#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands)
Black Girls Heal
Shena Lashey
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 6 May 2025
⏱️ 44 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.
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| 0:00.0 | My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there. |
| 0:20.0 | Just to bring it out. This is what |
| 0:22.1 | compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black |
| 0:30.2 | Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma |
| 0:35.0 | and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others. |
| 0:39.5 | Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and grow |
| 0:45.1 | in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin. |
| 0:53.7 | Hello, hello. Welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal. I am super excited about today's |
| 1:02.1 | episode. We are episode four in our love addiction series looking at some of our favorite episodes. |
| 1:09.7 | We have over 300. So for every series, there may be some that you favorite episodes, we have over 300. |
| 1:14.2 | So for every series, there may be some that you're like, |
| 1:15.8 | this should be the episode in there. |
| 1:21.0 | It might not be because we are not going to recap all of our episodes, |
| 1:24.6 | just some of the ones that I know for sure were a favorite, |
| 1:30.3 | and this is one of them, maybe two years ago. ago no three years ago because it is what launched me into needing and wanting to write the no contact book i had an episode called |
| 1:37.5 | don't text them sit on your effing hands and that is the title for today because we need to work on not just getting it out. |
| 1:48.0 | You know, I hear so many variations of people who maintain contact with people who are toxic |
| 1:53.0 | and unavailable for them, who have shown that they have no ability to show in the way that they |
| 2:00.1 | want, and they have no remorse. You know, sometimes the |
| 2:03.4 | text is a reach out because you want to connect with them and you want to just understand how |
| 2:08.0 | could you treat me this way? How could you forget about us? How could you be so cold? You just |
| 2:12.5 | want to have a last and final word. You want to tell them about themselves. You may want to stand up for yourself, |
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