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The Angry Therapist Podcast

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.61.1K Ratings

Overview

Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me. Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.

1042 Episodes

Stop Guessing Their Love: Say What Lands

A 30-second, playful moment sparked this episode - and a reminder: love isn’t generic. We break down how to speak love so it lands without abandoning yourself, especially when partners differ. What you’ll learn (10 takeaways): Love isn’t generic - different emotional blueprints How to avoid the “I’m giving everything, it’s still not enough” trap Building emotional safety so defenses drop Reducing resentment & energy burnout Deepening intimacy beyond the physical Faster conflict repair by making the nervous system feel safe Future-proofing with regular “What makes you feel most loved?” check-ins Co-regulation: why the right love calms insecure attachment Turning micro-moments into daily bonding rituals Why guessing breaks trust (love is a skill) Try this today: Ask your partner, “What lands for you this week?” Then do one unexpected gesture in their way of receiving love (a short note, a quick chore, five phone-free minutes together, a gentle touch, a tiny gift). If this helped, hit subscribe for practical, no-fluff relationship tools.Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 August 2025

From Nauseous Nights to Perfect Mornings | Life in Costa Rica

In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim takes you inside his personal journey of building a new life in Costa Rica - the highs, the lows, and the unexpected lessons about presence, clarity, and decision-making. From nausea-inducing dirt roads to perfect mornings surfing in Costa Rica, John unpacks how life-changing decisions aren’t made in one big moment… but in a collection of small ones. You’ll learn: Why clarity about life, love, and career comes from moments, not constant certainty How to notice and “bank” the moments that matter when deciding whether to move abroad, who to love, or what path to take The challenges of living in Costa Rica - from unpaved roads to missing city comforts and the surprising joys that outweigh them How being present is the only way to truly capture moments (and how most of us miss them) Why life’s “yes” often comes from an accumulation of tiny affirmations rather than a single sign Join the conversation! What moments have shaped your biggest life decisions? Have you noticed when your “piggy bank” of yeses finally tipped the scale? Share your story with us. Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations about expat life, self-discovery, and building a life that actually feels like yours. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 August 2025

Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | The Truth About Breakups

In today’s episode, John Kim answers raw, unfiltered listener questions on the theme of breakups and divorce — the things you’d never dare ask your therapist. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2025

Loving Without Losing Me: Healing the Mother Wound

In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim gets personal about the mother wound - how it quietly shapes our self-worth, love life, and sense of safety. From a surprising MDMA journey insight to stories about his Korean-American upbringing, John unpacks what it’s like to grow up without emotional warmth from mom - and how this absence leaves lasting imprints on both men and women. You’ll learn: Why the mother wound isn’t just a “women’s issue” How emotional absence can be just as impactful as physical absence The different ways the mother wound shows up in men (approval seeking, caretaking confusion, fear of intimacy) and women (perfectionism, chronic self-doubt, boundary struggles) How it fuels unhealthy patterns like codependency, attachment insecurity, and emotional projection Practical steps for healing: naming the wound without blame, reparenting yourself, rewriting old relationship scripts, and doing inner child work Join the conversation! Have you noticed the mother wound in your own relationships or self-image? What has helped you start to heal? Share your story with us. Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations about love, identity, and the work of healing yourself from the inside out. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 August 2025

The Lie We Tell Men About Strength

In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks the father wound - how it silently shapes our self-worth, relationships, and ideas of masculinity. Through raw personal stories and practical, street-level insights, he explores what it means to grow up with a “ghost father” and how both men and women can begin to heal. You’ll learn:  Why the father wound exists even if your dad was “there” How it shows up differently for men and women Why emotional absence can leave deeper scars than physical absence How it becomes a blueprint for love, power, and identity Practical ways to reparent yourself and break the cycle Join the conversation! Do you think you have a father wound? How has it shown up in your relationships or self-image? Share your story with us. Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations on relationships, self-worth, and the work of healing. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 August 2025

