Overcome Pornography for Good

What if five minutes a day could completely change your ability to process urges? In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett shares the daily tool that helped him move from feeling afraid of urges to being able to process them with confidence and ease. This simple practice became a key part of his success in overcoming pornography and staying committed to his goals. If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same patterns and want a clear way to show up for yourself each day, this practice can help. With consistency, the daily CTFAR model becomes second nature and gives you a reliable way to move forward no matter what comes up. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/daily-wins-CTFAR-Hunter-Garrett If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Have you ever felt anxious or antsy when you view less porn? In this episode, coach Jessica addresses a common question many clients face: How long do I have to feel uncomfortable emotions, and how can I process the urges that come with this? Jessica unpacks the science behind emotions and urges. These sensations—whether they show up as fidgeting, bouncing your leg, or tightness in your chest—are simply your body’s response to thoughts in your brain. The good news? These uncomfortable feelings have a predictable shelf life. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/uncomfortable-emotions-shelf-life If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

Can someone truly overcome a 27-year pornography habit in just a few weeks? In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Tyler, a client who shares his remarkable journey from decades of struggle to genuine freedom. Tyler details the specific mindset shifts and practical tools that made the difference, how the program improved his marriage and parenting, and why going "all in" was the key to his success. His story proves that freedom from pornography isn't just possible—it can happen faster than you might think. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-tyler If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Ever feel trapped in a shame spiral that logic just can't break? That overwhelming feeling where no matter how many reasons you list for why you shouldn't feel ashamed, the emotion persists and paralyzes you? This is exactly what I'm addressing in today's episode.I share a training I conducted on treating shame as "offline work" and provide practical, body-based techniques to help you break free from shame spirals. You'll discover powerful somatic practices that create safety in your nervous system and can help you regain your rational thinking capacity when shame has taken you offline. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-offline-work

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the “right” things to process urges, but it's just not working? Many of my clients express frustration that despite their best efforts to implement the tools they've learned, they still struggle with urges and don’t know why. In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful insight that will completely transform your approach to urge processing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/process-urges-pressure-free

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

Are you constantly looking backward instead of forward? In this episode, I dive into the powerful distinction between being past-focused versus future-focused, and how this single shift can completely transform your approach to overcoming pornography.When you're stuck in past-focused thinking, you limit yourself to what you've already accomplished. By defining yourself by who you want to become rather than who you've been, you can create the momentum needed to finally break free from pornography. Your past doesn't determine your future unless you allow it to.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/living-future-not-past

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

What if I told you that the key to quitting porn for good isn't just about the actions you take, but the energy behind those actions? So often, we chase after a porn-free life, thinking that once we achieve it, we'll finally feel good enough, worthy, and at peace. But what if we flipped the script and started embodying those feelings now, even before we've reached our goal?In this episode, you'll hear a fresh perspective on rewiring your brain for the life you truly want. By practicing feeling the emotions you want to feel ahead of time, you put yourself in an energetic state to attract the results you desire much faster.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/rewire-your-brain-life-you-want

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

Do you ever feel like quitting pornography is just too difficult and uncomfortable? In this episode, I share a powerful concept that completely changed my life: discomfort is the currency for success.Join me as I dive deep into why discomfort is essential for overcoming pornography and creating the life you truly desire. I share practical tips for reframing your mindset around discomfort and teach you how to process your emotions in a healthy way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/discomfort-on-purpose

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Are you tired of trying to quit porn using methods that just don't work? I reveal the hidden forces that keep you trapped in unwanted porn use and how facing them head-on can finally set you free. If you're ready to break free from the chains of pornography once and for all, this episode will give you a roadmap to lasting change. You'll learn why focusing on surface-level behaviors will never bring true healing, how to overcome the shame that fuels compulsive porn use, and what it takes to rewire your brain for healthy sexuality. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/healing-shame-streamline-journey If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

In this powerful episode, Ben shares his story of overcoming pornography and finding true healing and self-acceptance. Through working with coach Jessica in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Ben discovered the power of grieving, self-compassion, and living authentically. Ben's story offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to break free from the chains of unwanted pornography use and find true freedom. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-ben If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

