My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma and building a

healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and grow

in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.

I'm so happy to be with you this week.

I hope that you had a wonderful Christmas holiday for anyone who has celebrated.

I hope that you were surrounded by people who loved you or who love you currently

and gave you a lot of care and comfort. And if this was a

lonelier holiday for you this holiday season, I really do pray that you found some places where

you created your own joy, that you created your own memories, creating your own traditions,

we claimed it as your own. And if you have not done that,

if you're listening to this when this is posted, you still have time to do that for New Year's and

even for Valentine's Day in case those holidays may be a little bit hard as well.

Today, we are talking about three ways that a fear of abandonment may impact your relationship.

The reason why we need to talk about this is, you know, on this podcast, we talk about all

the ways that are unresolved childhood trauma can manifest as love addiction, love avoidance,

love deprivation, and codependency and all the things in between.

And so fear of abandonment is a really, really common trauma that many of us have experienced

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