Tenderoni Hotline #6: How to Release Suppressed Anger + Stop People-Pleasing at Work

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 11 November 2025

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

Tenderoni Hotline #6: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself.

In today’s episode, we’re answering two beautiful and important questions from our community. First, we’re talking about what to do with a lifetime of suppressed anger, especially when your body feels too exhausted or fragile to let it out. If the thought of expressing your rage feels overwhelming or unsafe, you’re not alone. I’ll walk you through a gentle, somatic approach rooted in nervous system science and self-compassion to help you start moving that energy in a way that supports real healing.

Then, we shift into a conversation about emotional outsourcing in the workplace, and how perfectionist, people-pleasing, and over-functioning habits can become survival strategies in environments that reward self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt like your worth at work depends on your ability to stay small, agreeable, and endlessly available, this one’s for you.

You’ll leave this episode with real tools, new insights, and loving reminders that you are not broken. You are adapting, surviving, and learning how to come home to yourself.

So take a breath, grab a cozy something, and let’s get into it.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected]

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.
0:18.3	I'll show you how to get unst stuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism,
0:21.7	and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
0:32.9	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Welcome to another installment of the
0:41.0	Tenderoni Hotline, where I answer your questions about somatics, the nervous system, emotional
0:47.2	outsourcing, and so much more. If you want your question featured, send a little email to
0:53.1	podcast at Deiatricealbina.com, and I'll be sure to
0:56.9	add it to the list for an upcoming episode. Thanks for tuning in. Let's go. This question comes
1:03.2	from Grace Vera via our YouTube channel, and this person writes, can you make a video about
1:09.3	how to deal with a lifetime of suppressed anger?
1:12.8	I want to channel it all out, but my body's current condition is weak,
1:16.4	and I can't hold it, but I can't keep it in anymore also.
1:20.0	Can you please help?
1:22.8	Okay, well, first, I want to say that when anger's been buried for years or like decades, your body's been carrying that charge that whole time.
1:35.7	So anger is heat, motion, life force.
1:38.9	But if your body's currently weak or exhausted, burnt out, whatever it may be, it might not have the capacity
1:45.8	to let that fire move all at once and that just like makes science. I actually don't think
1:51.8	any of us really should be aiming to like let it all out. We should be more thoughtful and
2:00.6	careful with our minds, our bodies, our psyches, our nervous
2:03.6	systems. So think of it like thawing a frozen pipe. If you blast it with boiling water, it's going to burst.
2:09.6	But if you warm it slowly, the ice melts and the flow returns safely. And this is how we should be
2:16.6	working with particularly big emotions in the body.
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