Feminist Wellness

#318: Have you ever caught yourself dismissing someone's feelings with phrases like "at least..." or "it could be worse"?We often do this with the best intentions - trying to help, trying to fix, trying to make things better. But what if these well-meaning responses are actually creating emotional distance in our relationships? In today's episode, I dive into why we struggle to let others have their feelings and how to reclaim emotional space - both for ourselves and those we love. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/318Mentioned in this episode:Feeling overwhelmed by your emotions? Struggling to find balance in your life? Unlock the power of your body in our Somatics 101 Webinar here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/podcast-somatics-webinarSomatics Webinar 101

Transcribed - Published: 20 March 2025

#317: If you're the person everyone comes to with their problems, or if you find yourself exhausted from managing others' emotional states, this week's episode is for you.Here's the truth: Your tendency to take on others' emotions isn't just a personal quirk – it's deeply rooted in systems of oppression and societal conditioning that have taught us to prioritize others' feelings over our own. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/317

Transcribed - Published: 13 March 2025

#316: Have you ever caught yourself trying to fix someone's feelings instead of just listening? In this week's episode, I dive into why we sometimes shut down others' emotions and how this habit often starts with our own relationship to feelings. This conversation is crucial for anyone who wants to build deeper, more authentic connections with the people they care about. Whether you're the one doing the shutting down or you've been on the receiving end, there's something here for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/316

Transcribed - Published: 6 March 2025

#315: Are you stuck in an emotional loop, unsure if you're feeling your feelings or just wallowing?In this episode, I dive into the difference between processing emotions and getting stuck in them. You'll learn why feeling your feelings is a radical act of self-respect and how it can transform your relationship with yourself, how to spot the signs of wallowing, and practical tools to shift into genuine emotional processing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/315

Transcribed - Published: 27 February 2025

#314: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself truly feel your feelings?In a world that values constant productivity, it's easy to see emotions as inconvenient roadblocks. But what if feeling our feelings is actually the key to deeper connection with ourselves and others? Join me on the podcast this week as we unpack the role of perfectionism, fear of rejection, and societal conditioning in blocking our emotional expression. Together, we'll explore gentle, somatic practices to help you reconnect with your body and build the capacity to feel. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/314

Transcribed - Published: 20 February 2025

#313: How do you keep your relationship loving and friction-free?In this special pre-Valentine's Day episode, I'm joined by my amazing wife Billey to share some of the practices and tools that help us stay present, emotionally generous, and deeply connected with each other. From reframing with "of course they did" to asking for "do-overs" when we miss the mark, to transmuting negative energy through Tonglen meditation, we cover many simple yet profound ways to show up as the partners we most want to be. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/313

Transcribed - Published: 13 February 2025

#312: Do you ever catch yourself labeling feelings like anger or sadness as "bad" or "negative"? In a world obsessed with toxic positivity, it's easy to internalize the message that certain emotions are unacceptable. But the truth is, emotions are not moral - they're messages from our bodies that deserve to be heard. In this week’s episode, I explore the role of shame, cultural conditioning, and emotional outsourcing in making it hard to feel our feelings. Plus, I share a simple somatic practice to help you start reconnecting with your emotions in a gentle, compassionate way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/312

Transcribed - Published: 6 February 2025

#311: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself feel your feelings?  If so, you're not alone. But here's the good news: you can absolutely build the skill of feeling your feelings safely and gently. It's not about diving in all at once, but taking tiny kitten steps to show your body that it's okay to feel.  Tune in to learn three key reasons why it can be so challenging to allow your emotions, and how to start allowing your emotions in a way that feels manageable and safe for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/311

Transcribed - Published: 30 January 2025

#310: Do you find yourself shoving down your feelings just to get through the day? What if I told you that those emotions you're avoiding are actually the key to the calm, clarity, and joy you've been seeking? In this week’s episode, I explore why allowing our feelings is so vital for our well-being and relationships. I share practical tools for sitting with big emotions, even when it feels scary, and I invite you to imagine what life could look like if you treated your feelings as wise guides, not enemies that are an inconvenience.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/310

Transcribed - Published: 23 January 2025

#309: Do you feel stuck in a job or life situation that no longer serves you? Are you afraid to make a change, even though you know it's what you truly want?In this week's episode, I’m joined by coach and former attorney Goli Kalhoran to dive into the art of quitting - and why it's actually an essential skill for crafting a life true to YOU. We talk about learning to trust your own wisdom, quieting the noise of external expectations, and finding the courage to pivot (even if it means "failing" a few times along the way).  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/309