Two Therapists in Bed Talk Breakups, Healing, and OnlyFans

In this episode, licensed therapists John Kim and Vanessa Bennett dive deep into healing, heartbreak, attachment styles, and codependency - all from the comfort of their bed. With real-life stories, practical insights, and the lens of depth psychology, they unpack what it really means to "heal" and why the journey is anything but linear. You’ll learn: Why “healed” is a myth - and what healing actually looks like How depth psychology helps us make meaning from pain Why breakups hurt even when you’re the one who ends it The difference between codependency and true connection How to stop chasing love and start living your own life Join the conversation! Have you struggled with anxious attachment or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions? What does healing mean to you? Drop a comment and share your take. Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations on relationships, soul work, and the human experience. Resources & Links: Learn more about Vanessa HERE Vanessa’s Inner Compass Academy HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 August 2025

Love Doesn’t Kill Jealousy - It Listens to It

In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks jealousy through raw personal stories and powerful insights. He dives into the emotional roots of jealousy, including insecurity, fear of abandonment, and core wounds — and offers real, practical tools to navigate it with compassion and clarity.  You’ll learn: How jealousy actually protects us (until it doesn’t) The difference between healthy and toxic jealousy Why core wounds trigger jealousy more than reality does How to build trust and “jealousy-safe” relationships Join the conversation! Share your thoughts or experiences with jealousy in the comments below. How do you handle jealousy in your relationships? If you found value in this episode, follow the show and share it with someone who needs to hear this. For more insights on relationships, self-growth, and mental health, don’t miss upcoming episodes. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

My F*cking Feelings: An "Unproductive" Day

Today, John shares a personal take on creativity, productivity, and the pressures they carry. He explores how AI is reshaping the creative process, the quiet power of everyday moments, and why it's worth challenging traditional ideas of success. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 July 2025

You're Not Too Much — They Just Weren't Equipped

Today, John unpacks how childhood experiences shape our ability to express emotions and why traits often seen as flaws can actually be powerful strengths. He also highlights the importance of reframing our emotional narratives, building a strong support system, and embracing the messy—but meaningful—journey toward authenticity. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Why We Keep Chasing the Same Kind of Love

Today, John unpacks the complex layers of attraction, emotional wiring, and how our childhood shapes the way we love as adults. He dives into the connection between self-worth and the partners we choose, and why so many of us find ourselves settling—in both relationships and careers. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 July 2025

One Month in Costa Rica: The Good, the Bad, and Could This Be Our New Home?

Today, John reflects on his first month living in Costa Rica—what's surprised him, what’s challenged him, and what’s changed him. He opens up about the warmth of the people, unexpected joy of slowing down, highs, lows, and lessons of this major lifestyle shift. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

I Feel Lost. What's the First Step to Changing My Life?

Today, John explores the idea of rebirth and redefining happiness. He emphasizes the importance of pulling from personal truth, recognizing when you're in survival mode, and taking actionable steps towards authenticity and fulfillment. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 July 2025

The Race Was Never Real: Notes on Slowing Down Without Falling Behind

Today, John discusses the importance of embracing change, practicing mindfulness through surfing, and the significance of detachment from societal pressures. He also reflects on redefining success, finding joy in simplicity, and experiencing life in vibrant color. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

Nightcap, Costa Rica Edition: Burning Down Old Blueprints & Redefining Happy

Today, John reflects on the rapid changes in his life, the cultural adjustments he faces, and the importance of community and authentic relationships. He discusses the shedding of old blueprints and the creation of a new life that feels more honest and fulfilling. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2025

Morning Coffee in the Jungle: Day in the Life & New Mindset Change

Today, John discusses the significance of family, the creative process of documenting life, and the concept of life as an act break. Throughout, he emphasizes the value of intentional living and how it shapes daily routines and interactions. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

How Life Transitions Impact Relationships.

