UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/409

Transcribed - Published: 29 July 2025

What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you? In this episode, I’m talking with Prentis Hemphill, bestselling author of What it Takes to Heal, about how healing is actually a radical, ongoing process. We dive into how healing connects to social change, and how we can start resisting the futures we don’t want while building the ones we actually do.You’ll hear about tapping into your body’s wisdom, making real change through local action, and practicing who you want to be, rather than waiting for some magical transformation. This conversation will remind you that, no matter how chaotic things get, we hold the power to create the futures we want, one step at a time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/408

Transcribed - Published: 24 July 2025

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores why we avoid certain things, like relationships or hobbies, and how not having a clear “why” can keep us stuck. The second dives into the messy relationship between motivation and hobbies—specifically, why writing feels so dreadful sometimes.If you’ve ever wondered why your hobbies feel like a chore or why you’re not acting on what you really want, this episode will help you cut through the confusion. Tune in for simple, actionable insights that will help you clarify your thoughts and get out of your own way. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/407

Transcribed - Published: 22 July 2025

Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from your failures so you can make better decisions moving forward. Most of us are terrified of making mistakes, so we avoid risks, which keeps us stuck. But the truth is, mistakes aren’t the problem—it’s how we think about them.I’ll walk you through how to reflect on what went wrong, how to separate yourself from the shame of failure, and how to use that knowledge to make smarter, more confident decisions in the future. You’ll also learn how to stop telling yourself, “I can’t trust myself to make decisions,” and why this thought is holding you back. It’s time to stop avoiding mistakes and start seeing them as opportunities for growth.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/406

Transcribed - Published: 17 July 2025

Ever catch yourself thinking your ex was the one or that losing weight will solve all your problems? Our brains can hold onto these beliefs for years, creating stories about why we’re single or why we need to lose weight. But what if the real issue isn’t the thoughts themselves, but what we make them mean?In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m breaking down why struggling with the same thoughts for years goes beyond just negative thinking. Identifying unhealthy thoughts isn’t enough—the real work is understanding how your beliefs about those thoughts are causing just as much suffering. Tune in to learn how to stop giving old thought patterns so much power and start creating the feelings you want in your life.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/405

Transcribed - Published: 15 July 2025

In this week's Greatest Hits episode, I’m re-sharing 3 powerful takeaways from a recent event that have the potential to shift how you view yourself and your life. You'll hear how you have more creative potential than you realize, why resisting reality is the most painful thing you can put yourself through, and my best tips for building self-love. I’m also leaving you with one question I want you to contemplate and answer because, trust me, it is a total game changer.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/404

Transcribed - Published: 10 July 2025

In this weeks Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that tackle different sides of mental resistance. The first deals with whether you should do thought work when you're struggling emotionally—what I call being on the "struggle bus." The second addresses the challenge of sticking with decisions when your brain constantly wants to chase the next exciting thing. You'll hear some strategies to help you build commitment, even when you’re not feeling motivated, and learn why processing emotions should come before trying to change your thoughts.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/402

Transcribed - Published: 8 July 2025

Do you ever feel stuck on your journey, unsure of how far you’ve really come? In this episode, I’m sharing three key takeaways from a previous live event, starting with why it’s so hard to accurately assess where you are—and how that holds you back from making real progress.We’ll also dive into why something “feeling true” doesn’t mean it is actually true, and how shifting this mindset can help you release the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck. Finally, I’ll explain why you’ve got to be willing to be wrong in order to grow. You do not want to miss these takeaways, so grab your headphones and let’s go! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/402

Transcribed - Published: 3 July 2025

In this week’s Listener Q&A, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and societal expectations. One listener struggles with body image after years of parental criticism—believing their worth is tied to their size. Another feels frustrated by always initiating sex in their marriage—turning intimacy into resentment.Both questions highlight a key issue: we let other people’s actions dictate how we feel about ourselves. Whether it’s believing your worth is tied to your body size—or thinking your partner needs to initiate intimacy for it to “count”—you’re giving away your power. Tune in to learn how to take it back.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/401