I dive deep into the concept of surrendering to your urges and explain why it's such a vital part of the process of overcoming pornography addiction. I share insights on why fighting your urges using willpower alone is a losing strategy, and how surrendering to them can help you better understand the underlying emotions driving your behavior.Learn practical strategies for surrendering to them in a healthy way, without giving in to the temptation to view pornography. Discover how this shift in mindset can empower you to take control of your life and overcome pornography for good. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/surrendering-urges-control If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

As someone who has struggled with pornography, you know firsthand how exhausting it can be to constantly operate from a place of fear and shame. Despite your best efforts, these negative emotions can hold you back and keep you trapped in a seemingly endless loop. But what if there was another way?Discover how shifting your energy from guilt and shame to love and tenderness can revolutionize your journey to freedom from pornography. Learn practical strategies for making this shift and experience the profound impact it can have on your life.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/most-important-shift If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

We sit down with Daniel, a client who has been working diligently with coach Jessica to overcome his pornography habit. Daniel shares his journey of shifting from an accomplishment-based mindset to a growth mindset, and how this has transformed his relationship with himself and others.Join us as we explore the idea that healing from pornography addiction doesn't mean never experiencing urges again, but rather learning to understand and love yourself on a deeper level. Discover how letting go of the "finish line" mentality can open up a world of possibilities and allow you to embrace the richness of life's experiences.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-daniel If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

I dive into the concept of expanding your timeline and the power of delayed gratification. By focusing on the long-term vision of who you want to become and the life you want to create, you'll find the strength to push through the challenges and stay committed to your goals.  Join me as we explore how thinking in years instead of days can revolutionize not only your journey to overcome pornography, but every aspect of your life. Get ready to broaden your perspective, embrace the process, and unlock your full potential.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/expand-your-timeline   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive  

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of relapses and the intense shame that often follows. I share my insights on why shame is so detrimental to the recovery process and offers practical strategies for navigating those difficult post-relapse emotions.  If you've ever struggled with the "relapse shame cycle," this episode is for you. I break down the key steps to support your body through shame, challenge the beliefs that fuel it, and ultimately break free from the grip of pornography for good. Get ready to gain a new perspective on relapses and learn how to approach them with self-compassion and resilience.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/what-to-do-relapses   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025

Do you ever feel like your slip-ups with pornography are holding you back from making real progress in overcoming this habit? What if I told you that these setbacks could actually be transformed into valuable stepping stones on your journey to freedom? In this episode, I introduce a powerful tool called Learn and Move On that will help you do just that.  I walk you through the Learn and Move On worksheet and explain how to use it effectively. You'll discover how to challenge shame-producing thoughts, identify helpful grounding techniques, and visualize yourself implementing your key takeaways. Most importantly, you'll learn how to turn the discouragement of a setback into the empowerment of a learning opportunity. Let's dive in!   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/utilizing-learn-and-move-on   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 20 January 2025

Are you feeling motivated and ready to start the new year, or do you just want to hibernate a little longer like me? I have an exciting announcement today - we've launched a new free program that lays out the beginner basics of everything you need to quit viewing pornography for good in an easy-to-digest format.  I also talk about the Hoʻoponopono Prayer from traditional Hawaiian culture, which can be used for forgiveness and healing in your relationships with others or yourself. Tune in this week to discover how you can use this prayer to overcome pornography use.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/new-free-program   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 13 January 2025

In this episode, I reflect on the successes and challenges of the past year for the Overcome Pornography for Good community. From the major rebrand to building an incredible team, it's been a time of growth and transformation behind the scenes.  I also dive into the key question: How can we create sustainable goals for quitting porn that align with our values and redefine what "overcome pornography for good" really means? Discover a powerful perspective shift that will set you up for lasting success.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/sustainable-goals-2025   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 6 January 2025

Do you struggle to stick with your New Year's resolutions, especially when it comes to quitting porn? The surge of motivation and energy that comes with a new year can quickly fade, leaving you feeling discouraged and ready to give up. But what if there was a way to harness that energy and create lasting change?  If you're ready to make this the year you finally quit porn for good, this episode is a must-listen. I share the tools and mindset shifts you need to create sustainable change and become the person you want to be in 2025.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/year-you-quit   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 30 December 2024

