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The Angry Therapist Podcast

Do You Ever Give Too Much in Love?

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.61.1K Ratings

🗓️ 21 January 2026

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Do you find yourself giving more, waiting longer, explaining harder — just to keep love alive? In this episode, John Kim reflects on overgiving, emotional boundaries, and the quiet ways we abandon ourselves in relationships. Recorded in Costa Rica, he uses lessons from surfing to explore why love shouldn’t feel like anxiety, confusion, or constant effort. Inspired by the idea of “Let Them,” this episode offers a necessary reframe: there are some things you simply should not let people do. This is a reminder that protecting your heart isn’t selfish — it’s essential. Host Links: Surf, Sex & Pancakes - Join John Kim for a surf retreat in Costa Rica. Sign up HERE 📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠ If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

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0:05.7

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0:10.7

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0:14.3

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0:16.8

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0:20.8

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0:25.5

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0:29.8

You know, when you outgrow or start to outgrow someone you love or, I mean, a romantic partner or friend,

0:36.9

and they start resenting you.

0:38.0

This happens a lot.

0:39.4

Don't let them.

0:40.8

Don't let them drain you and call it bonding.

0:46.7

I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck before going on a hero's journey

0:51.7

and turning expired relationships into revelations.

0:55.2

I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you, unrehearsed on purpose,

1:01.6

because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated, just honest.

1:08.6

I'm doing today's episode from the coffee shop.

1:11.4

I hope you don't mind.

1:12.6

You might hear some background noise.

1:14.2

I got some good mics, good portable mics, but when I'm out and about, all sorts of noise coming in, especially here in Costa Rica.

1:21.4

Before I start, I want to give you some things that I've been learning from surfing.

1:27.4

And they kind of apply directly to

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