Ep #346: The Cost of Emotional Outsourcing

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

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🗓️ 2 October 2025

⏱️ 22 minutes

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#346: What if I told you that the reason you feel exhausted by 2:00 PM every single day isn't because you're weak or lazy, but because you've been running a full-time job you didn't even know you had?

I'm talking about emotional outsourcing – the exhausting pattern of constantly monitoring everyone else's feelings, needs, and comfort levels while completely ignoring your own. You become fluent in everyone else's emotional language while losing the ability to decode your own basic signals. You'll sit through meetings with a full bladder, ignore hunger pangs until you're shaky, and suppress yawns because drawing attention to your human needs feels somehow wrong.

The real tragedy isn't just the exhaustion or the resentment building underneath your constant yes-saying. It's that you never get to feel the full safety of being you in the world. Join me today to learn the true cost of emotional outsourcing, and why these survival strategies are no longer serving you.

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0:00.0	Hello, my love, before we dive in, I want to take a minute to invite you into something bigger.
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0:59.7	Join me.
1:00.3	Let's show the publishing world what feminist self-help really looks like.
1:04.7	Music This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Baya Victoria Albina.
1:23.5	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.
1:30.6	Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
1:35.1	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Listen, what if I told you that the reason you feel exhausted by 2 p.m. every single day, maybe perhaps
1:48.8	isn't because you're like weak or lazy or no good. But actually, because you've been running a full-time
1:56.2	job in addition to all the other jobs you're doing, and you didn't even realize you had this one.
2:02.2	You didn't even know it was on the docket, but you're doing it all day.
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