Black Girls Heal

In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for youngest daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood. Resources mentioned:Heal the Ache of Childhood Emotional Neglect:http://blackgirlsheal.org/neglectEnter code HEAL20 for 20% off The BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 16 December 2025

In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for middle daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood. Resources mentioned:Heal the Ache of Childhood Emotional Neglect:http://blackgirlsheal.org/neglectEnter code HEAL20 for 20% off The BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2025

In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for oldest daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood. Resources mentioned:Heal the Ache of Childhood Emotional Neglect:http://blackgirlsheal.org/neglect Enter code HEAL20 for 20% off The BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/method Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2025

For those who have felt they have given up much to take care of those in their family and it has become increasingingly overwhelming, this is for you.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more. Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 25 November 2025

In this episode, Shena explores the three archetypes of love avoidants. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type.If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with compassion — and give you language to begin your healing journey.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more. Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 18 November 2025

In this episode, Shena explores the four archetypes of love addicts. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type.If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with compassion — and give you language to begin your healing journey.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more. Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 11 November 2025

In this episode, Shena talks about using hope as an act of resistance when everything is not okay around you.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more: Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 5 November 2025

In this episode, Shena reviews 3 tips to help recovered love addicts and love avoidants foster deep love when you are with your person. The goal is to combat unhealthy patterns you may have brought into your loving relationship to keep the love and connection easy.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more: Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 31 October 2025

In this episode, I review what are the things that will make a woman who is in a relationship that is draining her finally leave and what are the things that may make her stay. Get this week's podcast episode worksheet in our BGH Members Club at http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/club Break this cycle and step out of this issue with the BGH Method, our 90 recovery program coming soon. CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2025

In this episode, Shena returns refreshed and ready to dive deep into an important and affirming topic: how to recognize when someone actually likes you—and why that clarity matters. She explains that while we often focus on red flags, it’s just as vital to know the green flags of emotional safety, care, and genuine interest. This episode is all about normalizing ease in love and helping women recognize partners who truly value and protect them. Get this episode's worksheet at in the BGH Member's Club: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/members Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/bgh Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 21 October 2025

In this episode, Shena reflects on the consequences and how one's life can be affected if we are connected to those who give red flag behaviors and indicators that they may not be a good match for us emotionally, mentally, or physically (in regards ot safety). Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2025

This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 19 August 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose.This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 12 August 2025

In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles.  Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 5 August 2025

Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic. Danielle is a publicist by day and a certified friendship coach by night. She started her career as a high school English teacher for many years and was relied upon by her students to help navigate friendship issues. What she didn’t realize is that those “high school dramas” weren’t limited to high school. So often the way we approach friendship and relationships in general at a young age, follows us throughout our lives and experiences. Friendship like any other relationship requires work and nurturing but after more than a year of limited in-person interaction, it may seem daunting to reconnect. Listen as Danielle shares her tips for re-emerging as we reach the end of this pandemic and what you can be doing right now to start working on building new friendships. Remember that there could be people in your existing circle that you’d click with, you just need to give it a chance. Also, just because someone doesn’t have the capacity to spend time with you right now does not mean that they aren’t interested in friendship. Don’t let the stories you tell yourself obscure what could be an amazing relationship. If you’ve struggled in any way with finding strong female friendships, then you won’t want to miss out on everything Danielle has to share. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 29 July 2025

In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 22 July 2025

In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/BGH Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 15 July 2025

Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 8 July 2025

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey, including workshops on money trauma and no-contact groups. Join us as we focus on reclaiming control, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care in your financial life. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2025

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body. This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 24 June 2025

In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 17 June 2025

In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 10 June 2025

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed. This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as been discussed in previous episodes. But we hope these real experiences will help validate and give solace to the women who need to hear these stories represented.  Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 3 June 2025

In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 27 May 2025

What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 20 May 2025

In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2025

In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2025

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.  We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process.  We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 6 May 2025

Watch our free How to Stop Dating the Wrong People & Fix Your Internal Magnet masterclass: Click here register Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 29 April 2025

In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addictionWhether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn't even know you needed and supports you with the right steps you can start taking today MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEBOOK: Running on Empty - Dr Jonice WebbTherecoveryschool.com Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it? In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four main archetypes of love addiction and why each of these patterns comes with its own unique set of challenges AND beautiful qualities. Whether you're constantly chasing “the one,” afraid to be alone, losing yourself in relationships, or living in a fantasy that never quite matches reality, you’ll likely see yourself in one (or more) of these types. In this episode, we cover…01:15 Understanding the roots of love addiction07:08 Archetype #115:53 Archetype #225:10 Archetype #330:51 Archetype #434:19 The path to becoming love-balanced40:15 How to go deeper with resources and next steps Resources mentioned in the episode:4 Ways to Pick Better Partners as Love Addicts: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/masterclassThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapHow to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/booksReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 15 April 2025

