I've been getting a lot of DMs lately, and they all basically say the same thing. I want to build something. I want to work on something. I want to create something. But I cannot get myself to do it. I just don't feel motivated. How do I fix that? Here's what I want to know. The way you're asking the question is actually indicative of the problem. You're asking, how do I get more motivated so I do this thing?

But you're thinking about this all backwards. You were sold this idea that motivation is the thing that

separates the people who make it from the people who don't. Like if you just had enough of it,

you'd naturally get where you want to go. But that's not how it works. Motivation doesn't build things.

Because motivation is a fuck boy. Think about it. Some days he shows up, everything clicks. You feel

like the person you always knew you could be. You get more done in one afternoon than you did all

week. You're vibing. But then, he's just gone. And instead of working, you're now lying on the couch doing a full

analysis of what you did to drive him away. And just like a fuckboy, every day you spend waiting

for motivation to be what kickstarts you into getting into action is a day you could have

just moved forward without even thinking about him. So today we're going to talk about what

actually moves you forward when motivation doesn't show up.

Welcome to unfuck your brain.

I'm your host Kara Lowenthal, master certified coach and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that

you're truly excited to live. Let's go. So one of the reasons I wanted to do this episode is

someone in my community DM'd me that she's been writing a book for years. Being a New York

Times bestselling author myself, which I will never get

tired of reminding myself, I always have a soft spot for authors and the writing process, and I know

what a grind it can be, and I know how it can feel when you don't feel motivated to write.

And so this person is almost done, and she's completely stopped working on her book.

She's been working on it for literally a decade. She's so close to the finish line, but she's just

stopped. And she's convinced that by the time the book comes out, it'll be outdated, it will be

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