If you're ready to break free from the cycle of chronic shame and embrace accountability with confidence, this episode is for you. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of how to recognize and work through chronic shame. Learn practical strategies for shifting your mindset around mistakes, separating your actions from your identity, and even learning to love and appreciate your shame.  Dive deep into the topic of chronic shame and how it affects your ability to be held accountable. We explore how shame is different from guilt, and how it can subtly influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in ways we might not even be aware of.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/chronic-shame   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 23 December 2024

I dive deep into the topic of overwhelm and how it can impact your journey to stop using pornography. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear roadmap for navigating overwhelm and staying on track with your goals.  Discover exactly where your overwhelm is coming from, and what you can do about it. You’ll learn some powerful tools and strategies for managing overwhelm, including understanding our triggers, breaking things down into tiny baby steps, and focusing on just 1% growth at a time.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/what-to-do-overwhelmed   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme   Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Transcribed - Published: 16 December 2024

Do you ever feel strong urges to view pornography, tied to specific patterns, times, or emotions? I call this "over-desire" - and it's something many people struggle with. But here's the good news: just like the scientist Pavlov trained his dogs to stop salivating at the sound of a bell, we can train our brains to overcome these compulsions too.  I explain the science behind over-desire and share real-life examples of how people have successfully reconditioned their brains. I also share the importance of understanding the difference between over-desire and an addiction, and introduce the concept of mindfulness as a key tool in the process of building a healthier relationship with your sexuality.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/over-desire   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2024

Something you may have been told before about your unwanted porn use is that you don’t have a moral compass and that you lack self-control. This simply not true. The reason you view porn isn’t weakness or a lack of righteousness, so listen in to learn the real reason behind unwanted pornography use.  Tune in this week as I try something new on the podcast. I conducted a live stream, inviting listener questions, talking directly to listeners just like you. I dive deep into the real reason behind your unwanted pornography use, and I give you the foundations for making real progress toward quitting porn.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/its-not-weakness   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2024

In this episode, I introduce a concept called the shame-apathy trap. This insidious cycle causes unnecessary pain and suffering, often without us even realizing it. I walk you through how it manifests in our lives and share actionable tips to help you break free.  If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough to overcome pornography, or if apathy is creeping in and amplifying your shame, this episode is for you. I show you why trying to care more or do more isn’t the solution and where your focus truly needs to be instead.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-apathy-unraveled   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 25 November 2024

Do you find yourself believing every negative thought that pops into your head? As humans, our brains are programmed to keep us safe, but that often means defaulting to negative thinking patterns. We may not even realize how much our thoughts are running our lives, causing shame, frustration, and keeping us stuck in old patterns that we want to change.  Discover how infusing your thoughts with love and compassion can help you break free from negative cycles and access your highest self. By practicing this mindset shift, you can transform your relationship with your thoughts, so you can love and guide your human body in the way you really want to.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/not-your-thoughts   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 18 November 2024

In this episode, I share a powerful clip from a recent coaching call where a client and I dive deep into this "I'll eventually give in" mentality. We discover that this persistent thought often stems from a younger, wounded part of ourselves that needs love and healing, not just a mindset shift.  We explore how doing this deeper inner healing work is not separate from the process of quitting pornography, but an essential part of finding lasting freedom. Learn why shaming yourself or relying on willpower alone won't lead to the change you seek, and how healing your inner wounds can make the journey so much easier.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/eventually-give-in   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 4 November 2024

I dive into the research behind thought suppression and explore why trying to fight off or ignore sexual thoughts can actually make them more intense and lead to out-of-control behavior. If you've struggled with thought suppression around sexuality, this episode will give you a new perspective.   Learn the research behind thought suppression, and why learning the skill of allowing versus suppression is vital for you to navigate unwanted sexual thoughts and feelings. I explain why acceptance, mindfulness and non-judgment are more effective tools and provide some practical tips you can start using today to    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/thought-suppression   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2024