How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry? In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal reflections and tools for navigating the emotional waves of grief, especially aftera sudden or unexpected loss. Whether it's the loss of a family member, a friend, a beloved pet, or a mentor, grief can shake us to our core. And yet, in the midst of all the confusion, numbness, and pain, we’re still expected to show up for life. This episode is an invitation to slow down and feel what needs to be felt without judgment. In this episode, we cover…01:42 My personal experiences with sudden loss04:19 Why validating your emotions is crucial for healing14:28 How to navigate the “what ifs” and regrets27:09 Practical tools to process grief Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH Members Club: https://black-girls-heal.circle.so/checkout/bgh-members-clubReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 8 April 2025

Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want? In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is, how it shows up, and the mistakes that keep us from building healthy, connected relationships. If you find yourself pulling away when things get too good, struggling to be vulnerable, or avoiding dating altogether, you’re not alone. These patterns often come from past trauma and a desire to protect ourselves, but they can also block the very intimacy we’re craving. Whether you’re just starting to explore this part of your healing or you’ve been working on it for a while, this episode offers real talk and real tools to support your journey. In this episode, we cover…02:43 The most common mistakes love avoidants make in relationships05:35 How trauma creates defense mechanisms that block intimacy14:59 Mistake #1: Getting spooked when things are going well23:20 Mistake #2: Struggling to be emotionally vulnerable30:07 Mistake #3: Avoiding dating altogether36:25 Final reflections and steps to move forward Resources mentioned in the episode:Episode 284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid As A Love Addict: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/284-dating-mistakesHow to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/booksReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 25 March 2025

Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality? In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts make when dating—mistakes that can keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles. Whether you're unknowingly romanticizing red flags, struggling to walk away from emotionally unavailable partners, or making dating your full-time job, this episode will help you break free from these patterns. In this episode, we cover…03:00 - Why falling in love with potential keeps you stuck10:45 - The importance of trusting your instincts when red flags appear17:30 - How making dating your hobby can lead to emotional burnout24:15 - Breaking the cycle of fantasy-driven relationships30:40 - Practical steps to build a fulfilling life outside of dating Resources mentioned in the episode:Download the Free Love Addiction & Avoidance Roadmap: blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 18 March 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how healing circles can transform your journey through love addiction recovery. After years of coaching women through attachment struggles, I've seen firsthand how creating the right community can accelerate healing in ways individual work simply can't. We explore exactly how to build your own healing circle—from finding the right participants to establishing crucial ground rules that create safety for vulnerability. I share practical tips for structuring your meetings, developing a curriculum that promotes real growth, and navigating the inevitable conflicts that arise when people are doing deep healing work together. In this episode, we cover…02:35 - The sisterhood effect on healing03:56 - How to create your own healing circle09:16 - Setting your healing circle up for success17:16 - Ground rules for safety29:13 - Ways to structure your healing circle34:41 - How to ask and provide for feedback 45:42 - How to find your circle sisters Resources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 282: How to Heal in Community (7 Tips to Make Sisterhood Work): blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/282-heal-communityThe Black Girls Healing Circle Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Dx3uDjListen to Episode 56: Starting A Healing Circle: blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/episode-55-starting-a-healing-circleThe Healed and Loved Woman Retreat: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/retreatHow to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/booksReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 11 March 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into something that's essential for our healing journey but often overlooked—the power of sisterhood and community. As someone who's experienced both the isolation of healing alone and the transformative power of healing in community, I'm sharing seven practical tips to help you build and nurture meaningful friendships that support your growth. In this episode, we cover…01:00 The importance of community in healing04:45 Where to find friends15:41 Why you should invest in friendships18:24 Challenges in building friendships26:29 Finding friends with a good track record32:20 How to handle rejection and ghosting35:37 Accepting different levels of friendship42:42 Prioritizing self-care and avoidance to grow your friendships Resources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 56: Starting A Healing Circle: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/episode-55-starting-a-healing-circleThe Black Girls Healing Circle Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Dx3uDjListen to Episode 108: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/episode-108-how-to-make-adult-female-friendships-with-danielle-bayard-jacksonThe Healed and Loved Woman Retreat: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/retreatJoin our email list: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/mailing-listHow to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/booksReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 4 March 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're having an honest conversation about something that hits deep—why we stay in relationships even when we're completely exhausted. From social media discussions to real-life experiences, we're seeing how women often find themselves caught in cycles of emotional labor and self-improvement, all while trying to make a relationship work that's draining their energy. Through my years of coaching women, I've identified the key stages we go through in these relationships: from the initial comfort and commitment, through the stress and burnout, to the moments of clarity that finally lead to change. In this episode, we cover…09:14 Stages of relationship commitment13:35 Stress and burnout in relationships25:49 Emotional and physical impact of relationships36:50 Resignation vs. true self-love45:50 Deep self-forgiveness and trauma work Resources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 174: Healing our Womb and Pelvic Floor with Dr. Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/174-healing-our-womb-pelvic-floor-with-dr-alicia-jeffrey-thomasHow to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/booksReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 25 February 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into something that can shake your whole world—when someone you're dating suddenly goes quiet or starts feeding you breadcrumbs of attention. Whether they're ghosting you completely or keeping you hanging with "I'm just busy" texts, we're getting real about what this behavior actually means. Through my years of coaching women through love addiction recovery, I've seen how these disappearing acts can leave us questioning our worth and replaying every moment trying to figure out what we did wrong. Today, I'm breaking down the manipulation tactics some people use to keep you attached, and more importantly, how to recognize them before they drain your energy. In this episode, we cover…03:31 Common manipulation tactics14:24 How to break the self-blame cycle26:02 Doing the inner work31:33 How to communicate your needs39:42 The truth about disappearing acts43:18 Coping with no contact Resources mentioned in the episode:How to Pick Partner Checklist: blackgirlsheal.thrivecart.com/how-to-pick-partners-checklist/Listen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No Contact: blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/steps-no-contactListen to Episode 279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal and Relationships to Flourish: blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/279-4-steps-heal-yourself-relationships-flourish How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/booksReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recoveryCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 18 February 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relationship patterns — the Bloom Method. After years of helping women heal from love addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation, I've developed this powerful approach that guides you from identifying toxic roots to cultivating lasting change. Through my work at the Love Addiction Recovery School, I've seen how this method helps women restore their relationship with themselves and create deeper, more authentic connections with others. Think of it like tending a garden: we start by uprooting what no longer serves you, cultivate fresh soil for new growth, harvest the fruits of your work, and learn how to maintain your flourishing garden. In this episode, we cover…00:57 Overview of the Love Addiction Recovery School03:24 The Bloom Method Explained06:23 Step 1: Uprooting the Weeds16:54 Step 2: Cultivating the Ground25:14 Step 3: Harvesting the Fruits29:46 Step 4: Tending and Maintaining Resources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 278: The First Three Steps to Heal Love AddictionReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 11 February 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal  podcast, we dive deep into the topic of love addiction and explore the steps to break free from its cycles. Learn about the free downloadable resource “The Five Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction” and discover how to identify and detox from addictive relationships. We also discuss the importance of addressing unresolved childhood wounds and building a supportive network for effective healing. Whether you are dealing with love addiction, love avoidance, or love deprivation, this episode provides invaluable insights and tools to help you achieve a love-balanced life. In this episode, we cover…03:53 What is Love Addiction?06:51 Steps to heal Love Addiction15:42 Detoxing from addictive relationships30:24 Why you need to clear toxic roots Resources mentioned in the episode:Stop your love addiction patterns in 5 steps using the Heal Love Addiction RoadmapCheck out the How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts bookReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 4 February 2025

