Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

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Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners

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Let's get into this week's questions.

This first question, I actually got two almost identical questions, but they were from different

people, so I'm kind of answering them both at once. One was, Hi, Kara, how can we apply thought

work when receiving professional feedback? If someone has a complaint about us or our work,

of course we can know that we

don't cause their feelings. But sometimes others may be offering valid feedback that's hard to hear.

So how can we manage our minds to discern what we can use and what is not true or helpful without

being defensive? Great question. Then the other question was, which is very similar, how do you work through

thoughts of failure or being attacked when a client points out a mistake or wants to change something?

So they're pretty related, right? I'm just going to answer them both together. The whole reason

that something is hard to hear is our thoughts about it. It's the same way that if you feel attacked, it's your thought about it.

Why is it a problem if a client wants to change something or spots a mistake only because of what

you make it mean? Why is some feedback hard to hear? Only because of what you make it mean, right? It's

always your thoughts. And there's a reason that I

sort of teach in this particular sequence. There is sometimes something useful in feedback that other

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