#284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid as a Love Addict

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 March 2025

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality?

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts make when dating—mistakes that can keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles. Whether you're unknowingly romanticizing red flags, struggling to walk away from emotionally unavailable partners, or making dating your full-time job, this episode will help you break free from these patterns.

In this episode, we cover…

03:00 - Why falling in love with potential keeps you stuck
10:45 - The importance of trusting your instincts when red flags appear
17:30 - How making dating your hobby can lead to emotional burnout
24:15 - Breaking the cycle of fantasy-driven relationships
30:40 - Practical steps to build a fulfilling life outside of dating

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0:00.0	My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.
0:20.0	Just to bring it out. This is what
0:22.1	compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black
0:30.2	Girl's Hill podcast, where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma
0:35.0	and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.
0:39.5	Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow
0:45.1	in your self-worth. I'm Sheena Lechay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.
0:51.7	Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.
0:55.8	I am so happy to be with you today on this beautiful, beautiful Tuesday at the time
1:01.7	you're recording this or the time you're hearing this.
1:04.4	Today's episode is going to be interesting just because I'm recording this at 5 a.m.
1:09.6	Because I did not have any time to record it on my
1:12.6	normal recording day. And I have to get this out to my editor by the end of today. But today I have
1:20.2	a dance conference that I'm going to. For those of you who don't know, I love to swing dance. I love to
1:27.0	Lindy Hop. And there is a big
1:29.2	conference here in town. And I got to get there early for registration and auditions and all that
1:34.4	stuff. So here we are. Even though I'm a morning person, I'm still kind of waking up. So
1:40.9	it might sound a little bit groggy and a little bit more congested. I'm a little bit more
1:47.1	congested in the morning, especially during allergy season. So y'all don't care.
1:52.1	Today's episode, we are talking about three mistakes love addicts make when they are dating.
1:58.1	We're going to help you avoid some of your common pitfalls to make sure that
2:02.5	you choose partners that are not repeating your trauma, that you don't end up in situations with,
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