As love addicts, it is so easy to fall in love quickly and lose ourselves in the process. In this episode, I give 3 small tips that you can use to slow down getting overconnected to someone in a new relationship. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors: * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 28 January 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how I personally use astrology as a powerful tool for healing and understanding relationships. As someone who was once skeptical and came from a Christian ministry background, I share how astrology has evolved from being something I dismissed to becoming an invaluable resource in my personal growth and coaching practice. Through breaking down the basics of natal charts, planetary placements, and houses, I explain how astrology is far more complex and personalized than just your sun sign. We explore why your exact birth time and location matter, and how different placements in your chart can affect everything from how you communicate to how you experience love. In this episode, we cover…02:00 - Breaking down astrological basics 14:00 - Understanding houses & planetary placements 31:00 - The importance of birth time & location 42:00 - Breaking down the four key placements 54:00 - Venus & love relationships 01:07:00 - Practical applications in daily life Resources mentioned in the episode:CafeAstrology.comAstrology for the Soul by Jan SpillerReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 21 January 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a game-changing tool that's about to transform how you evaluate potential relationships - the Availability Scale. Drawing from my new book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts,' we're breaking down the seven levels of availability that determine whether someone is truly ready and able to show up in a relationship. We're getting practical about how to identify where potential partners fall on the scale, from those who are fully available for deep, meaningful connections (what I call BLP - Best Friend, Lover, Partner availability) to those who present critical dangers to your emotional wellbeing. In this episode, we cover…04:26 The Seven Levels of Availability08:45 Signs of Availability and Unavailability13:13 Best Friend, Lover, Partner Availability29:39 Good Friend Level Availability34:51 Stranger Danger and Other Dangerous Levels Resources mentioned in the episode:Order How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book.Join the Dating to Win for Love Addicts program.Check out the No Contact Support Kit.Watch the FREE Masterclass: 4 Ways to Pick Better Partners as Love AddictsReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 14 January 2025

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're kicking off 2025 with a powerful conversation about building stronger, healthier relationships - and yes, we're having this talk even through a 103-degree fever because that's how important this message is! Whether you're dealing with love addiction, love avoidance, or just want to level up your relationships this year, we're diving into three game-changing strategies that you can start implementing right now. No more waiting for the "perfect time" or the "right moment" - your journey to better relationships starts today. In this episode, we cover…01:29 Three ways to improve your relationships03:20 How to assess availability in relationships06:03 Stop waiting for the perfect time14:26 Why you should forgive yourself and allow space for growth22:49 Be open to changing your mind26:35 News about upcoming Black Girls Heal events Resources mentioned in the episode:Get your own copy of the How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book.Join The Healed and Loved Woman RetreatJoin the How to Make it Work workshopReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 7 January 2025

Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to your recovery plan for healing. Get the New Book here on AmazonRegister for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop here Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 26 December 2024

In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts.Get the New Book here on AmazonRegister for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop here Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 18 December 2024

On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips to help support where you are. Enroll in the 60 Day Love Avoidant Rehab Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 12 December 2024

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay. Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose. This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift. In this episode, we cover…03:14 Why temporary friendship exists04:11 Four signs of temporary friendships18:16 The complexity of building friendships34:26 How to navigate transitional friendships36:57 The importance of clear communication in friendships44:59 Why you should still embrace temporary friendships46:17 Upcoming book releases  Resources mentioned in the episode:Grab copies of my books, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts and No Contact Support BookListen to Episode 263: Checking the Facts When You're in ConflictListen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No ContactReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 26 November 2024

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels like you're in conflict with EVERYONE. You know those times? When it seems like every conversation is tense, every interaction is challenging, and you're starting to wonder if maybe you're the problem? First, take a deep breath. Because what if I told you these seasons of conflict aren't here to break you - they're here to build you? What if every misunderstanding, every tough conversation, every moment that makes you want to scream into your pillow is actually an invitation to grow? We're getting real about how to take care of yourself when it feels like you're swimming in difficult energy. From dealing with current conflicts to processing unresolved issues from your past, I'm sharing four practical strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these stormy seasons. In this episode, we cover…01:00 Understanding why seasons of conflict happen02:52 Opportunities for growth during seasons of conflict08:14 How to deal with misunderstandings19:57 Why you should be teachable25:31 Reflecting on past conflicts Resources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 19 November 2024

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey. You know those moments when you catch a red flag early? When you trust your gut instead of second-guessing yourself? When you look in the mirror and actually like who you see? Those aren't small wins - they're evidence of your incredible growth, and it's time we celebrate them! Through personal stories and real-life examples, we're diving into the beautiful transformation that happens when we start recognizing our own progress. From being able to spot those red flags quicker (instead of six months down the line!), to actually trusting ourselves more than other people's opinions, to developing that genuine self-love that isn't dependent on anyone else's validation - these are all victories worth celebrating. This conversation isn't just about patting ourselves on the back - it's about acknowledging that every step forward in our healing journey matters. Whether you're just starting out or you're well along your path, there's something powerful about stopping to recognize how far you've come. In this episode, we cover…02:47 Why you should recognize your growth03:31 Embracing your wisdom05:13 How to navigate life's challenges06:30 Understanding self-knowledge08:26 How to build self-love09:42 Having faith beyond relationships19:22 The power of self-liking Resources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements. Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 12 November 2024