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2025

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and societal expectations. One listener struggles with body image after years of parental criticism—believing their worth is tied to their size. Another feels frustrated by always initiating sex in their marriage—turning intimacy into resentment.Both questions highlight a key issue: we let other people’s actions dictate how we feel about ourselves. Whether it’s believing your worth is tied to your body size—or thinking your partner needs to initiate intimacy for it to “count”—you’re giving away your power. Tune in to learn how to take it back.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/401

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2025

Socialization tells us that happiness comes from hitting the right milestones—prestigious career, perfect body, ideal partner. We’re taught that once we check off all the boxes and achieve enough, fulfillment will follow. But is that really true?After 400 episodes of Unfuck Your Brain, I’ve completely transformed my life—but not by following the blueprint society handed me. The real shift happened when I stopped chasing the generic dream everyone else told me I should want and started figuring out what I actually wanted for myself. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the three things I’ve learned that actually helped me build my dream life, plus the concrete steps that can help you start creating yours. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/400Mentioned in this episode:It's Time to Stop Caring What Other People Think- And I'll Show You How.Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in an encore of the free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Tuesday, July 1 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) Click here to sign up: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/stop-caringHow to Stop Caring

Transcribed - Published: 26 June 2025

Confidence is often talked about in the online empowerment space, but most people misunderstand it. We think of confidence as a feeling—a temporary emotion we either have or don’t have. But here’s the truth: confidence is much more than a feeling. In fact, the feeling of confidence is the last part—and the least important part. In this episode, I’m breaking down why treating confidence as just a feeling keeps us stuck, and what you really need to focus on to create lasting, transformative confidence in your life. Listen in as I explain how to create the foundation of confidence you’ve been missing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/399Mentioned in this episode:Learn How to Stop Caring About What Other People Think on June 24!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in an encore of the free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 24 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) Click here to sign up: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/stop-caringHow to Stop Caring

Transcribed - Published: 19 June 2025

Does it constantly feel like you’re measuring yourself against some impossible standard? Whether it's your career, your relationships, or your body, that feeling of inadequacy can keep you stuck, unable to move forward.In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why insecurity isn’t the real issue—it’s the lack of emotional security within yourself. When we’re constantly comparing ourselves to external expectations, we feel unsafe, unworthy, and disconnected from who we really are. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset, build emotional safety, and start living in alignment with your own values.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/398

Transcribed - Published: 12 June 2025

I’m getting vulnerable and inviting you to do the same -- at the beautiful Four Seasons St. Louis later this June! On this bonus episode, we’re diving into the power of live coaching and how being in the room with others for deep, transformational work can create real breakthroughs. I'm also sharing a rare opportunity to join my live coaching event, The Symposium happening the weekend of June 27th. With firsthand stories from clients who’ve experienced life-changing breakthroughs, here is a sneak peek into what’s possible when you immerse yourself in this work. A few tickets are still available - so grab yours and book your flight before you miss out! It's happening June 27-29, 2025 at the Four Seasons in St. Louis, Missouri. Go to unfuckyourbrain.com/symposium or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784. Code word is symposium.

Transcribed - Published: 6 June 2025

Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixation zaps your energy and keeps you from being your authentic self. But here's the truth: the more you focus on their opinions, the less you connect with your own.In this episode, I’m diving into why “just letting it go” never works, and why your brain can’t simply switch off these thoughts. I’ll show you how to uncover the deeper beliefs fueling your worries, and teach you how to replace them with thoughts that actually support you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/397Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in my new, free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.)How to Stop Caring

Transcribed - Published: 5 June 2025

Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves. In this episode, I’m diving into why we get fixated on some people’s opinions, even when they shouldn’t matter as much, and why others’ judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it’s not about the other person’s opinion—it’s about the internal fears and doubts we haven’t fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in my new, free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.)How to Stop Caring

Transcribed - Published: 29 May 2025

Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply? There’s a reason women tend to fixate on others’ opinions, and it’s not simply a lack of confidence or insecurity. This week, I’m diving into why this preoccupation with others’ opinions is so powerful for women—and why it’s not silly or superficial to acknowledge its hold over us. You'll hear the first step in breaking free from this pattern (hint: it isn’t to judge ourselves) and how to spot the impossible, contradictory standards women are taught to meet.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/395Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in my new, free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.)How to Stop Caring

