227. Inner Critic Plus Holding Yourself Hostage

Overcome Pornography for Good

Sara Brewer

Christianity, Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness

5 • 679 Ratings

🗓️ 26 May 2025

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Do you find yourself chasing a sense of worth that always feels just out of reach? Many of us hold ourselves hostage with our inner critic, especially when it comes to overcoming pornography. I see this pattern frequently in coaching sessions where clients believe they can't experience happiness or peace until they've "earned it" through extended periods without viewing porn.

In this episode, I explore how the inner critic often mimics external voices from our past - parents, religious leaders, and societal norms. I share a four-step approach to working with your inner critic that allows you to move from a place of shame to one of self-compassion and authentic change.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/inner-critic-hostage

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 227, inner critic, plus
0:06.9	holding yourself hostage. Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, where we take a research-based,
0:15.7	trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives.
0:26.2	I'm your host, Sarah Brewer.
0:29.8	Hey everyone, welcome to today's podcast episode.
0:33.5	Today we are going to be talking about your inner critic and also how your inner critic can
0:37.7	sometimes hold yourself hostage.
0:40.4	This came up recently thinking about a couple of different coaching calls we've had.
0:45.4	I used the term a couple of times in these coaching calls, like you're holding yourself hostage.
0:49.4	You're holding yourself hostage here.
0:51.9	And what I mean by that is, like, let me think of the specific example
0:55.6	was a client who could not feel happy because they had slipped up and viewed porn, right,
1:03.2	in their mind this slip up was a big mistake. They didn't want to view porn, but they did.
1:08.4	And therefore, they couldn't feel happy. They couldn't feel joy. They couldn't
1:12.3	feel peace. And so sometimes, especially in this quit porn world, you're hearing things about how
1:19.7	you never should look at porn and you're hearing things about what it means about you if you view
1:23.5	porn and that, you know, our goal here is to be just completely free and not have any relapses,
1:29.4	right? Sometimes the terminology we use around this. And if you do, if you go X amount of months without
1:35.2	viewing porn, I think with this client, it was like eight months. But you didn't make it a full year,
1:40.5	then bummer. You've got to try again and you've got to start over and it's going to take a whole year,
1:46.6	but eventually you're going to get there. Now, first off with situations like this, there's a lot to
1:51.7	look at and there's a lot of like uncovering to do. And I'm not going to go into all of the weeds of
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