Every text lands like a miracle, every silence feels charged with meaning.

You're not falling in love with the person, you're falling in love with the feeling of being chosen.

I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable f*** before going on a hero's journey

and turning expired relationships into revelations.

I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you,

unrehearsed on purpose, because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated.

Just honest.

Hey, today I'm going to talk about the stages of love.

And before I start, I want to remind you of something very simple.

I just had the most amazing chocolate chip chickpea cookie.

So here in Costa Rica, there's a lot of little shops and you have to know where to get what, right? And also it's hard because the store that you think specializes in something or you think

is going to be amazing. It's usually not that, but it's something else that you discover there

that is like mind blowing. For example, like there's a little like a hole in the wall burger shop,

but the burgers are okay,

but they have like the most amazing fish sandwiches, fried fish sandwiches, right?

So over here by the beach, there's a little coffee shop and she makes homemade chocolate chip

chickpeak cookies.

And holy shit, I just had one.

And the reason I'm sharing this with you is because I think it's

important that we need to seek nectar with intention. So when you eat something amazing or

experience something amazing, instead of letting that amazing just drift away, make a note of it,

like sit with it, be intentional. It rewires your brain.

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