Ep #351: How to Recognize and Release the Grip of Overfunctioning

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 6 November 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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#351: Do you ever find yourself reminding your partner about their doctor's appointments (again)? Researching options for your adult child because they might get overwhelmed? Managing the family group chat so no one gets upset?

You tell yourself you're being helpful, caring, responsible. That this is how you show love. But what if I told you that this kind of behavior is actually inherently disrespectful?

Join me this week to learn what overfunctioning looks like so you can recognize it in your own life, and how breaking free from it requires recognizing that real love trusts people's capability and respects their autonomy. You’ll discover how to offer support without taking over, honor people's right to make their own choices (even ones you disagree with), and create space for authentic connection instead of constant strategizing.

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0:38.2	Every order comes with bonuses, raffles, and gorgeous gifts.
0:42.7	So let's make this moment count and show the publishing world that we want feminist work.
0:48.7	Music This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.
1:07.5	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency,
1:11.9	so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
1:19.4	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Now listen, I talk to a lot of exhausted people in my job. People, largely women,
1:31.2	who tell me effectively the same story over and over and over again. They tell me they have
1:36.8	to manage other people's feelings. They have to step in. They have to fix it. Because if they
1:42.4	don't, something terrible will happen.
1:45.8	And when I ask them what terrible thing will happen, it's rarely, I mean, actually never
1:52.7	really actual safety we're talking about. It's not like my partner will drive drunk so I need
1:57.8	to take the keys away or my child will wander off a pier.
2:01.6	It's much more about their own inability to handle other people having big, messy, uncomfortable
2:07.7	feelings. They say things like, if I don't remind him about his doctor's appointment, he'll be
2:12.3	stressed and grumpy all week, and I can't handle that energy in the house. If I don't research
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