Self Care IRL

In this episode, you and I discuss how to actually be there for your strong friends. And not that surface level 'how are you?' text energy, but the genuine checking-in that your day-ones deserve. We're talking everything from how to celebrate their wins (even when they try to play them off), to respecting their space (without ghosting them), to making it okay for them to not have it all together (because baby, none of us do). Whether you're the friend everyone runs to with their drama, or you've got that friend who's everybody's backbone, this episode is for you. RESOURCES: Isn’t Christmas Every Day playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/33lxs5rfXbMLou9dH4Gz2B Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2024

In this episode, we're getting real about maintaining your peace during the most wonderful (and sometimes most chaotic) time of the year. If you're feeling overwhelmed by family expectations, missing loved ones, or trying to make everything Instagram-perfect while your bank account is giving you the side-eye, this episode is your holiday survival guide. From learning the power of saying "nah" to toxic situations, to protecting your coins from those twinkling store displays, we're covering ten practical strategies that'll help you actually enjoy the season. Consider this your guide to keeping your sanity, protecting your peace, and maybe even finding some joy in the chaos. RESOURCES: Isn’t Christmas Every Day playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/33lxs5rfXbMLou9dH4Gz2B Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 November 2024

In this episode, you and I will discuss what it really feels like to look "successful" on the outside while battling imposter syndrome and anxiety on the inside. Through vulnerable conversations and ten practical strategies, we'll explore how to manage the weight of success when your brain keeps telling you you're a fraud. This isn't another toxic positivity pep talk – it's real talk about mental health, success, and learning to trust your journey, even when you're not sure you deserve to be here. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 November 2024

Today, we're going to have a real conversation about breaking free from these patterns that our mothers and grandmothers before us struggled with too. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical ways to set boundaries without guilt, specific phrases to use when you need to say no (and mean it), and most importantly, permission to put yourself first. Because contrary to what society might have told us, your well-being is not up for negotiation. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2024

Today's episode is all about knowing when to fight for a friendship and when to love yourself enough to walk away. We're talking toxic dynamics, accountability (or the lack thereof), and how to know if your bestie is still your bestie or if they've become your frenemy. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2024

Friendship is a beautiful thing, but let’s be real—some friendships can be more work than others. We’ve all had those friends who need constant check-ins, and then there are the ones you don’t talk to for weeks (or months) and pick up right where you left off like no time has passed. Both types of friendships have their pros and cons, and understanding where they fall on the maintenance spectrum can save you a lot of headaches. Let’s dive into what makes a friendship high-maintenance versus low-maintenance, and how you can navigate both in a way that keeps your friendships thriving. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 October 2024

Today, you and I are going to discuss how to BEGIN to overcome unresolved trauma. Now I say begin because I recognize that (1) this isn't a one and done kinda of practice (2) with everything great and worthy you must at least just start. So this is the beginning for us. Now. This is a heavy topic, but I promise we will tackle it together. We might need to make this a series or even a live podcast with some special guests. Let me know on social media or in the reviews section. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 August 2024

We all know that emotions can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster, am I right? One moment you're on top of the world, and the next, you're down in the dumps. But don't worry, I've got your back. Today, we're diving into the topic of managing our emotions effectively. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2024

Ever find yourself just fuming inside, putting on that “I’m totally fine” mask for the world while internally you're about to combust? Yeah, I’ve been there too. It’s like this weird, toxic cocktail of simmering rage and pretending everything’s peachy keen. But let’s spill the tea: being silently pissed off is not the move. It’s actually super damaging to your mental health. So in this episode you and I are going to dive into why keeping all that anger bottled up is a big no-no. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2024

Life can be a whirlwind of responsibilities, expectations, and the constant push to keep moving forward. In the midst of it all, it's easy to forget the simple truths that can make our journey a bit lighter and our hearts a bit fuller. That's why we're here to remind you of a few things you might need to hear today. In today's episode I am giving you 15 cheeky, relatable messages to give you a little boost, a chuckle, and perhaps a moment of reflection. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 June 2024

We've all been there. You mess up, you apologize, and then… crickets. Or worse, outright rejection. It's like a punch to the gut. In today's episode you and I are going to discuss what to do when someone doesn't accept your apology and how to handle it with grace, dignity, and a sprinkle of self-love. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2024

Even though two children in the same household can have very different experiences of childhood, my brother is the only person who will ever understand what it was like to grow up in my parents' house. In this episode, I give you some insight on how I'm recommitting to a better relationship with my brother. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 June 2024

Someone on Twitter recently reminded me that I use to be on Beyonce’s Internet really writing. Time and tasks have me missing that part of me. But I actually read my own words on this blog post and I sobbed. I also took a few deep breaths of relief because I know I am not in this dark place anymore. I wrote this blog post about grief in 2014 but I felt like it deserved a new space to breathe. After you listen it let’s chat (hoping to find my people). RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2024