Today, John and Vanessa discuss their experiences and challenges after moving to Costa Rica. They explore themes of cultural adjustment, language barriers, relationship dynamics, community connection, and the impact of motherhood on their lives. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠⁠⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about Vanessa: HERE Order Vanessa's new book, The Motherhood Myth, HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ HERE⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠HERE⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠ HERE⁠ Find out more about John⁠ HERE⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 July 2025

Costa Rica: Week One

Today, John discusses the challenges and joys of relocating, the importance of community, and the lifestyle changes that come with living in a new country. He reflects on the beauty of the beach life, the culinary delights of Costa Rican food, and the fears he faces about the future. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠⁠⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ HERE⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠HERE⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠ HERE⁠ Find out more about John⁠ HERE⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 July 2025

The Myth of ‘The One’: Why Soulmates Are Built, Not Found

Today, John unpacks the modern myth of the soulmate — and flips it on its head. Instead of chasing “the one,” he invites us to rethink soulmates as built, not found— and explores how true connection comes not from perfection, but from shared growth, challenges, and the courage to repair after rupture. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

RE-RELEASE: Resting B*tch Face

Today, John talks about the transformative power of honesty. Reflecting on past relationships and personal beliefs, he explores the courage it takes to confront self-deception and encourages listeners to examine where they may be out of alignment. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 June 2025

Night Cap. Ramblings and Revelations (First One Since the Fire)

Today, John opens up about letting go of his former life and embracing new possibilities, including a bold move to Costa Rica. He shares insights on personal evolution, the changing landscape of entertainment in the digital age, and redefines love as a state of being. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. ⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 June 2025

You Don’t Need a Perfect Life. You Just Need This

Today, John redefines happiness — not as a far-off destination, but as a daily practice rooted in intention. He unpacks the myth of “arrival,” urging us to stop waiting for external circumstances to shift and instead cultivate joy from within. Single On Purpose School starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself and build a life you love — on your terms. SIGN UP HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025

What is Healthy & Unhealthy Love?

Today, John explores the difference between healthy and unhealthy love — what each looks like, how they show up, and why the distinction matters. He unpacks the power of repair in relationships and how conscious effort is key to cultivating connection. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 June 2025

Finding Joy After Fundamentalism with Heather McGinley

Today, John speaks with Heather McGinley about the complexities of her relationship with her father, the weight of growing up in a large, tightly controlled family, and the delayed realizations of trauma that surfaced later in life. Heather shares how becoming a mother reshaped her understanding of consent, boundaries, and forgiveness — and how the isolation of the pandemic forced her to confront rock bottom. Listen to The Happily Never After podcast on Apple or Spotify Follow Heather on Instagram at @thatheathermcg More about Heather HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 June 2025

Your 5 Most Asked Questions Answered

Today, John answers five of the most common questions about relationships and emotional well-being, from daily reminders for self-healing to why we attract emotionally unavailable partners, the difference between love and attachment, and how to spot settling. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

After the Fire Series: My Last Day in LA

Today, John opens up about the emotional complexity of leaving Los Angeles for a new chapter in Costa Rica. He delves into the ideas of the "remembering self" and the "experiencing self," revealing how our memories often shape — and sometimes distort — the way we make decisions. I'm running a 7-Day "Done with the Bullsh*t" Detox  — this isn't the kind with green juice and caffeine withdrawals. It's a soul-level cleanse. Here’s what you’ll detox each day: Day 1: Cancel old contracts — the silent agreements you never meant to make. Day 2: Break up with people-pleasing and reclaim your no. Day 3: Unfollow the fantasy and stop chasing someone else’s timeline. Day 4: Mute your inner critic and replace it with compassion. Day 5: Cut out comparison and come back to your own path. Day 6: Starve the reflex to fix everything — choose stillness instead. Day 7: Fast from the noise and finally hear yourself again. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you’ve always been. This challenge is only $7 and starts June 16th. ⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ HERE⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠HERE⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠ HERE⁠ Find out more about John⁠ HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2025

