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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

500. The Two Biggest Ways Women Hold Back (& What Comes Next for UFYB)

UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Kara Loewentheil

Health & Fitness, Philosophy, Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Mental Health

4.65.6K Ratings

🗓️ 11 June 2026

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

Women often hold themselves back in ways they don’t even notice. This week, I explore the two biggest ways this happens: not asking for what you want and not telling the truth about how you feel. I break down how socialization and internalized beliefs train women to downplay their desires, soften their emotions, and edit themselves in real time, leaving them disconnected from what they actually want and who they really are.

You’ll hear why these two patterns show up across careers, relationships, and daily life, and how they subtly shape the decisions you make and the opportunities you take. I explain why wanting and feeling is not the problem, and why the real work is learning to notice the thoughts that keep you from expressing yourself fully.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/500

Watch this episode over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoaching

Learn more about Coach Curious Prep School here: unfuckyourbrain.com/curious

Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil

Transcript

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0:00.0

All right, my friends, today is the 500th episode of Unfuck Your Brain, and also it's Thursday.

0:06.6

Just a Thursday. The way it's been a Thursday, 500 times now, since the spring of 2017.

0:12.7

That's not true. There haven't been 500 Thursdays, but there have been 500 episodes.

0:15.9

I just want to sit with that for a second because it's a very weird feeling.

0:23.2

500 episodes feels like a big milestone, and yet sitting down to record this, it feels similar to sitting down to record episode

0:27.9

four or 47 or 312. You just show up, you do it, and then you do it again the next week,

0:34.2

and you keep doing it. That is nine years, years is one to two episodes a week, every single

0:39.3

week without a break. Like babies who were born after this podcast launched are now in elementary

0:44.8

school. The world has changed a lot. My life has changed several times over, and yet every Thursday,

0:51.1

and now every Tuesday as well, there's an episode. So I want to tell you a little bit about where this started because I think that context matters for what I want to share today. And then I have some news about what we're doing next. And then I want to do what we always do, which is get to work on your brain. Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master certified coach, and founder

1:14.0

of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your

1:20.1

confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go.

1:32.9

This podcast started in 2017 as something called the lawyer stress solution, which tells you exactly how narrowly I was thinking when I started

1:38.2

about who I was talking to and what I had to offer them. I had a handful of one-on-one coaching

1:43.1

clients that I had found through

1:44.5

social media and word of mouth. And in my first 12 months of working on my business full-time,

1:49.4

I'd made $50,000, which felt simultaneously like a miracle and not enough. And six months after I

1:55.8

launched the podcast, my one-on-one practice was full and I was starting my group program.

2:00.0

Within a year, I had rebranded to unfuck your brain, and the podcast had gone mega viral,

2:05.0

which is still one of the stranger sentences I've ever said out loud about my own life.

2:10.0

This podcast was the engine of everything that came next in my business in a way that I don't think I fully understood while it was happening.

2:17.4

It put this work in front of people who didn't know I fully understood while it was happening. It put this work

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