All right, my friends, I have a question for you today. Might sound like an easy one, but it's actually

the portal to a pretty deep pattern. Here's what I want to ask you. When is the last time you asked for

exactly what you wanted when you were nervous about doing so? So I'm not talking when's the last time you

hinted, not when's the last time you hoped someone would notice what you wanted. Definitely not asking

when's the last time you talked yourself out of asking for you what you want, because I'm sure

that was like five minutes ago. I want you to think about the last time you actually open your

mouth and asked. Take a minute. If you're having trouble remembering, or you just know you haven't

for a very long time, this episode is for you.

Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host, Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach,

and founder of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety,

turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go.

So let's talk about asking for what we want, which is something a lot of women are scared to do,

at work, at home, anywhere else.

And we think about the big high stakes moments often, the salary negotiation you've been putting off,

asking your partner to do more around the house, asking for what you want in bed. Those asks

feel dramatic, and we've labeled them as the big scary ones. But the pattern runs much deeper

than that. The same dynamic shows up in asks so small that most women don't even register them

as asks at all. Asking for an hour to

yourself on Saturday morning, telling your family you want something different for dinner. Saying to a

friend, I'd rather not do that, can we do something else? Saying to someone out loud, I'd love if you

did that differently. These are the small daily surrenders that most women make without noticing

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