Transcribed - Published: 22 May 2025

Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it’s true. The good news is you can actually stop trying to manage what everyone else thinks about you at every moment … and feel better about yourself than you ever have before. That’s what I’m here to teach you in my brand new workshop: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think. When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ETCost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.)(A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) Click here to save your spot: unfuckyourbrain.com/caring/utm_source=podcast

Transcribed - Published: 22 May 2025

Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it’s true. The good news is you can actually stop trying to manage what everyone else thinks about you at every moment … and feel better about yourself than you ever have before.That’s what I’m here to teach you in my brand new workshop: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think. When: Friday, June 24 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ETCost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.)(A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) Click here to save your spot: unfuckyourbrain.com/caring/utm_source=podcast

Transcribed - Published: 17 May 2025

Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness, and it’s one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It’s also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.This week, I’m breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it’s making a claim it can’t possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn’t. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/394

Transcribed - Published: 15 May 2025

Are you stuck in thought patterns, habits, or emotional cycles you can’t break, even though you know they’re not serving you? I promise that it’s possible to pursue your goals without your brain putting you in fight or flight as soon as you start taking serious steps. And that's what I'm teaching you how to do in my new, free training coming up: Safety Is an Inside Job.It's happening on May 14th @ 12 PM ET, and you can click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2025

Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats. In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training

Transcribed - Published: 8 May 2025

Join me on May 14th for a new, free training: Safety Is an Inside Job. You’ll learn: Why emotional safety is the key to breaking through blocks on the road to your goals, and how to create radical transformation in your life more quickly. Why your brain has a panic button in the first place, and why it can get louder despite everything else you’ve tried. An exercise you can do when your brain starts hitting the “DANGER!” alarm so you can get yourself back to clarity and confidence sooner. Join us by grabbing your spot here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2025

Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

Transcribed - Published: 1 May 2025

Are you stuck in thought patterns, habits, or emotional cycles you can’t break, even though you know they’re not serving you? I promise that it’s possible to pursue your goals without your brain putting you in fight or flight as soon as you start taking serious steps. And that's what I'm teaching you how to do in my new, free training coming up: Safety Is An Inside Job.It's happening on May 14th @ 12 PM ET, and you can click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

Transcribed - Published: 27 April 2025

After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391Mentioned in this episode:Bday Sale is LiveFor just three days—April 24th to 26th—you can join The Feminist Self-Help Society at 50% off your first month. Get access to self-coaching tools, courses on everything from relationships to productivity, live coaching, unlimited personal support, and a vibrant community of like-minded women. If you’ve been thinking about joining, now’s the time to grab this birthday offer. Go to https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/birthday-saleBday Sale is LIVE

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2025

For just three days—April 24th to 26th—you can join The Feminist Self-Help Society at 50% off your first month. Get access to self-coaching tools, courses on everything from relationships to productivity, live coaching, unlimited personal support, and a vibrant community of like-minded women. If you’ve been thinking about joining, now’s the time to grab this birthday offer. Go to https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/birthday-sale

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2025

Once a year, on my birthday, I give you the gift — a flash sale on your first month inside The Feminist Self-Help Society, my flagship coaching membership.The sale runs April 24–26. Get on the reminder list now at schoolofnewfeministthought.com/list-podcast or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784 with the code word LIST so you don’t miss it.

