My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then

others. Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns

and grow in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist.

Let's begin. Hello, hello, welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal. Today we are talking

about childhood emotional neglect in the birth order specifically for those of us who are middle

children, middle daughters in the family system. So this is part of a series. We were going over

each of the birth orders. I did oldest daughters last week. Today we're

doing middle daughters. Next week we'll be doing the youngest daughters or the babies of the family.

And I gave this intro in the previous episode, but just really quickly right here, the reason

why we're going over childhood emotional neglect is because it is the common denominator that I've

seen across the board with all of my clients who have a pattern of love addiction, which is the

persistent obsession of a person, a relationship, or the fantasy of who that person or relationship could be

and mistaking it for love. And because they do that, they get into relationships, trauma-bonded connections, overattachments

to people that end up being dangerous for them, whether or not it is physically, mentally,

emotionally, spiritually, sexually, financially, it is hard for them to break the patterns. They may

self-abandon. They may lose themselves and forget themselves. and this doesn't matter if she is a boss

in the C-suite. It doesn't matter if she, as the boundary enforcer in every other area of her life,

there are certain relationships that this is really hard for her, and she can't figure out why.

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