My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and grow

in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello.

So you've done the work.

You have opened up your heart.

You've done the trauma healing work.

You've worked on your boundaries, worked on your standards, and you are now in a relationship

with someone who is meeting everything on your list, your wildest dreams, the things that

you prayed for, and actually things that you actually stopped praying for because maybe you learned how to find some fulfillment

within yourself and you were able to right size relationships in your heart, whatever the story,

whatever the case you have found your person. So that means that the work stops, right?

No, the work doesn't stop. But the good news is that the work in this stage

is about learning how to receive more, is about learning how when you are with a person who has

all the green flags, the person that is safe, the person that you can have secure love with,

is about you learning that this stage gets to be easy as long as you

allow it to be easy and the moments that are not easy that you allow your partner that you

have chosen to connect to and to share your life with that you allow them to help you as well.

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