Transcribed - Published: 18 April 2025

Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they’re holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It’s simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself.Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390

Transcribed - Published: 17 April 2025

What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking the way society trains women and marginalized people to fear their own greatness. We’re taught that wanting more—more impact, more growth, more self-expression—is selfish or arrogant. And in times like these, when the world feels like it’s sliding backward, that message gets even louder: stay quiet, don’t make waves, be content with “good enough.”But now is exactly when we need to lean into our power. Tune in to learn why being extraordinary has nothing to do with fame or visibility—and everything to do with how deeply you commit to your values, your purpose, and your own full expression.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/389Mentioned in this episode:Join us for Your Future Feminist Self! 800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it’s back, for the only time in 2025. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/future-feminist-self-podcastFFS April 2025

Transcribed - Published: 10 April 2025

Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to wrap my brain around long-term thinking when everything—politics, the economy, even basic social norms—feels like it’s shifting under our feet. So in this episode, I’m sharing how I’m navigating this moment—and offering a mindset shift that can help you move forward with clarity, even when the future looks like a big ol’ question mark.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/388Mentioned in this episode:FFS April 2025Join us for Your Future Feminist Self! 800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it’s back, for the only time in 2025. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/future-feminist-self-podcastFFS April 2025

Transcribed - Published: 3 April 2025

800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it’s back, for the only time in 2025.Click here to join us at Your Future Feminist Self: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/future

Transcribed - Published: 3 April 2025

Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny new thought that doesn’t quite feel believable, you already know it doesn’t work that way. In this episode, I’m breaking down why belief—not just thought—is what really drives change, and how to climb the ladder in a way your brain can actually follow. This work takes patience and persistence, but the payoff is huge. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/387

Transcribed - Published: 27 March 2025

Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background, but what if it’s actually the perfect time to dream bigger, take more risks, and redefine what’s possible for ourselves?This week, Master Certified Life Coach Susan Hyatt is back to talk about making courageous changes—at any age. She’s sharing her own wild decision to sail around the world (with six pets, no less!) and calling out the limiting beliefs that keep women from going after their biggest dreams. Whether you're looking to switch careers, take up a new hobby, or embark on an adventure, this episode is your sign to go for it!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/386

Transcribed - Published: 20 March 2025

Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natural for your brain to spiral. But staying stuck in that disoriented, doom-scrolling state isn’t actually helping you feel safer—it’s just keeping you trapped in stress and anxiety.In this episode, I break down why your brain wants to keep obsessively checking the news and why that strategy never really helps. Plus, I’ll share one powerful mindset shift that can help you navigate this unsettling time. Tune in to learn how to make this shift and find a little more peace—no matter what’s happening around you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/385

Transcribed - Published: 13 March 2025

Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then you’d finally feel at peace? What if the real secret to feeling more fulfilled was actually letting go of that control? This week, I’m joined by Oliver Burkeman, author of 4,000 Weeks, to talk about why embracing our limits—not fighting them—is the key to a more meaningful life. Oliver and I dive into our culture’s obsession with productivity and perfection, why it actually makes us more anxious, and how to stop chasing an impossible standard and start spending your precious time in a way that actually matters. If you’re ready to stop feeling like life is a never-ending to-do list, this episode is for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/384

Transcribed - Published: 6 March 2025

Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we find ourselves doom-scrolling, consuming bad news like it’s our job, and wondering why we feel so anxious and exhausted.Is obsessively staying informed actually helping you—or just keeping you stuck? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how to rewire your brain’s alarm system, recognize when “being informed” is just people-pleasing in disguise, and refocus on your actual sphere of influence—so you can take meaningful action without burning yourself out. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/383

Transcribed - Published: 27 February 2025

Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for someone to tell you what to do or how to respond?Women are taught from birth that we’re too emotional, too irrational, too incapable of figuring things out on our own—especially when things get tough. But that conditioning is total BS, and it’s costing us our agency, autonomy, and ability to take action. In this short but powerful episode, I’m breaking down why it’s crucial to trust yourself, how to develop self-efficacy even when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and why waiting for permission or direction is the biggest thing holding you back. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/382

Transcribed - Published: 20 February 2025

Join me for a scientifically-validated workshop for taking control of your mind, your emotions, and your life. Grab your spot here: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachyourself

Transcribed - Published: 19 February 2025

Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between? This week, I’m joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR’s Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner, to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk about how to identify your values, manage your thoughts and emotions, and create meaningful, nourishing connections—with yourself and others. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/381

