Ep #343: Pet Names That Trigger
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 988 Ratings
🗓️ 11 September 2025
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
#343: I receive beautiful messages from listeners telling me that being called "my angel" or "mi amor" transformed their entire week, maybe even the whole way they relate to themselves. Yet others write to express their discomfort.
The language feels too familiar, unprofessional, even anti-feminist. This divide illuminates a crucial truth about healing: when genuine tenderness makes your skin crawl, your nervous system is telling you something important.
Tune in this week to discover the neuroscience of how gentle language literally rewires our neural pathways, and why some of us recoil from warmth like it's sensory overload.
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| 0:00.0 | Darling, you're not just listening to this podcast because you're curious. |
| 0:04.2 | You're becoming someone who trusts herself, who honors their needs, who knows what's his to carry and what isn't. |
| 0:13.2 | And emotional outsourcing, how to overcome your codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits is my new book, and it's your next step. Be a reader. |
| 0:22.4 | Be a revolution starter. Be a part of the change movement. Pre-order at Beatrice Albina.com |
| 0:29.7 | slash book. This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Baya Victoria Albina. |
| 0:49.2 | I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency so you can live from your |
| 0:54.9 | beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started. |
| 1:01.0 | Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so. Wow, my sweet tender, perfect ravioli. |
| 1:08.8 | You know that flutter of recognition when someone calls you |
| 1:12.4 | a tender pet name like sweetheart or dear one and genuinely means it like I do with their whole body, |
| 1:20.9 | with their whole heart? It's that forgotten whisper that perhaps, just perhaps, just maybe, you, yes, you are already worthy of love, exactly |
| 1:30.6 | as you are. Imagine that same moment triggers your nervous system like a fire alarm. |
| 1:35.8 | Not safe, too intimate. Shut it out immediately. Every time I release an episode, I receive |
| 1:41.5 | these beautiful messages from listeners telling me that being called |
| 1:45.5 | my angel my amort, or yes, my tender ravioli, transformed their entire week, maybe even the whole |
| 1:54.2 | way they relate to themselves. And I hear it from the folks and anchored my six-month program as well. |
| 1:59.5 | They tell me that they start to hear my voice |
| 2:01.8 | in their mind, being kind to them when they goose up, reminding them that, of course you did, |
| 2:08.9 | episode 133 for that tool, and of course, that nothing has gone wrong. There's no problem here. |
| 2:16.4 | You are just a human, humaning along, after all. And that, |
| 2:22.2 | my tenderoni, paint a picture of what's possible, actually being kind to you and it actually |
| 2:28.6 | leading to massive change. I mean, come on, who would have sunk it? But someone writes to express their discomfort. |
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