WOW! A hunnit episodes later and you are still here. Clap it up for yourselves while I take you down memory lane. This episode is our origin story (I rambled, sorry). Enjoy. Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2024

Manifesting is a larger umbrella term for a lot of aspects of making your goals a reality. So in today's episode you and I are gonna discuss how you can get better at manifesting your dreams and goals. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 April 2024

In today's episode, I am going to give you some suggestions on how we can reframe our sadness. Now all of these suggestions are under the assumption that you have already sat with the sadness, you have reconciled that you are sad, you have determined why you are sad, and you are now ready to reframe it. This absolutely does that mean that the minute that you begin to feel sadness rising that you "quote unquote" reframe it. Because now, that is avoidance and we're not doing that. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 March 2024

I watched the two part docuseries, Where Is Wendy Williams? and I am honestly a bit floored. Which is why it's now two weeks later and I am just gathering my thoughts. It was not what I expected. I was geeked to see Wendy cut up in the ways only she can. Messy, cheeky, and semi rude. But instead we got a raw, unfiltered, and highly vulnerable depiction of the media legend. In this episode I unpack some of the lessons I learned from watching, Where Is Wendy Williams? . RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 March 2024

In today's episode I am going to tell you a quick story of what lead me to a 30 day break and then I'm going to give you/me some guidance on how to navigate your relationship with the toxic parent. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 February 2024

In today's episode you and I going to dive into how to handle this with the grace. From setting boundaries to understanding when to take a step back, I’ve got you covered. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 January 2024

To celebrate the end of 2023 this episode is back to back gem-worthy memes (remixed of course). You might wanna grab a journal and pen to take notes. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 December 2023

Are you tiptoeing around the edge of your comfort zone, itching for a splash of excitement? In today's episode you and I are going to discuss a few reasons why you gotta start trying new things. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 December 2023

In today's episode, I'm giving you my 7 Pieces of Advice That Will Change Your Mentality. This is going to be like your secret roadmap that leads to an incredible treasure, but here's the twist – the treasure is a you being a more happier, more bomb version of you. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 December 2023

Today you and I are tackling a topic that's super trendy on Beyonce's Internet and often flies under the emotional radars. Toxic Positivity. I know. And I can almost hear you from here, saying, "Hold up, positivity is toxic? Sometimes, yes. Stick with me, because this is a game-changer in how we support ourselves and our tribe! RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal All the ways you can support someone without giving suggestions - https://tyalexander.co/podcast/all-the-ways-you-can-support-someone-without-giving-suggestions 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 November 2023

In today's episode, we're diving into the often overlooked red flags in friendships. We'll explore everything from one-sided efforts to disrespect of boundaries, helping you recognize and address the subtle yet significant signs that may indicate it's time to reassess your relationships. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow us: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 November 2023

In this week's episode I tell you the story of how I manifested being a guest DJ on The Estelle Show on Apple Music. Of course I also give you a few tips on how you can start manifesting them wild dreams of yours. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2023

In my next book I’m teaching you how to choose gratitude over grief. There are lots of ways that you can do this but because I love you I'm gonna give you 3 tried and true top tier things that you need to start incorporating into your wellness work today. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 October 2023

NYFW came and went but these lessons are here to stay. In this week's episode I'm sharing 3 life lessons I've learned from deejaying. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 September 2023

Having a high level of emotional intelligence can help you navigate the ups and downs of life more effectively. And I promise you when you spend more time developing your emotional intelligence you will improve your relationships. It will boost your overall well-being. In today's episode, you and I chat about some techniques that will unlock the true power of your emotional intelligence. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge Episode 11: How to Set Clear MFing Boundaries https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/11-how-to-set-clear-mfing-boundaries/id1448342346?i=1000455137232 https://open.spotify.com/episode/5uJEhDFBEDHJvRq7bLQWQJ CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 September 2023

This episode is filled with a bunch of gems I tell myself daily. You might wanna grab a journal and pen to take notes. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2023

Supporting someone doesn't always mean providing solutions or suggestions. In this week's episode you and I discuss 8 ways you can support someone without giving suggestions. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge Emotional Support Cheatsheet - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/emotional-support-cheat-sheet CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2023

In today's episode you and I are going to discuss some things we need to do to move forward. Nine to be exact. Before we get into though I wanna remind you (and me) to be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Learn the lesson as many times as you need to. Also. Today's episode is just as much for me as it may be for you. So excuse the somber tone as I am clutching for happiness and joy. As I like to remind you I am on this journey with you. We side by side. We gone learn it together fren! RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge Emotional Support Cheatsheet - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/emotional-support-cheat-sheet CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 July 2023