Transcribed - Published: 13 February 2025

Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you’re falling behind. If so, you’re not alone—this is what happens when we’ve been trained to believe there’s only room for one of us at the top.In this episode, I’m digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You’ll learn how to loosen perfectionism’s grip, stop seeing success as a zero-sum game, and shift into a mindset of true abundance—where you can actually celebrate others and yourself at the same time. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/380

Transcribed - Published: 6 February 2025

As women, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you you’re not enough. But the tools I'm re-sharing this week, radical self-love and exquisite self-care, are your antidote—your way to reject the oppressive systems that want to keep you small and doubting your worth.I'm breaking down what radical self-love and exquisite self-care actually mean, why they’re deeply political acts, and how they expose the hidden, harmful beliefs you’ve been carrying. We’ll tackle the thought patterns standing between you and the self-love you deserve—and I’ll show you how to start practicing it in a way that feels radical and real.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/379

Transcribed - Published: 30 January 2025

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, outcomes we can’t control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don’t serve us.In this episode, I’m sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I’ll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky thought patterns holding me back—like feeling responsible for other people’s feelings or thinking I don’t deserve to fully use my privileges. If you’re ready to ditch the overwork cycle and start reclaiming your time, this episode is for you!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/378

Transcribed - Published: 23 January 2025

Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Society has trained women to believe our worth depends on managing everyone else’s thoughts, feelings, and happiness. But this over-responsibility? It’s a dream stealer, an energy drainer, and a massive life suck.In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m diving into how over-responsibility shows up in our lives and why it keeps us stuck. From obsessing over appearances to taking on outcomes we can’t control, this constant brain spin has us chasing impossible standards instead of living the lives we want. Tune in to uncover how over-responsibility is holding you back—and learn what it takes to finally let it go and reclaim your energy for your dreams.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/377

Transcribed - Published: 16 January 2025

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Transcribed - Published: 10 January 2025

Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yourself? You’re not alone—research shows that women face unique challenges in workplace negotiations, thanks to deeply ingrained gender dynamics.This week, I’m joined by Kathryn Valentine, a negotiation expert who turned her own experience of facing backlash into a career teaching women how to advocate effectively. Tune in to hear Kathryn break down the roots of the gender negotiation gap and share practical strategies to help you negotiate with confidence—and get what you deserve—without fearing the fallout.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/376

Transcribed - Published: 9 January 2025

The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try again if we fail, but let’s be honest—that’s a lot easier said than done when you don’t understand what’s really going on in your brain.Tune in this week to learn what happens in your brain when you fail and why failure is a non-negotiable part of the growth process. I’ll show you how to take the sting out of shame, guilt, and anxiety so you can use every misstep as a stepping stone to the results you want.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/375

Transcribed - Published: 1 January 2025

The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try again if we fail, but let’s be honest—that’s a lot easier said than done when you don’t understand what’s really going on in your brain.Tune in this week to learn what happens in your brain when you fail and why failure is a non-negotiable part of the growth process. I’ll show you how to take the sting out of shame, guilt, and anxiety so you can use every misstep as a stepping stone to the results you want.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/375

Transcribed - Published: 1 January 2025

Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What’s really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way society talks about women’s spending warping your relationship with money? (Hint: it’s eerily similar to how diet culture messes with your relationship with food.)This week, I’m joined by Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni, experts in helping people feel good about their finances no matter their income. They’re sharing insights from their upcoming book, Buy What You Love Without Going Broke, which is all about spending in a way that actually aligns with your values—and ditching the guilt and shame around money decisions. You'll learn how to spend with confidence and make decisions that feel as good later as they do in the moment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/374

Transcribed - Published: 26 December 2024

Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the thing: you’ve probably been taught that perfect consistency is the only way to make habits work—but that’s total BS. What if the real key is actually embracing inconsistency?In this episode, I’m flipping the script on conventional habit advice. I’ll show you why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress and how letting go of the need to get it “perfect” can actually help you build habits that stick. Tune in to learn practical strategies for embracing imperfection, ditching all-or-nothing thinking, and making real, sustainable progress—no matter how messy it looks along the way.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/373

Transcribed - Published: 19 December 2024