Transcribed - Published: 16 January 2025

#308: Have you ever found yourself in a challenging situation where you felt triggered and unsure of how to respond? In this powerful episode, I share a recent experience where a man started verbally attacking me for simply explaining some science. But thanks to my somatic practices, I was able to stay grounded, present, and not let his words make me doubt myself. This is the gift of being in our bodies - the self-trust and choicefulness that allows us to respond instead of react, even in challenging situations. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/308

Transcribed - Published: 9 January 2025

#307: Are you tired of the same old New Year's resolutions that leave you feeling like you're never enough? What if there was a different way to approach this new beginning?In this week's episode of Feminist Wellness, I invite you to reclaim your core values - honesty, trust, compassion, integrity - and come home to ourselves. It's not about fixing ourselves or hustling for worthiness, but about remembering who we've always been.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/307

Transcribed - Published: 2 January 2025

#306: Are you an eldest daughter, immigrant, or first-generation woman who feels the pressure to be perfect and put others first? In this week’s episode, I explore the five wounds of “calladita” culture with life and business coach and host of the globally acclaimed Cafe con Pam Podcast, Pam Covarrubias. We explore her work supporting first-generation women and femmes in rejecting the silencing and submission of calladita culture and practical ways to create more spaciousness to heal these wounds. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/306

Transcribed - Published: 26 December 2024

#305: Do family gatherings leave you feeling like you're competing in the emotional outsourcing Olympics? You walk in with the best intentions, but within minutes, your nervous system is doing backflips. Your cousin is making passive-aggressive comments about your career, your mom is guilt-tripping you about not calling enough, and of course, someone has brought up politics over dessert. Sound familiar?Join me this week as I share my top tips for talking to challenging family members, complete with examples and even a sprinkle of pizzazz. We'll cover everything from setting limits with love to managing political conversations without wanting to scream into a pillow afterwards. If you've been wishing for a way to navigate family gatherings without feeling emotionally drained, this episode is for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/305

Transcribed - Published: 19 December 2024

#304: Do you ever feel like you're carrying the weight of the world, pouring yourself out for everyone but you? What if I told you there's a reason your body feels braced, tense, or disconnected - and that your wise body holds the keys to a radically different experience?In this episode, I explore the science of why nervous system education and somatic practices are vital for building a life of ease, connection, and authenticity. I also show you how to reclaim your birthright of joy and break free from old patterns that are keeping you small. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/304

Transcribed - Published: 12 December 2024

#303: Are you clinging to relationships, roles, or identities that no longer fit the person you're becoming? In this episode, I explore how to consciously evaluate the relationships in your life - with people, jobs, titles, and even your own stories. Letting go of what doesn't serve you is a profound act of self-care. It creates space for the relationships and experiences that truly nurture your growth, and this week, you’ll learn how to build a life filled with authentic connections. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/303

Transcribed - Published: 5 December 2024

#302: Do you find yourself constantly trying to please others, even to your own detriment? In this episode, I’m joined by Paige Pritchard, a finance coach on a mission to educate ambitious women who are ready to leave their financial self-sabotage in the dust. We dive deep into the concept of emotional outsourcing - when we look outside ourselves for safety, belonging, and worth - and discuss how this shows up in overspending, people-pleasing, and living inauthentic lives. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/302

Transcribed - Published: 28 November 2024

#301: Feeling the weight of this post-election moment? Me too. In this episode, I explore how to keep moving forward without falling prey to the swirling chaos designed to leave us exhausted and isolated. I share nine key practices to stay grounded, connected, and committed to creating change, from trusting your inner wisdom to understanding how to disrupt power structures. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/301

Transcribed - Published: 21 November 2024

#300: What if healing isn't a perfectly straight road, but a journey of continuous growth and self-discovery? In this special milestone episode, I'm sharing the 10 most profound lessons I've learned from our conversations together. From embracing non-linear healing to claiming joy as your birthright, these insights have the power to shift your perspective and deepen your healing journey. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/300

Transcribed - Published: 14 November 2024

#299: Do you ever catch yourself saying things like "I don't want to be a burden" or "I should be able to handle this on my own?" These sneaky emotional outsourcing thoughts can keep us trapped in codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist patterns. The good news is that I have practical remedies that will help you break free. From the 2% permission practice to reversing the spotlight effect, you'll walk away with actionable steps to start prioritizing your own needs and desires. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/299

Transcribed - Published: 7 November 2024

#298: Are you tired of feeling like a doormat in your relationships? But are you also scared of being perceived as a jerk if you stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries? What’s the secret to being loving and supportive without abandoning yourself in the process? This week, I dive deep into the difference between being considerate and codependent. You'll learn how to recognize when you're engaging in emotional outsourcing, how to start setting boundaries that protect your energy and well-being, and how you can show up for others from a place of genuine care instead of obligation or fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/298

