501. Coaching Hotline: Using Social Media to Change Your Body Image & When Your Partner Shuts Down in Arguments
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 16 June 2026
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
Social media can be a surprisingly powerful tool when it comes to changing how you think about your body. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about using intentional visual exposure on social media to improve body image. I explain why deliberately engaging with images that reflect diverse and relatable bodies can help retrain your brain’s perceptions, and why it is important to practice these thoughts in a variety of situations, not just while scrolling social media .
Then, I tackle what happens when a partner shuts down during an argument. You'll hear why labeling your partner as sulking or ignoring amplifies your reaction, and why taking responsibility for your feelings is the key to staying grounded and connected. This episode shows how to separate thoughts from circumstances so you can feel less desperate, more in control, and more present in your relationships and your own mind.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Un-Fuck Your Brain. I'm your host, Kara Lowenthal, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go. |
| 0:24.3 | Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real |
| 0:30.4 | listeners and coach you from afar. If you want to submit your question for consideration, |
| 0:35.1 | go to unfuckyour your brain.com forward slash |
| 0:39.0 | coaching hotline, all one word, or text your email to plus one 347-997-1784. And when you get |
| 0:48.2 | prompted for the code word, it's coaching hotline, all one word. Let's get into this week's questions. |
| 0:57.4 | So two great questions today. |
| 1:02.2 | Here's the first one. And I think this is a great question that I actually don't think has been asked. |
| 1:08.8 | So I think a lot of you will find this helpful. Okay. Hi, Kara. My question relates to intentional thoughts. I recently programmed my phone to remind me four times a day to think |
| 1:12.4 | purposefully. Some thoughts I'm currently practicing include fat women can look amazing. There are people in the |
| 1:18.8 | world attracted to fat women. Some fat women look great in bikinis and some fat women love their bodies. |
| 1:24.1 | Anytime I scroll through particular social media posts that are in some way devoted to |
| 1:28.0 | body positivity, it seems like I'll have the above thoughts without even trying. I think this means |
| 1:33.0 | I already believe these thoughts. My question is, do you see any problem with purposely engaging in |
| 1:38.3 | actions I know result in my having positive thoughts and feelings every time my alarm goes off? |
| 1:43.3 | Using the example above, |
| 1:44.5 | do you see any problem with me purposely going on a plus size model's Instagram page for three to five |
| 1:48.9 | minutes as a way to practice thinking the cluster of intentional thoughts I'm currently working on? |
| 1:53.5 | Thank you for existing. I love you and this work. Great question. So I definitely don't think |
| 1:58.7 | there's a problem with doing this. I think this is a great |
| 2:01.7 | strategy. I wouldn't use this as your only strategy, and I will explain why, but I don't think |
| 2:07.5 | there's anything wrong with doing this at all. And particularly when it comes to visual programming, |
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