When we stop fearing and resisting our emotions, a whole new world of possibility opens up. Imagine being able to go after your biggest goals and dreams without being held back by the fear of failure, embarrassment, or rejection. Mastering the skill of feeling your feelings is the key to living an amazing life and overcoming pornography for good.  Discover the seven steps I teach my clients to help them process their emotions in a healthy way. By learning to name, locate, and relax into our feelings, we can start to see our emotions for what they really are: temporary vibrations in the body that don't have the power to hurt us, and that don’t need to be distracted with pornography.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/stop-fearing-feelings-replay   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme  

Transcribed - Published: 21 October 2024

Hunter is our new coach and program ambassador at the Center for Overcoming Pornography. He facilitates our welcome calls, support group calls, and is generally the point of contact for anyone considering joining the program. His goal is to make sure everyone feels hopeful, connected, and knows what their next steps are, and he’s here today to share his story with you.  Join us this week as Hunter shares his own journey with pornography and how joining the program two years ago changed his life. We dive into the tragedy that is the shame he experienced keeping this a secret for years, how finally sharing his story with his family turned things around for him, and the concepts and tools that helped him the most.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/hunters-story   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 14 October 2024

Understanding the difference between head versus heart learning has been a crucial part of my own growth. The truth is, we don’t find answers in our heads. We find them in our heart. And when we find the answers in our heart, we can create real change in our lives.  Tune in this week to discover the important differences between head and heart learning. I share my experience of shifting from learning with my head to learning from the heart, and you’ll learn how to use heart learning to free yourself from pornography.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/heart-head-learning   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 7 October 2024

What is quitting porn really like and what has to change for you to be able to quit for good? Tune in this week to hear from Gabe about what’s really possible when you decide to quit porn and take action in pursuit of that goal. We discuss faith, shame, growth, and repentance, and Gabe shares the lessons he’s learned since deciding he wanted to quit viewing pornography.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-gabe   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024

Have you ever set a goal for yourself that felt impossible to achieve? Maybe you told yourself, “I'm never going to view porn again,” only to feel discouraged and ashamed when you couldn't live up to that standard.   Join me this week as I explore the concept of "dead people goals" and why they’re harmful to your progress in overcoming pornography. I share examples of common dead people goals and show you how they can damage your relationship with yourself, and you’ll also learn how to reframe your goals in a healthier, more achievable way.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/dead-people-goals   If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Transcribed - Published: 23 September 2024

Do you feel stuck in a cycle of trying to quit porn, only to slip up and feel like a failure? Have you tried willpower, counting days, and shame tactics, but nothing seems to work long-term? If so, you're not alone.  Join me this week to discover the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit pornography. Whether you've struggled for decades or are just starting your journey, you’ll learn the tools and insights you need to finally break free and create the life you desire.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/5-biggest-mistakes   Register for my free live class, The New, Revolutionary Way to Quit Porn for Good, September 19, 2024. A shame-free, sex-positive methodology that is guaranteed to help you overcome pornography for good: https://centerforovercoming.com/freeliveclass

Transcribed - Published: 16 September 2024

Have you struggled to overcome pornography for years or even decades? Do you feel out of control, ashamed, and hopeless that you'll never be able to quit for good? If you resonate, today’s powerful episode will show you what's truly possible when it comes to breaking free from your porn habit.  Tune in to hear the breakthroughs Sam experienced that allowed him to finally quit porn for good after 20 years of failed attempts. He shares how overcoming his porn habit improved every area of his life, from his marriage to his career, and his thoughts on the long-term impact of investing in yourself.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-sam-2

Transcribed - Published: 9 September 2024

This week, I’m joined by Dr. Kersti Spjut, a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in sexual health and perfectionism. With years of experience running programs at BYU for people conflicted about their porn use, she brings a wealth of knowledge and practical strategies to help navigate the unique challenges that come with having ADHD while trying to change sexual behaviors.  Tune in this week as Kersti dives deep into the connection between ADHD and porn use. She offers her insights on the shame and stigma surrounding ADHD, why those with ADHD may be more drawn to the ‘stickiness’ of porn, and her top recommendations of interventions that have helped people with ADHD manage their porn use.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/adhd-porn-use-kersti-spjut

