#305: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 12 August 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.

Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose.

This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift.

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0:00.0	My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.
0:20.0	Just to bring it out. This is what
0:22.1	compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black
0:30.2	Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma
0:35.0	and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.
0:39.5	Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and
0:44.8	grow in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist.
0:50.0	Let's begin.
0:53.5	Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.
0:58.2	So, this is very interesting because, as you may know, we are going through friendships
1:04.1	right now.
1:05.0	What is going to be the last episode of our series is going to be the last episode of the
1:10.3	series, the last series of the series before It's going to be the last episode of the series, the last series of
1:11.7	the series before we go back to live record a podcast or a different format. You'll be sure to hear
1:18.4	what that's going to be shortly if I haven't shared it already. But this was not going to be
1:24.0	the last episode. I plan to share three more episodes. So it would have been six,
1:30.9	six episodes for us to revisit and looking at friendships. However, however, however, as I sit here
1:37.0	recording this intro, I feel like it is time for this to close and come to an end. And not only just for time's sake, but I also think
1:48.0	because all of these topics are, I don't want to say, I think they all overlap in very,
1:54.8	they're very similar in a lot of ways, different ways to talk about the problem and coming at it.
1:59.9	But yeah, I don't want to overwhelm us
2:03.1	with focusing on the negativity of something versus it actually being productive. So here's what I'm
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