Some people coach executives. Some people coach new moms. I coach women who have big goals,

big dreams, but know that there's a gap between what they want to create and accomplish in

their lives and their confidence and follow through in doing it. And this episode, which is one

of my greatest hits ever, is all about what I call perfectionist fantasies.

Because one of the biggest blocks to women achieving the goals that they want in their life and

creating the outcomes they want and becoming the people they want to be is that they don't

understand the difference between creating and living into a future evolved self, a new version of you, and having a

fantasy self that is actually completely disconnected from who you are and your reality.

And this comes out all the time when women make elaborate plans and then don't follow through

on them. And I know we have all been there,

color coding our schedule with every Pilates class we're going to attend for the next month,

setting out the perfect work calendar that then falls out the window on day one.

We have all experienced this where we get dopamine and we get excitement from the fantasy plan

and we get relief from our self-criticism,

but then we don't follow through. So if you have ever done that, you've made a complicated

plan and not followed through. You've set a goal and never really gotten going on it.

You're going to want to listen to this episode all about perfectionist fantasies so you can

understand why you're doing this and how you can change it. Let's dive in.

Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master certified coach and founder

of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence,

and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go.

So I think most of you heard me say this, but I am not psychic. The reason that it seems like I might be, that I always know what's going on in your brain,

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