You're Not Too Much. You're Not Not Enough.: The Book Series #3

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 19 August 2025

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

This bonus episode explores how childhood messages about being "too much" create lifelong patterns of self-shrinking that affect every area of your life. When you spend years making yourself smaller to fit other people's comfort levels, you lose track of where you end and their expectations begin.

But what if I told you that's a lie? What if I told you that the right people are starving for your realness? What if I told you that your "too much" is actually someone else's "just right?" What if you're not too much at all? What if you've just been around people who are too small for your bigness?

This is exactly why I wrote End Emotional Outsourcing, to help you stop apologizing for who you are and start celebrating your fullest self.

Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Transcript

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.
0:18.3	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and
0:21.8	codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
0:29.9	I need to tell you about seven-year-old me. I was loud. I had opinions about everything. Leo opinions.
0:38.1	I wanted to tell you about the book. I was reading the game. I invented the weird dream I had opinions about everything. Leo opinions. I wanted to tell you about the book.
0:39.0	I was reading the game.
0:39.8	I invented the weird dream I had about flying bunnies.
0:42.6	I was compassionate and silly and fun.
0:47.2	And I remember this one day I can feel it in my body.
0:49.6	I was telling some elaborate story to my family at dinner.
0:52.3	I was so excited, waving my hands around, probably
0:54.9	talking way too fast, almost knocking over the milk every two seconds, and someone said,
1:00.7	Hey, kid, take it down a notch. You being too much. Too much. Too much.
1:11.5	Those words just stuck.
1:14.1	And from that moment on, I started editing myself in real time, making myself smaller, quieter, less.
1:21.2	Me. Just less.
1:23.7	Because listen, too much felt risky.
1:26.0	It clearly made me less lovable, and less lovable means less accepted, less cared for, less fed, less safe.
1:32.8	Right?
1:34.0	Right.
1:34.9	So I made it my goal to be as little as possible in situations where I felt like other people thought I was too much.
1:42.8	Not realizing just how much that self-squishing,
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