How Micromanaging Your Relationship Is Pushing Your Partner Away

Today, John explores how love often uncovers unresolved wounds, revealing the deeper work still to be done. He emphasizes the value of peace in a relationship over the illusion of control, and champions vulnerability and trust as the cornerstones of a lasting connection. I'm running a 7-Day "Done with the Bullsh*t" Detox  — this isn't the kind with green juice and caffeine withdrawals. It's a soul-level cleanse. Here’s what you’ll detox each day: Day 1: Cancel old contracts — the silent agreements you never meant to make. Day 2: Break up with people-pleasing and reclaim your no. Day 3: Unfollow the fantasy and stop chasing someone else’s timeline. Day 4: Mute your inner critic and replace it with compassion. Day 5: Cut out comparison and come back to your own path. Day 6: Starve the reflex to fix everything — choose stillness instead. Day 7: Fast from the noise and finally hear yourself again. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you’ve always been. This challenge is only $7 and starts June 16th. ⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 June 2025

Rewiring the Nervous System for a Calm Life in a Chaotic World

Today, John explores the vital role the nervous system plays in shaping our emotional health, relationships, and everyday experiences. He touches on how childhood experiences influence adult behavior, and practical techniques for nervous system regulation that foster healing and connection. I'm running a 7-Day "Done with the Bullsh*t" Detox  — this isn't the kind with green juice and caffeine withdrawals. It's a soul-level cleanse. Here’s what you’ll detox each day: Day 1: Cancel old contracts — the silent agreements you never meant to make. Day 2: Break up with people-pleasing and reclaim your no. Day 3: Unfollow the fantasy and stop chasing someone else’s timeline. Day 4: Mute your inner critic and replace it with compassion. Day 5: Cut out comparison and come back to your own path. Day 6: Starve the reflex to fix everything — choose stillness instead. Day 7: Fast from the noise and finally hear yourself again. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you’ve always been. This challenge is only $7 and starts June 16th. ⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Nothing NEEDS to Happen

Today, John shares his revelation that 'nothing needs to happen' for happiness, and the shift from merely existing to truly living. Through anecdotes and reflections, he encourages listeners to embrace laughter, practice mindfulness, and engage with their community. I'm running a 7-Day "Done with the Bullsh*t" Detox  — this isn't the kind with green juice and caffeine withdrawals. It's a soul-level cleanse. Here’s what you’ll detox each day: Day 1: Cancel old contracts — the silent agreements you never meant to make. Day 2: Break up with people-pleasing and reclaim your no. Day 3: Unfollow the fantasy and stop chasing someone else’s timeline. Day 4: Mute your inner critic and replace it with compassion. Day 5: Cut out comparison and come back to your own path. Day 6: Starve the reflex to fix everything — choose stillness instead. Day 7: Fast from the noise and finally hear yourself again. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you’ve always been. This challenge is only $7 and starts June 16th. SIGN UP HERE. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 June 2025

3 Non Negotiables Everyone Should Have

Today, John explores the power of identifying and honoring your personal non-negotiables. He highlights the importance of emotional congruence, setting clear boundaries, and shifting out of survival mode to create space for growth. I'm running a 7-Day "Done with the Bullsh*t" Detox  — this isn't the kind with green juice and caffeine withdrawals. It's a soul-level cleanse. Here’s what you’ll detox each day: Day 1: Cancel old contracts — the silent agreements you never meant to make. Day 2: Break up with people-pleasing and reclaim your no. Day 3: Unfollow the fantasy and stop chasing someone else’s timeline. Day 4: Mute your inner critic and replace it with compassion. Day 5: Cut out comparison and come back to your own path. Day 6: Starve the reflex to fix everything — choose stillness instead. Day 7: Fast from the noise and finally hear yourself again. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you’ve always been. This challenge is only $7 and starts June 16th. ⁠⁠SIGN UP HERE⁠⁠. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 June 2025

