My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and grow

in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello. Welcome to Black Girls Heal. So today, I actually got a request from a listener for a topic.

Sometimes I send out list serves and I have polls for people to tell me what is it that you would like to hear coming up.

And so this request, have multiple different requests,

but she asked for me to talk about it being okay to not be okay.

And I'm assuming when it comes to the context for that was either based in our current times

or when it comes to showing up in relationships that maybe aren't showing up in the way that you

want them to or just like general dysphoria that may be happening with us. And when I read

the request, something in me kind of jumped and wanted to resist it. And if you have listened to

this podcast in any capacity, I think one of the

underlying ways that I've constantly validated everyone's experience is that what has happened to you,

what is going on with you, any pain or discomfort that you have is legitimate. It is valid. I encourage you

to feel it, process it so that you can get to the

other side of it. When to not let anybody gaslight you that you shouldn't be feeling that way

that it's not right for you to feel this way or all that stuff, right? So I've said that, and I believe

that. And for today, and for today's episode, for whatever reason, the message that I

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