doesn't create change. This episode explores why compassion for your past self is essential for creating real, lasting change. Listen in today to discover how hating who you used to be blocks growth, and why being kind to your past self isn't about excusing behaviors or pretending everything was perfect. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/339Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale EEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2025

There's this bone-deep fatigue that seeps into you when you've been performing yourself for everyone else instead of living your life for you. It's different from being tired after a busy day. It's the exhaustion that comes from constantly calculating what version of yourself the room needs. Meanwhile, real love doesn't require a costume. No tap dancing required for real, true, authentic, grounded, open-hearted love, love, love. That's what my book, End Emotional Outsourcing, is all about: helping you take off the mask and discover that this big, messy world needs the real you, not the performing you. And I cannot wait to share my new book with you, where I'll teach you all about it. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 12 August 2025

#338: Shame is one of the most powerful forces keeping us stuck in emotional outsourcing, and we don’t talk about it nearly enough. This invisible force runs so deep that we often don't even realize it's guiding our thoughts, feelings, and actions.My book, End Emotional Outsourcing was born from my search for a shame-free, inclusive, feminist framework to name these patterns, and to begin healing them. If you’ve ever felt like your habits made you broken or unworthy, this conversation is for you. Join me this week as I explore the complex relationship between shame, the nervous system, and emotional outsourcing - three interconnected forces that keep us locked in patterns of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/338Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2025

Ever have that moment where you realize you've been living your entire life for everyone else? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. You’ve just been emotionally outsourcing.In this book series bonus, I name the pattern, share why it develops, and explain how it shapes everything from your relationships to your sense of self. And I’ll tell you how my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, can help you start coming home to yourself - no longer orbiting everyone else’s needs, but finally living for you. Pre-order the book now at victoriaalbina.com/book and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcribed - Published: 5 August 2025

It's my birthday month, and I'm doing what any Leo Somatics nerd with a microphone and a brand new book would do. I'm giving you the gifts. If you pre-order End Emotional Outsourcing by August 18th, 2025, you're automatically entered to win a 30-minute, one-on-one coaching session with moi, not publicly available. Bring your most tangled thought habits, your most scrunched up somatics. Or, a 90-minute breathwork session to help you feel like yourself again, in your body and your spirit, not just your brain. Go to beatricealbina.com/birthday for the details and to get in on the magic.

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money and mental health, particularly how codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits show up in our financial lives.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/337Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Transcribed - Published: 31 July 2025

For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book

Transcribed - Published: 29 July 2025

#336: Modern friendship isn't what it used to be. We're navigating a world where identity is more complex, where we have unlimited choice in who we befriend, and where the burden of maintaining connections falls entirely on our individual shoulders. Friendship expert, speaker, journalist, and author of Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, Anna Goldfarb, also known as "The Friendship Explainer," reveals that this shift has created both unprecedented freedom and unexpected challenges in how we connect with others. In this conversation, Anna and I examine why so many of us feel lonely despite having full contact lists, and how our codependent and people-pleasing patterns can actually sabotage the authentic connections we crave. Anna shares her research on the five core reasons people make friends and offers a framework for building deeper connections. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/336Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

Transcribed - Published: 24 July 2025

#335: This week, I’m joined by Human Design Expert, Master Coach, Behavioral Specialist, and host of The Human Design Podcast, Emma Dunwoody. Emma shares her personal journey from a diagnosis of lifelong mental illness to becoming a Human Design expert, and how this system helped her understand not just her behaviors, but the energetic blueprint underneath them all.Join us as we explore Human Design as a synthesis of four ancient wisdom traditions, all mathematically mapped together to create your unique chart. Emma breaks down how this knowledge transforms everything from parenting and business decisions to healing childhood wounds and building authentic relationships. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/335Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

Transcribed - Published: 17 July 2025

#334: Have you ever looked at your life - your career, relationships, achievements - and wondered why success doesn't feel as fulfilling as you thought it would? You’re not alone. Through the relentless pursuit of more, many of us have unknowingly built ourselves beautiful cages instead of the freedom we were seeking.In this week's powerful episode, I sit down with certified executive coach, speaker, and author Keren Eldad to discuss her new book Gilded: Breaking Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism, and the Relentless Pursuit of More and explore how overachievement can become a trap rather than a path to fulfillment. Join us today to hear how to recognize if you're living in a gilded cage of your own making and how to break free.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/334Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

Transcribed - Published: 10 July 2025

#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you. Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message. Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is particularly dangerous in times of rising fascism and manufactured division. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/333

Transcribed - Published: 3 July 2025

#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection.This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You’ll hear why this is one of the most dangerous ideas patriarchy has sold us, and how growth comes from wanting more - more presence, more peace, more pleasure, more days that feel like yours. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/332

Transcribed - Published: 26 June 2025