My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and

grow in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist.

Let's begin.

Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Hill.

I'm overjoyed to be with you today.

Today, y'all, is episode two in the Navigating Love Avoidance series where we are

understanding how love avoidance behaviors affects our life and how to learn strategy to build

healthier connections. And so last week we looked at going from being love avoidance to love

available. That is the balanced way. That is the open way we want to show up in this world.

But in the meantime and in between time, we are still learning. We're still growing.

In fact, the relationships that we are in, for better or for worse, they actually help us

become this healed version of ourselves.

There's no such thing.

Have you been with me for a while?

You have heard me say, I don't believe in this concept that you have to earn your

way to have love, you know?

So we're not doing any of this stuff

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