496. The 3 Words Sabotaging Your Goals & How to Change Them
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
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🗓️ 28 May 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
There is one thought that quietly sabotages almost every goal you care about, and you probably don’t even realize it’s a thought because it sounds like a fact.
In this episode, I break down the three words that stop us from following through on what we want and explain why believing this thought can make it feel impossible to achieve the results you are working toward. Plus, I share a three-step practice you can use to rewire this pattern. Listen in, because changing this thought can be the difference between quitting too soon and finally seeing the results of the work you have been doing all along.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, my friends. Today I want to talk to you about a thought you almost certainly had this week. You probably had it more than once, and you probably don't know that it's a thought, because it sounds to us like a fact. It's three words long, and it is quietly sabotaging every goal you have in your life that you care about. By the end of this episode, |
| 0:21.2 | you're going to know exactly what that thought is, why it sounds so much like a fact when it's not, |
| 0:26.0 | and what you can be practicing thinking instead. Because changing this one thought is truly the |
| 0:31.6 | difference between achieving the things you actually want in your life and quitting before you |
| 0:36.2 | ever really get to see the fruits of your |
| 0:37.7 | labor. So let's get into it. Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowenthal, |
| 0:44.8 | master certified coach and founder of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you |
| 0:50.4 | turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, |
| 0:55.8 | one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go. |
| 1:01.9 | All right. So if you have been listening to this podcast for more than 20 seconds, you know |
| 1:07.6 | that some of the most destructive thoughts we have are the ones that we don't even |
| 1:11.3 | recognize our thoughts. Our brain reports them like it's the weather. We say these thoughts to |
| 1:16.8 | ourselves the way we would say, oh, it's going to be chilly. I should bring a jacket. We think we're |
| 1:21.7 | just describing what's happening around us when actually we are interpreting, evaluating, |
| 1:26.7 | and formulating a subjective opinion about what |
| 1:29.3 | is happening. But then we are telling it to ourselves like it is a fact. And there is one thought |
| 1:35.1 | that I see ruining more dreams than any other thought. And it is a thought that masquerades |
| 1:41.7 | as reality when it is in fact an interpretation. And that thought is |
| 1:46.8 | it's not working. It's not working. Or slightly more dramatic cousin, this isn't working. Either way, |
| 1:55.9 | this thought, it's not working or this isn't working. It sounds like a fact. Whether something's working or not |
| 2:01.8 | seems subjective. Like, is the car driving, it's working. Is the car stalled? It's not working. We think that |
| 2:08.2 | we are just telling ourselves a fact. We think we've done it an objective analysis and our brain |
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