Transcribed - Published: 31 October 2024

#297: Have you heard of the "nervous system reset"? It's a popular idea these days, but is it really possible to erase the impact of trauma with the push of an imaginary button? In this episode, I dive deep into the science of trauma and the nervous system to explain why the notion of a reset is not only inaccurate, but potentially harmful. I explore what trauma really is, how it shapes our nervous system, and what true healing involves. (Spoiler alert: it's not about eliminating our experiences, but integrating them.) Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/297

Transcribed - Published: 24 October 2024

#296: Are you ready to radically change your life through self-love and healing? In this week's episode, Ali Zamora shares her transformative journey of overcoming codependency and depression by trusting her intuition and embracing embodiment practices.    Ali discusses how the foundational tools she learned in my Anchored program equipped her to navigate the layers of healing and step into her most authentic self. If you've been struggling with emotional outsourcing, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, this episode will inspire you to start questioning everything and create the life you truly desire.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/296

Transcribed - Published: 17 October 2024

#295: Have you ever wondered what the differences between an ultimatum and a boundary are, and which might be the better choice? What do you do when you’re having a challenging conversation with someone and they go quiet, leaving you feeling freaked out and anxious? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, I offer my answers to these questions and show you how to regulate your nervous system from a place of compassion and curiosity while holding space for those you love.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/295

Transcribed - Published: 10 October 2024

Are you done doing too much for everyone else (then resenting them), and putting yourself last? It’s time to step into a life where you’re no longer overriding your needs, on the verge of burnout, and feeling completely disconnected from your own self. If you’re ready to start building relationships with more authenticity and less one sided overfunctioning (even if that means some relationships aren’t ready to evolve with you)… join me on Tuesday, October 15th at 8pm ET for a free all new webinar called Stop Overfunctioning! Register today: https://victoriaalbina.com/stop-overfunctioning/

Published: 8 October 2024

#294: I am so thrilled to be joined this week by my Anchored alum Hedy, a full-time job-haver, a full-time mom, and a dog mom. After joining Anchored, she describes the growth she has seen in her life since as profound. Hedy took a chance on herself, said yes, and learning how her life has changed on the other side of Anchored is the medicine we all need right now.   Tune in today to hear Hedy’s story of letting go of control, perfectionism, and codependency in a community that met her where she was, so she could change where she was. Hedy shares how she improved the way she shows up in relationship with others, learned to live in her body, and she vulnerably dives into using the lessons she learned in Anchored long after she left. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/294

Transcribed - Published: 3 October 2024

#293: Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own needs and desires? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, we explore the profound shift from bracing tolerance to intentional tolerance in the healing journey out of emotional outsourcing. Tune in to discover how you can cultivate a grounded presence and emotional resilience, so you can thrive in life without losing yourself in the process. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/293

Transcribed - Published: 26 September 2024

#292: Most people think that if they’ve been living at one extreme of always saying yes, they need to swing to the other extreme of always saying no and become wildly independent. But that’s no way to be in a loving, caring relationship. The magic lies somewhere in the middle, and it starts by making the choice to no longer self-abandon, which takes a whole lot of self-love. Join me this week to learn my roadmap for breaking free from the self-abandonment cycle and embracing a life of greater interdependence. You’ll hear how to use somatics and thought work to manage difficult emotions, the importance of setting boundaries, and concrete tools for interrupting this cycle so you can reclaim your authentic sense of self. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/292

Transcribed - Published: 19 September 2024

#291: Many of us have received messages from society that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. What’s logical is for us to step away from being that person out in the world. In this episode, I dive deep into the self-abandonment cycle that many of us find ourselves trapped in. Join me this week to learn why you might be stuck in a self-abandonment cycle, and the somatic impact of over-functioning in your life. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, how the self-abandonment cycle manifests, and questions that will help you begin to recognize it in your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/291

Transcribed - Published: 12 September 2024

#290: Mary is a high school teacher with a passion for mind-body science who joined my program, Anchored, looking for a greater sense of ease and confidence, especially as she contemplated a big career transition. This week, Mary is sharing how the inner work she did in Anchored is helping her navigate uncertainty with grace and dream bigger for her life and career. Tune in to hear how our work together has impacted Mary's family system, what it’s really like to be coached in a group, and the transformations Mary is continuing to experience as an alum. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/290

