My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and grow

in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello.

Welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.

I'm overjoyed to have you with me again today.

And I hope that you're being surrounded by relationships that deserve you.

And if not, that you are on your way there because you are worthy and you deserve to have

love and be loved. So we are in

episode three of our navigating love avoidance series where I'm pulling some of my favorite episodes

talking about the themes and the concepts of love avoidance. Now today's episode is probably going to

overlap a lot with last week's episode, but I really like

the ways that I taught some of these concepts in today's episode for us to make sure that we keep

our eyes open. So today's episode is about three hidden ways we ignore and encourage red flags

and others, ways that we may be enabling other people to not change,

to not show up for us in the way that we want,

so that we can know what to do instead.

So that is what we're going to talk about here.

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