221. When You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Shame

Overcome Pornography for Good

Sara Brewer

Christianity, Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness

5 • 679 Ratings

🗓️ 14 April 2025

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

Ever feel trapped in a shame spiral that logic just can't break? That overwhelming feeling where no matter how many reasons you list for why you shouldn't feel ashamed, the emotion persists and paralyzes you? This is exactly what I'm addressing in today's episode.

I share a training I conducted on treating shame as "offline work" and provide practical, body-based techniques to help you break free from shame spirals. You'll discover powerful somatic practices that create safety in your nervous system and can help you regain your rational thinking capacity when shame has taken you offline.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-offline-work

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast when you can't think your way out of shame.
0:07.4	Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn.
0:18.2	This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives.
0:23.7	I'm your host, Sarah Brewer.
0:27.4	Hey, you guys, welcome to today's episode. Today, I'm sharing a clip training that I did on
0:33.4	shame as offline work and what that means. So if you're really struggling with shame and shame is a
0:40.3	big emotion that seems to just come up over and over and over again, and maybe you understand the
0:45.2	model, maybe you've heard me talk about it, you're like, yes, shame doesn't help. I understand that,
0:49.5	but what do I do? I just feel stuck in it and you get stuck in the shame holes and there's like no way
0:56.1	out. You can't think your way out of it. You can't convince yourself as much evidence as you can get.
1:02.4	You just can't convince yourself that you should get out of the shame spiral. So what do we do then?
1:07.4	What do we do then? So that's what this training is all about. It's going to give you some amazing tools to work through shame when you can't just think your way out of it. And I'll see
1:17.9	this with clients when we're talking about shame and they're bringing all of these reasons to me.
1:22.5	They're like, I know I shouldn't feel shame because of this and this and this and this and logically
1:26.6	it makes sense that I shouldn't feel shame, but I am. and this and this and this. And logically, it makes sense that I
1:27.7	shouldn't feel shame, but I am. And so that's when we use these offline tools. And that's what
1:33.8	this is going to go in depth around. All right, you guys, enjoy this audio. We'll talk to you later.
1:39.4	Bye-bye.
1:41.4	Let's talk about shame as offline work.
1:45.0	Shame is more than a feeling.
1:47.8	It impacts multiple systems in our body, and it sometimes operates below the reach of rational thinking.
1:54.5	So when we think of the model and we put CTFAR, we put shame in as a feeling.
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