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Feminist Wellness

Ep #361: You Don’t Need Trauma to Have Codependent, Perfectionist, or People-Pleasing Habits

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Alternative Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9988 Ratings

🗓️ 15 January 2026

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

#361: Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don't have any real trauma, so why do I still struggle with people-pleasing?”

Many people hear about emotional outsourcing and immediately disqualify themselves from the conversation because they didn't have what they consider a "bad enough" childhood. In this episode, I want to speak directly to those folks who recognize codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors in themselves but struggle to claim this truth because there was no obvious trauma, no catastrophe, no singular story that explains it all.

Join me this week to learn why you don’t need to have experienced trauma to have codependent, perfectionist, or people-pleasing habits, and why cognitive insight alone rarely resolves these patterns. If you're tired of feeling like your struggles aren't "valid enough" for help, this episode is your permission slip.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Six months from now, you could still be here, still rehearsing texts for 20 minutes,

0:06.0

still saying yes when you may know, still disappearing on yourself the moment someone seems disappointed,

0:11.0

still struggling to make decisions and second guessing yourself.

0:15.0

These habits are often signs of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing living,

0:20.0

patterns where you've learned to

0:21.1

prioritize other people's comfort over your own needs and safety, and darling, it's costing you

0:26.4

your energy, clarity, and ability to trust yourself. Or six months from now, you could feel

0:33.2

completely different in your body, in your heart, in your mind. You could set a boundary and stay

0:37.6

with yourself through it instead of collapsing into guilt. You can make decisions from your own

0:42.0

inner knowing instead of pulling everyone around you. You could stop waking up already behind,

0:47.3

already wrong, already bracing for criticism. You could stop tap dancing for your lovability.

0:53.5

Anchored is my six-month program where you

0:55.2

retrain your nervous system to stop these patterns. It's live weekly coaching with me,

1:00.3

breathworks, somatic practices, regulation tools, and a loving community of women learning

1:05.4

to trust themselves, just like you. We start February 23rd, and if you join by February 1st,

1:10.7

you will get a boatload

1:11.8

of thank you presents. This is your invitation to choose the different life. Apply at

1:17.3

Beatricealbina.com slash anchored.

1:38.7

This is FDris and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.

1:45.9

I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.

1:47.9

Welcome, my love. Let's get started.

1:56.3

Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well.

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