My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to bring unhealthy patterns and grow

in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heal.

So we are starting a new series.

We are starting our love avoidance series.

So for those of you who don't know, we are recapping some of our favorite, favorite episodes,

the ones that I think everyone needs to know related to certain

topics that we talk about here. And today's episode is the first of our love avoidance

series is for those of us who will keep people at arm's length, even if we're sitting

around them, even if we're living with them, they only need to get to know so much about us and so much about

our hearts until we think that they are worthy to do so. But for many of us who struggle with

love avoidance, that day never comes. And so we may continue to feel a little bit isolated,

even when we're in relationships. And we may find because we're giving people who are healthy

for us a hard time,

that when we find the toxic people, we suddenly have a little bit more patience and grace only to end up getting hurt at the end.

So this is part of what we're working to break.

This is part of the cycle that we want to unlearn.

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