Tenderoni Hotline #9: Why Do I Over-Apologize + Why Does My Body Twitch Out of Nowhere? Explained

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 2 December 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

Tenderoni Hotline #9: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re exploring two questions that are as vulnerable as they are common, and I know so many of you will see yourselves in them.

First, why do I apologize for everything? From “Sorry to bother you” to “Sorry I exist,” we unpack the deep conditioning, especially for those socialized as women, that teaches us to shrink, submit, and soothe. You’ll learn why your nervous system uses over-apologizing as a protection strategy and how to gently shift into honoring your presence, your voice, and your needs without guilt.

Then we move into a question about body twitches, spasms, and random shudders that seem to come out of nowhere. If your body moves without your consent and you’re wondering what’s going on, this one is for you. We’ll explore how these movements can be stress-related, why your body might be trying to discharge stored tension, and how to support your system with simple, effective somatic tools.

You’ll walk away with insight, relief, and real strategies for honoring your body, your boundaries, and your healing.

So pour a cozy cup, get comfy, and let’s drop into the tenderness together.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected]

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.
0:18.3	I'll show you how to get unst stuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism,
0:21.7	and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
0:31.7	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Welcome to this week's Tenderoni hotline. And thank you to
0:40.9	Billy, who gave me that amazing name for this new segment. If you're enjoying it, let me know.
0:47.0	Give the show a five-star rating and review. Holler on Instagram. And hey, if you haven't picked up your
0:53.1	copy of End Emotional,utsourcing My New Book,
0:56.0	I'd be so grateful if you did.
0:57.7	We are in this really critical first few months after publication where you tell the publisher
1:03.9	that you want more feminist work.
1:06.3	You want more feminist takes on old tropes like codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing.
1:12.5	You want more work in this really challenging time that's more compassionate, caring, and loving.
1:19.6	If you want this book to end up in your public library and you've got the money to buy it,
1:25.7	I really want to encourage you to pick a copy or 12 up now.
1:29.7	This isn't about me making more money.
1:32.5	That's not one.
1:33.5	I don't make more money if you buy a copy.
1:36.1	What does happen is that the book is more likely to actually get printed again and actually
1:41.3	end up in more bookstores and libraries where it can help the people who need it
1:45.9	most, which is the reason I spent the last five years writing it. So if you are able, I'd be so
1:51.9	grateful. If you bought the book, left a review on Amazon and Goodreads. You don't have to buy it
1:57.2	there. Grateful, grateful. All right, that's enough out of me. Let's get to your questions.
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