Tenderoni Hotline #1: Nervous System Regulation Tips + How to Stop Losing Yourself in Others’ Needs

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Tenderoni Hotline #1: Hello my beauty! I’m so excited to introduce a brand-new segment here on Feminist Wellness, the Tenderoni Hotline, where I answer your most tender, curious, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and the nervous system.

In this episode, we’re diving into how to stop emotional outsourcing, that habit of looking outside yourself for safety, belonging, and worth, and start reclaiming those from within. I’ll share how to recognize when you’re losing yourself in other people’s needs, plus simple, science-backed nervous system regulation tools to help you catch dysregulation before it hits a 10.

This work is gentle, practical, and profoundly powerful. You deserve to feel safe in your own body and to belong deeply to yourself.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected]

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.
0:18.3	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism,
0:21.7	and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
0:30.1	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. I am excited to share with you that we're
0:41.0	going to try something new out here on the podcast, here on feminist wellness. On Tuesdays, we will be
0:46.3	doing a new segment called the Tenderoni Hotline. I'm so excited. So it's questions and answers
0:53.4	to common questions that y'all have sent in,
0:56.7	and I'll be pulling from anchored groups from the somatic studio and other programs,
1:01.1	common questions, exciting questions, fun questions about the nervous system, somatics, health, wellness,
1:07.7	and I'm going to be doing some coaching. So if you have a coaching question or a general question you'd like me to answer on a Tuesday, send it in to podcast at Beatrice, B-E-A-T-R-I-Z-Albina.com, and I will be answering them every Tuesday. We'll see how it goes. If y'all are downloading them, if you're sending an e-mails that seems to well. We'll keep it going. If not, we won't. Easy peasy, right? So I'm excited to get this started.
1:33.9	I've got some really good questions on deck. Please do send yours on in and let me know if you
1:39.3	enjoy this new segment. Here we go. The first question I want to answer today is this. If emotional outsourcing
1:46.1	is about safety, belonging, and worth, how do I start sourcing those from within myself?
1:51.9	That's where I keep getting stuck. Okay, understandable. Let's start with the definition. So emotional
1:57.5	outsourcing is when we chronically and habitually source our sense of those three
2:02.3	most vital human needs, safety, belonging, and worth from everyone and everything outside
2:07.3	of ourselves instead of from within at a great cost to self.
2:12.4	That's my definition.
2:13.6	It's a survival strategy, one you didn't choose consciously, but one your nervous system built
2:19.9	because it kept you safe in your family, in your culture, in your school, your community,
2:24.5	it kept you safer.
2:26.7	So how do you begin to reclaim that?
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