Transcribed - Published: 5 September 2024

#289: Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? All-or-nothing thinking limits the possibilities available to us and is a habit we can fall into without ever realizing it. That’s why this week, I challenge you to step out of your own unintentional thinking and start seeing the glorious, grey middle ground that will help you create a life you love. Join me this week to learn why you might be spinning in all-or-nothing thinking and how to break free. I show you what happens when you buy into all-or-nothing thinking, why it both fuels and is fueled by emotional outsourcing tendencies, and practical remedies that will help you take a more nuanced approach to life Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/289

Transcribed - Published: 29 August 2024

#288: We can’t heal hurt with more hurt, so when life feels way too life-y and you’re spiraling in your shame stories, this is the tool you can lean on to introduce a little gray into those negative thoughts. Join me on this episode to hear what my GRACE protocol entails, and how it will shift you out of the story that says shame is who you are, into an identity where shame has just been a part of your history. I show you how to systematically recognize and shift out of the shame identity, so you can foster a healthier, more resilient self-concept. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/288

Transcribed - Published: 22 August 2024

#287: Understanding how shame embeds itself in our emotional outsourcing tendencies is super important if we are to shake free of it and step into interdependence. That's why this week I'm exploring how shame takes root in our formative years and becomes intertwined with our sense of self-worth and identity. Join me as I outline the complex and often hidden nature of shame, and how it can drive codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors. You’ll learn the somatic and psychological manifestations of shame, the role of the nervous system in responding to shame, and the importance of cultivating a more supportive relationship with yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/287

Transcribed - Published: 15 August 2024

#286: One of the biggest themes we talk about on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your genes. Dr. Tyler Panzner is a Ph.D. scientist turned holistic genetic health coach. Join us this week as Dr. Panzner walks us through the role our genetics play in our emotional, physical, and mental wellness. We explore what Holistic Genetic Health Optimization entails, his insights on supplements, and how Dr. Panzner can help you feel less "blah" each day of your important life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/286

Transcribed - Published: 8 August 2024

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Transcribed - Published: 3 August 2024

#285: Does life feel like a series of urgent problems that must be solved immediately? When stress, chaos, worry, and drama are your norm, it feels cozy to stay in this place. But the truth is staying in this belief only creates more stress and drama in your life. Tune in this week to learn why you might be in the habit of creating problems in your mind where there aren’t any, and how the work of self-trust is in learning to rewrite this experience. Discover my favorite reframe tool for gaining perspective on your perceived problems, and what happens when you break the habit of catastrophizing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/285

Transcribed - Published: 1 August 2024

#284: When we say we hate and avoid conflict, what we really mean is that we fear direct and honest conversations. If having what could be a loving disagreement feels like a pit of despair in your body, you’re not alone, and I’m sharing my favorite remedies with you this week. Discover how emotional outsourcing habits can make conflict aversion worse, and eight ways you might be unknowingly causing stress in your relationships. You’ll learn the root cause behind conflict aversion, why you conflate self-advocating with conflict, and how showing yourself compassion can steer you in a new direction. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/284

Transcribed - Published: 25 July 2024

#283: Does becoming someone with a secure attachment style seem like a pipe dream? What if I told you that it’s totally feasible? This week, I’m joined by a leading expert in attachment theory, Thais Gibson, who is sharing the five major components that will help you recondition your attachment style. Learn where our attachment style comes from, how to get into a space of healing your subconscious programming, and the science behind reenactment cycles in your relationships. You'll hear Thais’ favorite three-step tool for beginning to heal your old core wounds, and so much more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/283

Transcribed - Published: 18 July 2024

#282: The rescuer mentality is a fascinating byproduct of codependency. It’s a habit many of us learned in childhood. For some of us, rescuing was a smart way to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe, but the truly loving choice in our relationships is to foster an interdependent way of living. Tune in this week to learn why we fall into the rescue trap and how recognizing this tendency is key to healing emotional outsourcing habits. We’ll explore the critical differences between rescuing and supporting, practical tools that will help you shed the rescuer role, and how supporting others fosters interdependence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/282

Transcribed - Published: 11 July 2024

#281: The bedrock of interdependence is mutuality and reciprocity, which, when put together, allow us to be our fullest selves. Practicing interdependence with my wife, Billey, has been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life, so who better to discuss it with this week than her? Join Billey and me as we explore the differences between codependence and interdependence, and share our advice for creating mutuality and reciprocity in your relationships. We’re touching on the importance of setting boundaries and limits, how resentment erodes trust, and how to identify if you’re living in codependence or interdependence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/281

Transcribed - Published: 4 July 2024

#280: It’s easy to talk about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the applications of this practice extend far beyond trauma. In fact, healing trauma wasn't my goal at all when I started doing somatics work! In this episode, I'm showing you how this somatics can help you, even if you haven’t identified some big bad wolf wreaking havoc on your life. Join me to hear why the practice of mindful body awareness benefits everybody, how somatics act as a bridge that connects you to a deeper understanding of yourself, and some of my favorite practical applications of somatics that you can begin trying in your everyday life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/280