Transcribed - Published: 2 September 2024

One of the biggest misconceptions about having a porn habit is that if you’re experiencing unwanted pornography use, you’re lacking strength, willpower, or spirituality. This misleading belief is not only false but often leads to avoidance techniques I call Band-Aid solutions. In this episode, I show you how to stop relying on these quick fixes and how making tiny changes in the way you cope with emotions can change everything.  Discover what Band-Aid solutions can look like in practice and why they don’t work long-term. Learn why buffering and numbing out prevents you from processing emotions in a healthy way, and how to stop the cycle of turning to porn every time life gets challenging so you can finally experience true freedom.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/no-more-band-aid-solutions

Transcribed - Published: 26 August 2024

To dive into abusive attitudes and behaviors, boundaries, and worthiness wounds, I’m joined by Lindsay Poelman this week. Lindsay started as a betrayal trauma coach for women whose husbands view porn and is now a facilitator for Trauma-Informed coaches. She’s here to shed light on how worthiness wounds can contribute to abusive attitudes and behaviors, and what you can do to start the healing process.  Discover the emotional wounds that often contribute to abusive dynamics in relationships. Lindsay and I explore examples of how abusive attitudes and behaviors can manifest, why you’re more likely to exhibit abusive tendencies if you have deep worthiness wounds, and Lindsay’s brain hacks for setting boundaries and creating a sense of self-safety.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/abusive-attitudes-behaviors-lindsay-poelman

Transcribed - Published: 19 August 2024

To protect and provide is a beautiful energy that can be used for so much good in our world, regardless of gender. However, in the presence of worthiness wounds, these values can quickly turn toxic, and I show you how in this episode.  Hear what worthiness wounds are, why they hurt, and how they might be showing up for you if you identify with the value of protecting and providing. Learn how this role turns toxic if you haven’t healed your worthiness wounds, why this conditioning is often enmeshed with toxic masculinity, and examples of how you can use this value of protecting and providing in healthy and honorable ways instead.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/worthiness-wounds-part-2-protect-provide

Transcribed - Published: 12 August 2024

The working backwards process is all about figuring out what you’re buffering from. The value lies in going further back than you might typically be used to, to get to the root of why you self-sabotaged. By uncovering the root cause of your self-sabotage, you unlock the keys to building lasting change.  I walk you through the keys to using the working backwards process effectively, and share an example from my own life of how I use this technique to understand myself better and replace self-judgment with self-compassion.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/working-backwards

Transcribed - Published: 5 August 2024

Let’s talk about shame-free commitment. Whether your goal is to quit viewing porn completely, view it a couple of times a week, or heal your sexual shame, the why behind it is an essential component of your journey to quitting porn.  Your feelings are the fuel for your quitting journey. I show you how to ditch the shame and focus on building shame-free commitments that empower you to live your best life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/shame-free

Transcribed - Published: 29 July 2024

If you’re currently on a journey towards quitting your pornography habit, chances are you’ve experienced denial along the way. Denial is a defensive state where you might refuse to accept or look at the truth, and while this is a common human experience, shame and guilt often come along with it.  Learn a shame-free perspective on denial and examples of when denial shows up as a result of grief. Hear about the importance of noticing and feeling your sense of grief and how to find the peace and healing you desire.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/denial

Transcribed - Published: 22 July 2024

In this Worthiness Wounds series, I’ll be speaking specifically to men and the worthiness wounds I’ve observed. A worthiness wound is the wound of shame and never feeling good enough, believing you have to do or be something more to be worthy. It’s not your fault if you resonate, but you’re the only one who can heal them, and I’m showing you how.  Learn about the conditioning men receive that creates worthiness wounds and the types of results they produce. Hear why you’ll continue to feel empty if you’re chasing external accomplishments as a way to heal, how these types of wounds create buffering activities, and why they hurt not only you but those you love most too.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/worthiness-wounds-part-1-the-conditioning

