Ep #350: Your ‘No’ Is Final: Stop the Boundary-Pushers

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 30 October 2025

⏱️ 27 minutes

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#350: Most of us know about vampires - they can't enter your home unless you invite them in. But what's even more fascinating is they don't just ask once. They keep asking, they keep pressing, they keep finding new ways to try to make you say yes. Because they know that most people, if pressed, will eventually cave.

The less literal vampires in our everyday lives are the largely loving, well-meaning people who treat your "no, thank you" like a rough draft. They’re the ones who ask again and again until your boundaries become a negotiation, and your truth becomes something to overcome with polite social pressure.

If you've ever felt guilty for maintaining your boundaries or found yourself saying "yes" just to stop the asking, this episode is for you. Listen in to learn why well-meaning people often ignore our boundaries, how this affects your nervous system, and how to hold a solid "no, thank you" without explanation or justification.

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0:48.7	Music This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.
1:07.5	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency
1:11.7	so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
1:19.4	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. So here's the thing most of us know
1:27.0	about vampires. They can't enter your home unless you
1:30.7	invite them in. But here's what's even more fascinating. They don't just ask once. They keep asking,
1:38.5	they keep pressing, they keep finding new and interesting and really annoying ways to try to make
1:43.9	you say yes, because they know
1:46.0	one darn thing for sure, which is that most people, if pressed, will eventually cave,
1:53.4	including you with a literal vampire at your door. So today, I want to talk about like the less
2:00.4	literal vampires in our everyday life, not actually
2:03.3	like the fictional kind, but the largely loving, well-meaning, super-caring people who treat your,
2:11.1	no thank you, like a rough draft, the ones who ask again and again until your truth, preferences, wants, needs, boundaries,
	...

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