The NFL -> Addictions - > Awakening with “The Dude” Eben Britton

Today, John speaks with Eben Britton about life after the NFL- his struggles with addiction, mental health, and past trauma- and how plant medicine, fatherhood, and mindfulness helped him heal. They explore the weight of shame, the myth of quick fixes, and the power of presence, honesty, and authentic connection. Follow Eben HERE Find out more about Eben HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

Love is the Ghost That Won't Leave You Alone

Today, John explores love not just as a feeling, but as a conscious choice—one that requires vulnerability, discomfort, deep commitment, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 May 2025

Channeling Something Greater with Madison Vandereb

Today, John sits down with Madison Vandereb to explore the transformative role of plant medicine in personal growth, healing, and spiritual awakening. They discuss the power of intuition, the challenge of staying grounded through expansive spiritual experiences, the importance of integration, and how aligning the heart and mind can lead to more meaningful work. Follow Madison on TikTok HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2025

How Trauma Responses Shape Us as Adults

Today, John and Vanessa unpack the lesser-known 'fawn' trauma response and how it often shapes adult relationships through people-pleasing and self-abandonment. They emphasizes the transformative power of setting boundaries, reclaiming one’s voice, and embodiment (the practice of reconnecting with the body to better understand our needs, emotions, and desires). Find out more about Vanessa ⁠HERE⁠ Follow Vanessa on Instagram ⁠HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

Love We're Too Scared To Claim

Today, John unpacks the concept of unpossessive love — a love rooted in freedom, presence, and gratitude rather than control. He invites listeners to reconsider what it means to truly love someone, and how letting go can sometimes be the most loving act of all. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 May 2025

The Shame Men Carry From Childhood Sexual Experiences

Today, John opens up about authenticity, vulnerability, and why men need real conversations. From childhood wounds to mental health, he dives into the power of sharing your story—and breaking the silence. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2025

You're Not Lost. You're Just Not Here (How Practicing Presence Rewires Your Life)

Today, John explores how being fully present can reshape the way we experience life. He reflects on the power of awareness, self-acceptance, the role our thoughts play in shaping reality, and how to deepen connections. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

The New Epidemic - She’s Touched Out. He Wants More Sex

Today, John and Vanessa explore how intimacy, connection, and personal growth evolve in modern relationships. They discuss celibacy as a tool for self-discovery, shifting love languages, the balance between creativity and emotional needs, codependency, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Find out more about Vanessa HERE Follow Vanessa on Instagram HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 May 2025

What If You Left a Relationship and Aren’t Sure It Was the Right Decision?

Today, John unpacks the emotional weight of breakups — the doubt, the grief, and the loss of an imagined future. He explores the importance of self-reflection, emotional awareness, grieving with intention, and distinguishing between true longing and mere loneliness. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2025

Why I’m Not Having Sex For 30 Days

Today, John talks about being in the midst of a 30-day celibacy journey, exploring what it means to redirect sexual energy and embrace intentional living. He reflects on balancing masculine and feminine energies, deepening self-awareness, and the spiritual growth emerging from this bold experiment in self-discovery. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

My Dick Journey

Today, John gets real about body image, masculinity, and self-love. From battling body dysmorphia to breaking cultural norms, he shares raw insights, hard truths, and how vulnerability led to healing. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2025

The Misconception of Emotional Suppression (a.k.a. The Soda Can Effect)

Today, John debunks the myth of emotional suppression—aka the "soda can effect"—revealing that holding in emotions leads to burnout, not strength. Through personal insights and practical tips, he promotes healthy emotional expression as key to self-care, strong relationships, and a balanced life. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2025

How MDMA Continues to Rewire My Soul

Today, John shares how an MDMA experience transformed his outlook on life, love, and personal growth. He reflects on living more presently, setting boundaries, finding deeper connection through everyday joys, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Why We Chase the Wrong People and How to Stop