In today's episode, I'll be sharing some general tips and insights to help you navigate this challenging time, but please remember to trust your own instincts and do what feels right for you and your loved ones. RESOURCES: Emotional Support Cheatsheet Downloadable Self-Care Guides 5 Day Gratitude Challenge CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG Follow Ty Alexander on IG Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 June 2023

In today's episode you and I are going to dive deep into the world of anxiety and we going to explore the signs and symptoms. We'll also uncover the hidden triggers that set anxiety into fast motion. And I am going to do my best to equip you with a stockpile of self-help techniques and coping strategies that will serve you on your journey to building better wellness experiences. RESOURCES: Episode 48 - How To Journal Consistently To Fight Off Negative Thoughts & Anxiety Episode 11 - How to Set Clear MFing Boundaries Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 May 2023

In this episode you and I are going to discuss how to live a softer life. It's time for us to take a step back from this chaos we call life and focus a lot more on what truly matters – us! We are going to create a life that feels more calm, centered, and balanced, no matter what challenges may come our way. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2023

In this episode you and I are going to take a dive deep into our relationships with our parents and the impact they've had on our lives. Sometimes, despite their best efforts, our parents' actions and decisions just didn't cut it. I'm going to share 15 emotionally intelligent solutions to help you heal and move forward. Even if your parent isn't a willing participant. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge Emotional Support Cheatsheet - https://tyalx.com/emotional-support-cheatsheet CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Pranamat: https://pranamat.com/af/gzxnvwgx?coupon=tyalexander Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2023

Today, we're going to talk about one of the most powerful tools in your self-care toolkit - the power of saying no. Many of us struggle with saying no, whether it's because we're afraid of hurting someone's feelings or because we feel like we have to say yes to everything So in today's episode, we'll explore 10 ways to say no politely and respectfully, with a focus on mindfulness, optimism, and personal growth. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 April 2023

I got another DM this morning and since I had no clue of what you and I were gonna chat about today I figured why not. In this episode you and I are going to discuss 10 ways to achieve a very realistic and tangible work-life balance that you can actually sustain. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 March 2023

In today's episode you and I are going to discuss 10 ways you can build your friendship circle from scratch. Now, we all know how important it is to have a solid group of homies in our lives. So whether you are struggling to find your click in high school, or you're new in town, perhaps you are just starting college, or simply looking to expand your social circle, then this episode is for you. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 March 2023

In this week's episode you and I are going to discuss some practical and effective ways to tell your friends the truth, no matter how difficult it may seem. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 February 2023

In this week's episode I share a reader's DM to me. I talk a lot about grief but today I want you to hear how it sounds. But more importantly I want you to listen in to know that you are not alone. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 February 2023

In this week's episode you and I are going discuss (in no particular order) ways that we can really slow this year down to get to most out of it and not feel a consistent burden of "OMG I am forever behind!". RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge Listen to my mixtape here - https://tyalx.com/mixtape-vol1 CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 February 2023

The folks asked for a guided meditation (you say you like my voice). So here is my second mediation. Be sure to leave and comment and share if you loved it. This one will help you find your mental safe space. Maybe there will be more?! RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 December 2022

I hope you've managed to curate your little space with people who you can learn from or folks that make you laugh or bring you joy. One of my favorite people to follow is Dr Nicole LePera. Her handle is the.holistic.psychologist on IG. She talks a lot about healing and gives examples of language for a lot of the common but taboo emotional things that we deal with daily. Recently she made a meme about respect and I found it to be so simple but profound so I wanted to expand on it. So in today's episode we are going to discuss 8 acts of self respect to start your new year. RESOURCES: Dr Nicole's original post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CljDMXprlQ3/?igshid=NTdlMDg3MTY%3D Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 December 2022

The folks asked for a guided meditation (you say you like my voice). So here is my first mediation. Be sure to leave and comment and share if you loved it. This one will help you find gratitude. Maybe there will be more?! RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 November 2022

In today's episode I give 3 gems necessary to cope with a terminally ill parent (in a healthy way). RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 November 2022

In today's episode, I chat about a quick method I saw circulating on Beyonce's internet on how to start small to improve yourself. And even added few steps because... improvement. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 November 2022

Today's episode is a bit different from the norm. I am unpacking my emotions after binging the Netflix series, From Scratch. This might be the emotional vomit we all needed. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 November 2022

In today's episode you and I are going to discuss 8 ways we can stop our overthinking dead in its tracks. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 November 2022

In today's episode, you and I are going to discuss what current habits should you break, like right now, if you truly want to be better, for tomorrow. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 October 2022

In this episode you and and I are going to discuss things that we can do to manage and maneuver around seasonal depression. RESOURCES: Downloadable Self-Care Guides - https://tyalx.com/downloads 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge CONNECT WITH US: Join our exclusive membership community on Patreon and receive daily pep talks, downloadable monthly self care guides, ad free podcasts, exclusive soul dump audio, guided meditations and more https://tyalx.com/patreon. Follow Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Follow Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 October 2022