Ep #356: Questions Not to Ask at the Holiday Table

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 11 December 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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#356: Does the thought of holiday gatherings make your chest tighten? Maybe you're the one who always accidentally says the wrong thing. Or maybe you're the one fielding invasive questions about your relationship status, body, or life choices for the 473rd time. Either way, you're not alone.

In this episode, I'm addressing something that happens at every family gathering: those seemingly innocent questions that assume everyone wants the same milestones, and that life happens in some neat and tidy order. Questions about marriage, kids, weight, work, and why you're still single - they often land like judgment even when they come from a loving place.

Tune in this week as I lay out the worst holiday table questions (and what to ask instead), and exact scripts for responding to invasive questions without starting a gravy boat war. You’ll also learn how to stay grounded when someone crosses your boundaries, and five connection-building questions that actually bring people closer.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th, 2025, to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://beatrizalbina.com/twelve/

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0:00.0	You know that thing where someone asks, are you mad? And even if you were, you swallow it,
0:06.4	you smile, and you take care of their feelings instead of your own? Yeah, me neither.
0:11.9	Well, that habit didn't come from nowhere. In 12 days to end emotional outsourcing, we spent
0:16.9	12 days unwinding that body-level somatic survival pattern and reprogramming ourselves so we can
0:24.5	live life with more truthfulness. It's a free live program with me for free, live. That's going to be
0:33.0	about 20 minutes a day and it runs from December 15th to 26, helping your nervous system stop abandoning
0:38.9	itself out of habit, because that's what it's doing in emotional outsourcing.
0:43.5	Join us, Beata Victoria Albina.
1:07.3	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency so you can
1:12.3	live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
1:19.2	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. So this week, we are talking about the worst questions to ask at the holiday table.
1:33.0	And this episode is for two kinds of people. And maybe you, my tender love, are both,
1:40.0	depending on the day. First, it's for all my tender hearts who struggle with what I so lovingly call
1:47.3	a foot and mouth disease. You know who you are. You walk into a holiday gathering with the best
1:54.9	intention and somehow without meaning to. You say the one thing that makes your cousin's face do that like
2:03.3	collapsed, tight smile thing. And you didn't mean harm. You just haven't been given the right
2:10.1	language yet. So you're listening today because you want to do better. You want to show up in
2:15.3	community in the most loving, kindest, most bestest ways,
2:20.6	and I'm here to support you to do just that. It's also for all my tender, sweet squash blossoms
2:27.2	who end chronically are just here and there, but still the ones who leave dinners feeling like wrung out,
2:36.0	because someone asked the one question that hit too close to home for the 473rd time.
2:42.7	You'll get something either way, because I'm going to share two things that matter most
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