#270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 26 November 2024

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.

Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose.

This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift.

In this episode, we cover…

03:14 Why temporary friendship exists
04:11 Four signs of temporary friendships
18:16 The complexity of building friendships
34:26 How to navigate transitional friendships
36:57 The importance of clear communication in friendships
44:59 Why you should still embrace temporary friendships
46:17 Upcoming book releases

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Grab copies of my books, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts and No Contact Support Book
Listen to Episode 263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict
Listen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No Contact
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0:00.0	My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.
0:20.0	Just to bring it out. This is what
0:22.1	compels me to compel them, and I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black
0:30.2	Girls Hill podcast, where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma
0:35.1	and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.
0:39.6	Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow
0:45.1	in your self-worth. I'm Sheena LaShea, Love Edition Coach and Trauma Specialist. Let's begin.
0:53.4	Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.
0:56.8	I'm so excited to be with you today in today's episode.
1:01.2	Today, we are going to be talking about four different determinants, four different ways to determine or tell if the friendship that you either currently have or want to have or are currently building
1:14.6	might be a temporary shift. And I think this is really important because on this podcast, we talk a lot about building healthy relationships and how to tell when someone is good for us and when
1:28.0	someone is not. One of the terms that I talk about a lot here is availability. And in fact,
1:33.4	this episode is also inspired by the fact that the book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts,
1:38.6	written by me, Sheena Lysay, will be coming out within the next couple of weeks. I'm so excited
1:43.6	to get this into your
1:44.9	hands. It is a literal guide for you to be able to determine who are the people who are healthy
1:51.6	and safe and are the right people that you can trust and connect with and who are not. And there's
1:58.0	20 qualifiers of availability and 20 qualifiers of unavailability and you will
2:02.3	literally be able to check these things off along with detail explanations around each of these
2:07.3	qualifiers and how they affect you and what to look out for in special circumstances and all of
2:12.1	that. And as I'm getting prepared to publish this book, like I said, we talk a lot about
2:16.7	romantic partnerships here on this podcast, what I said, we talk a lot about romantic partnerships
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