Transcribed - Published: 15 July 2024

If you’re learning new skills related to your porn use, they’re changing your life, and you’re feeling the benefits, but other people don’t get it, you’re not alone. Many people find themselves in situations where they feel relentlessly attacked by shame messages. While it might feel like it’s hindering your healing process, the truth is your power doesn’t come from other people finally getting it.  Learn what to do when everyone around you takes a shame approach to porn. I’m showing you how your peace and freedom come from not participating in these narratives, some ways you might choose to step out of the line of fire, and how, when you learn to do this, you can make a much bigger difference in your community.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/everyone-shame-approach

Transcribed - Published: 8 July 2024

Coach Kat is on the show this week to address the it’s-not-working mentality, where you feel stuck and like nothing has changed. Maybe it feels like you’ve been doing the work for months, only to keep viewing porn. Perhaps this plateau is tempting you to give up, but the truth is the breakthrough you’re looking for is right around the corner.  Listen in this week as Coach Kat shows you how the it’s-not-working mentality might be showing up for you, and why you shouldn’t give up at this point. Hear why the work you’re currently doing isn’t going to waste, even if it feels like it, and how we know that the magic of change is inevitable if you don’t give up on yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-the-its-not-working-mentality    

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2024

This week’s Ask a Coach question is one many of you can probably relate to: “Does the shame I feel after slipping up and viewing porn ever really go away?”  While we can learn to move through shame in different and more useful ways, I don’t know that it’s possible to completely get rid of it. The good news is that while shame will continue to show up for us, what we can do is start developing shame-resilience. Coach Jessica Farmer is here this week to shed light on what it means to become shame-resilient and how to start practicing this skill.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-become-shame-resilient

Transcribed - Published: 24 June 2024

A common theme we see frequently in our Ask a Coach feature revolves around our Learn and Move On worksheet. Clients fill in their Learn and Move On before sending it in for feedback, and because it’s such a vital part of our process, Coach Kat is here to share five ways you can make it more beneficial to you.  Learn five practical tips for making the most of our Learn and Move On worksheet. Coach Kat is sharing how you can use it to collect data, get more precise about what’s going on for you, and even use it in conjunction with other milestones to find information you hadn’t seen before.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-learn-and-move-on-worksheet

Transcribed - Published: 17 June 2024

We’re diving straight into listener questions for a special Q&A on healthy sexuality. We tackle a variety of thought-provoking questions, from a listener who feels disconnected from his sexuality and believes it's controlled by his spouse to concerns about whether masturbation causes erectile dysfunction. Plus, we hear from someone who has overcome shame about masturbation but now worries about discussing changes in her body with a future spouse.  Learn how to approach sensitive conversations about body image, understand the real effects of pornography on sexual health, and discover ways to foster a healthier, more confident relationship with your sexuality. Whether you're dealing with personal challenges or looking for deeper insights, this episode is packed with valuable advice and compassionate guidance.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/pornography-sexual-health-sexuality    

Transcribed - Published: 10 June 2024

If you've been working on quitting porn for a long time but still keep viewing pornography, you might be asking, "What if there really is something wrong with me?" There are a few things we need to unpack in order to answer this question in a productive way. So if you have been trying to quit but you're still turning to pornography, and you're starting to worry that something really is wrong with you, this episode is for you.  Discover how the sentence, "There's something wrong with me…" is actually stopping you from making progress. This is a limiting belief that keeps you stuck, and you'll learn how to replace this limiting, judgmental sentence with something way more useful instead.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-seriously-wrong-with-me

Transcribed - Published: 3 June 2024

I am doing a bonus Q&A episode in a couple of weeks! If you have questions about previous episodes around healthy sexuality, porn panic, masturbation, healthy, sexuality, etc. send them to [email protected] and we will answer them in this upcoming episode!

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2024

“What do I do with unwanted thoughts and images that come into my mind?” This is the Ask a Coach question being addressed on the podcast today.  Join Coach Kat as she walks you through the CTFAR model and how to use it in relation to this question, why having unwanted thoughts or images isn’t a problem, and a new way to think about them on purpose without any judgment or shame.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-unwanted-thoughts-images

Transcribed - Published: 27 May 2024