492. 3 Keys to Changing Your Thoughts (Greatest Hits)
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 14 May 2026
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
This week, I break down the three foundational principles that will allow you to coach yourself effectively, no matter where you are on your thought work journey. If you’re new to the podcast, this is an essential episode to ground you in the basics of cognitive change. If you’ve been here a while, I guarantee you’ll hear these keys in a new light, ready to take them deeper.
Listen in to discover why thoughts create feelings, which drive behavior, and why trying to change your actions to feel better is a recipe for failure. Plus, I explain why self-compassion (or at least self-neutrality) is crucial if you want to truly change your behavior or achieve your goals.
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| 0:00.0 | One of the most wild things about coaching is that the very first basic concepts you learn |
| 0:05.7 | continue to be mind-blowing every time you use them. |
| 0:09.9 | Because every time you're stuck in your life, it is because of the way you are thinking, |
| 0:14.8 | feeling, and acting in a given situation. |
| 0:18.0 | And yet, it's a fucking surprise every time that that's the problem. So today I wanted to share |
| 0:23.6 | with you one of our greatest hits episodes, one of our most popular episodes ever that we haven't |
| 0:27.7 | brought back until now. And this episode is all about the three keys to coaching yourself |
| 0:33.0 | successfully. So whether you are newer to the podcast, if you are, this is going to be an amazing |
| 0:38.0 | introduction to our foundational concepts. If you have listened to the podcast before, you think |
| 0:43.0 | you know it all, I guarantee you if you come to this with beginner's mind, your mind's |
| 0:47.3 | going to be blown all over again. In this episode, I'm talking through the thought, emotion, |
| 0:52.7 | and behavior relationship. I'm teaching you why you can't |
| 0:56.3 | change your actions in order to feel better or think differently. And we're talking about the way |
| 1:01.6 | that thoughts and feelings don't have moral value, which is something that really trips people up |
| 1:07.2 | and contributes to so much self-criticism, which is totally counterproductive to |
| 1:11.8 | growth. So it's a really rich, deep episode. We are going to get into all of it, and by the |
| 1:16.2 | end of it, you are going to understand the foundational principles for coaching yourself, |
| 1:20.0 | either for the first time or in a whole new way. Let's get into it. Welcome to unfuck your brain. |
| 1:26.9 | I'm your host, Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, |
| 1:30.4 | and founder of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, |
| 1:36.3 | turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to |
| 1:42.1 | live. Let's go. |
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