Transcribed - Published: 27 June 2024

#279: For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life, and I designed The Somatic Studio to show folks how to use body-based practices to establish stronger connections to their magical selves. This week, I'm sharing a delightful conversation I had with a recent member of The Somatic Studio, Kyra Sutherland, who is here to tell us about the discoveries and healing she experienced there. We discuss how the brain-body disconnect was showing up for Kyra, the beauty of becoming aware of your patterns, and how the community aspect of The Somatic Studio has been the greatest gift. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/279

Transcribed - Published: 20 June 2024

#278: Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for struggling to cultivate it. This week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. By engaging in practices that nurture our physical presence, we can enhance our ability to live more fully in our bodies, and I’ve got some simple strategies to get you started. Join me as I outline five key ways disconnecting from yourself manifests in emotional outsourcing, and learn my favorite remedies for beginning to bring yourself back into embodiment. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/278

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2024

#277: We can have different levels of embodiment and self-attunement at different times and in different settings, but how do you know when you are disembodied? In this episode, I share some subtle signs that you may not be as embodied as you could be, and what can happen when you truly start paying attention to your body. Discover some reasons you want to cultivate embodiment, and how to reconnect with your capacity to be at home with and in yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/277

Transcribed - Published: 6 June 2024

#276: I love talking about embodiment because it’s truly the most life-changing thing in my practice. It's a multifaceted concept that integrates psychological, physiological, and social dimensions that shape the way we inhabit and experience our bodies. It behooves us to recognize and understand what it means to be embodied, and we’re starting today. Tune in this week as I explore an inclusive and comprehensive definition of what it means to be embodied. You’ll hear why choicefulness is the greatest gift of embodiment, how our bodily experiences are deeply political in nature, and the power of somatic practices in reconnecting with embodiment. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/276

Transcribed - Published: 30 May 2024

#275: Emotional outsourcing develops as a survival skill in response to a felt or experienced lack of belonging and safety during our developmental years. If you have a cellular understanding of the world as a dangerous place, you might experience intense moments of stress, distress, and trauma. The antidote? Cultivating a sense of safety from within. Listen in this week to learn what happens when nervous system safety is lacking, how it impacts everything from our relationships to our physical well-being, and practical remedies that will help you cultivate a regulated nervous system that brings you greater calm and clarity. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/275

Transcribed - Published: 23 May 2024

#274: Defensiveness is a protective mechanism embedded in our evolutionary history that we can be grateful for, but it can also be painful to you and those you’re in relationship with. What can you do to step out of this deeply ingrained habit? Tune in this week to learn where defensiveness stems from and how to cultivate patience and compassion towards yourself and others when it shows up. I’m showing you the connection between defensiveness and self-esteem, why thought work often isn’t enough to stop this habit, and my favorite remedies for reducing the impulsivity of your defensive responses. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/274

Transcribed - Published: 16 May 2024

#273: How often do you find yourself mired in stories filled with past regrets? Thinking about "what could have been" may feel constructive, but on the podcast this week, I'm exploring why these thought patterns don't serve you the way you think they do. Tune in this week to learn why regret doesn’t change a darn thing, and how living in regret is a form of self-abandonment. You’ll hear how staying stuck in regret doesn’t save you from old patterns, what becomes possible when you ditch regret for good, and most importantly, my four-step remedy for beginning to heal regret. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/273

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2024

#272: If you find yourself exhausted from overextending yourself, stuck in relationships that feel one-sided, or even helping others in an attempt to ease your own discomfort, it might be time to rethink how you express compassion. This week, I'm offering a new lens through which to examine your actions, which I like to call "misguided compassion." Tune in to learn how misguided compassion can highlight our tendencies in emotional outsourcing, but also offer us the opportunity to find balance. You'll learn some common signs you may be engaging in misguided compassion and my favorite remedies for breaking free from it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/272

Transcribed - Published: 2 May 2024

#271: If you relate to my definition of emotional outsourcing tendencies, the thought of giving yourself true rest likely hasn’t crossed your mind in a hot minute. But have you ever wondered what it would be like to just call it and decide you’re not going to push through when your internal world is screaming for a break? Tune in this week to hear the importance of befriending rest and the alternative to pushing through when your brain and body say no. I’m sharing a list of questions you can use to check in with yourself when you hear that internal nudge, and my favorite tools to borrow when you need a break but don’t have the privilege of ignoring your responsibilities. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/271

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2024