Today, John explores why people are drawn to unhealthy relationships and how to break the cycle. He emphasizes the role of upbringing, the importance of self-awareness, the need for a corrective love experience to build healthier connections, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 May 2025

The Intersection of Life Changes

Today, John unpacks the pivotal moments that reshaped his life — from a house fire and turning 52, to a powerful medicine journey. He shares how these events sparked a deeper commitment to honesty and emphasizes the value of auditing your commitments, embracing discomfort, and choosing change as a gateway to a more meaningful life. I'm running a private, intimate weekend retreat May 23 weekend in Idywilld California. A small group medicine journey. No big productions, no ego. Just realignment. Self-love. Shedding what no longer fits. You don’t need to hit rock bottom to evolve. Seats are very limited. Find out more HERE or email John at [email protected] Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2025

My First True Medicine (MDMA) Journey

Today, John opens up about his healing journey through an MDMA-assisted medicine ceremony. He shares raw reflections on shedding past identities, facing repressed emotions, and the intentional path to self-discovery. He also explores the role of solitude, presence, and emotional honesty—not just in healing, but in creating more authentic relationships. This is a vulnerable, eye-opening episode about what it means to truly come home to yourself. This is an invitation to a private, intimate weekend retreat. A small group medicine journey. No big productions, no ego. Just realignment. Self-love. Shedding what no longer fits. You don’t need to hit rock bottom to evolve.  May 23 weekend in Idywilld California.  Seats are very limited. Find out more HERE or email John at [email protected] Find out more about Sarah Williams and her work HERE Follow Sarah on Instagram HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

RE-RELEASE: Why Relationships Are Like Sunsets

Today, John shares how to love without control—whether in relationships or parenting. From seeing love like a sunset to letting kids grow into who they are, this episode is a heartfelt reminder to let things be beautiful, not perfect. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 April 2025

How to Recognize When Spirit Is Trying to Change You

Today, John shares a powerful story about a tense Uber ride that became a lesson in compassion. He explores how we can break free from old patterns of reactivity, respond with intention, and lead with love—even when it's hard.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

RE-RELEASE: Breakups Aren’t Failures — They’re Expired Relationships

Today, John flips the breakup script, showing how to see endings as beginnings. He shares how reframing relationships as “expired” (not failed) can spark healing, growth, and real self-discovery. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-care looks like. Day 4 – Detach to Connect: Identify and interrupt distorted thought patterns holding you back. Day 5 – Fuck It Friday: Give yourself permission to feel joy, rest, or play—guilt-free. Day 6 – The Call Is Coming From Inside the House: Spot limiting beliefs and begin rewriting your inner narrative. Day 7 – Write Your Self-Agreement: Declare a new, intentional relationship with yourself. This 7-day challenge starts April 22nd. Join now and start shifting today HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

RE-RELEASE: How To Stop Suffering

Today, John explores the concept of suffering and emphasizes that it’s often tied to resistance, attachment, and a lack of self-awareness. He also discusses how to shift from suffering to a more fulfilling life, highlighting the importance of self-discovery, pursuing dreams, and engaging with the world around us. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 April 2025

To Live In Color, We Must Stop Waiting

Today, John gets real about loss, growth, and the ticking clock on his 52nd birthday. With raw honesty, he reflects on what life has taught him—and why waiting for “the right time” is a trap. This episode is your invitation to live boldly, chase what matters, and stop hitting pause on the life you want. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-care looks like. Day 4 – Detach to Connect: Identify and interrupt distorted thought patterns holding you back. Day 5 – Fuck It Friday: Give yourself permission to feel joy, rest, or play—guilt-free. Day 6 – The Call Is Coming From Inside the House: Spot limiting beliefs and begin rewriting your inner narrative. Day 7 – Write Your Self-Agreement: Declare a new, intentional relationship with yourself. This 7-day challenge starts April 22nd. Join now and start shifting today HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2025

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