#279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal & Relationships to Flourish

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 11 February 2025

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relationship patterns — the Bloom Method. After years of helping women heal from love addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation, I've developed this powerful approach that guides you from identifying toxic roots to cultivating lasting change.

Through my work at the Love Addiction Recovery School, I've seen how this method helps women restore their relationship with themselves and create deeper, more authentic connections with others. Think of it like tending a garden: we start by uprooting what no longer serves you, cultivate fresh soil for new growth, harvest the fruits of your work, and learn how to maintain your flourishing garden.

In this episode, we cover…

00:57 Overview of the Love Addiction Recovery School
03:24 The Bloom Method Explained
06:23 Step 1: Uprooting the Weeds
16:54 Step 2: Cultivating the Ground
25:14 Step 3: Harvesting the Fruits
29:46 Step 4: Tending and Maintaining

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0:00.0	My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.
0:20.0	Just to bring it out. This is what
0:22.1	compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black
0:30.2	Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma
0:35.0	and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.
0:39.5	Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow
0:45.1	in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lechay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.
0:52.8	Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.
0:56.8	I am so, so happy to be with you today.
1:01.4	Today, I am excited to share my full method that I use with all of my coaching clients
1:10.4	to help them break the cycles of love
1:12.8	addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation. If you follow me for any amount of time,
1:17.7	you've heard me talk about my coaching program, the love addiction recovery school, which I have
1:22.1	been teaching since 2000. I've gotten to recovery, 2016, I've been teaching basically this method since 2016, back when the program used to be called Learned to Thrive.
1:36.6	Then when I changed it to the recovery school, then briefly to from addicted and avoidant to available back to the recovery school because
1:45.4	that's what this program is for. To help you heal and recover from the traumas that cause these
1:51.4	intimacy disorders in your life and restore or create for the first time a deeply intimate
1:57.3	relationship with yourself that is then mirrored into your relationships outward.
2:01.6	Right. So that is what the Love Addiction Recovery School is about. And I created a method that I
2:07.2	take all my students through because this is what I've found to be best and most supportive.
2:13.4	For those of you who don't know, I am a therapist by trade transitioned into coaching full-time
2:18.8	several years ago pre-COVID because I saw that my coaching clients were getting quicker and faster
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