U Up?

This week  J  & J dig into Jared’s hilarious origin story as a summer camper in New England, and how it still resonates with his life today. The episode kicks off with listener feedback on Jared’s ongoing Summer Dating Challenge, followed by a laugh-out-loud “Icky or Picky” that’s both “yummy” and divisive. Next, the hosts answer a listener’s question about how to date more intentionally in a world full of people still "figuring out their relationship type." Finally, J+J wrap up with a Red Flag or Deal Breakers, where they dive into travel compatibility, the chronic relationship type, and a bold move from someone handing out their number. 00:00 - Intro 13:00 - Jared's New England Camp Days 20:39 - Summer Dating Challenge 39:12 - More Is Not More 54:01 - Different Vacation Styles in Couples #Dating #Advice #Hinge #Debate #RedFlag #Dealbreaker #DatingApps #Podcast #Summer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Published: 13 August 2025

Jared and Jordana sit down with Sophie, who’s originally from the UK and now building her life in New York City, to unpack a long-distance love that won’t quite let go. After a whirlwind month together, she and her high school crush tried to make it work across continents, but mismatched communication styles and visa hurdles got in the way. Now he says he’s willing to wait until her “New York chapter ends,” but Sophie’s unsure if that’s romantic or just unrealistic. Is it love, pressure, or emotional limbo? They explore long-distance struggles, the tension of timing, and the culture clash between UK and NYC dating! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 August 2025

Jared and Jordana unpack the dos and don’ts of dating in the age of social media. Jared explains why unfollowing your ex immediately after a breakup is a crucial act of self-care and shares the three things you need to consider when managing your breakup posts online. They talk about the subtle ways we use stories to check if someone’s watching and break down which ex photos to keep, edit, or delete to protect your new dating life. We also discuss a listener's question, do you need permission to follow you best friend's new boyfriend? It's a social media themed episode, be sure to listen and take notes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 August 2025

Jared and Jordana are back with another movie review episode of The Materialists, directed by Celine Song and starring Dakota Johnson, Chris Evans, and Pedro Pascal. Spoiler alert!! J&J break down the film’s portrayal of matchmaking as cold and transactional, and ask whether Song set out to take down the matchmaking industry altogether. From red flag roommate situations to Coke-and-beer drink orders, J&J debate every messy decision and chaotic romance. Is it a rom-com, a satire, or something much darker? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 August 2025

Jordana shares her firsthand experience at a concert when she witnessed the viral moment Mr. Met fell off stage at Citi Field, breaking it down with Jared as pure comedy gold. Jared and Jordana read a listener’s email about a guy’s shy hopscotch move on a first date and debate when quirky crosses into “icky.” They dive into a friendship dilemma about hooking up with a best friend’s college fling years later, exploring honesty and boundaries. Plus, Jared calls out the major red flag of guys asking for selfies before the first date: “If a woman asks me for pictures, I’m opting out.” This episode covers hilarious fails, dating deal breakers, and navigating complicated friendships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 July 2025

Dating in your 40s? Jared and Jordana break down why it actually gives you the upper hand, less game-playing, more clarity, and faster exits from the wrong situations. A listener writes in about a promising new connection and a big reveal, prompting a convo on knowing what you want as you get older. Then, they react to a jaw-dropping first-date horror story involving a drunk, naked sleepwalker and a ruined mattress. The debate continues: is peeing the bed a dating red flag... or just a funny story? Modern dating, relationship boundaries, and chaotic hookups, this episode has it all! full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/wOrL4kV0bSQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 July 2025

Would you go to a concert solo? In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana play “Would You Go Alone?” and debate when flying solo feels empowering versus just sad. They break down the “casual clock” - the timeline guys follow to keep things casual while still reaping relationship benefits. Then, a listener's email sparks a debate: is groaning at helping an elderly woman a red flag or just bad timing? They also run through a list of mama’s boy behaviors, from outfit picks to dentist appointments, and ask: is it icky or just picky? If you’ve ever wondered why he keeps coming back without committing, or how much mom-involvement is too much, this episode has answers! Watch full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/xi2KPzZAAfs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 July 2025

In this episode, Jordana and Jared welcome Brooke Miccio and Danielle Carolan, co-hosts of the popular Gals on the Go podcast. They dive into their journey as college influencers and how social media shapes modern dating and relationships, especially across Gen Z and Millennial cultures. Brooke and Danielle open up about living with their boyfriends, relationship boundaries, and how to navigate shared spaces without losing your mind! Jared reacts to Brooke’s viral TikTok claiming she’s been “single since birth,” questioning if that’s a real thing, sparking a fun debate about dating timelines and how men and women perceive time differently.  Full episode here 👉https://youtu.be/uqr_cPhgdxc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 July 2025

In this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationship gets ghosted before the first date, and Jared reminds us that nothing counts until you’re actually face-to-face. Watch episode here 👉https://youtu.be/aKH7wyMgbMw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 July 2025

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also unpack a front-row breakup at Atsuko’s comedy show and debate whether the full moon really messes with your mood (and your mom). It all wraps up with a petty game of “Apology or Nah?” that exposes just how messy post-breakup etiquette can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 July 2025

In this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forgetfulness on dates. Whether you’re navigating relationship closure or crafting your dating profile, this episode delivers honest, funny, and relatable advice. Perfect for singles eager to improve their dating strategy and avoid common pitfalls in today’s dating apps. Tune in for candid insights and laughter-filled stories that will change the way you date! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/Pv_Msu2Qp6o Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2025

This week’s Friday Feels episode gets deep and personal with special guest Case Kenny, author, mindfulness expert, and the man behind the viral quotes shared by Oprah, SZA, and Selena Gomez. Jordana and Jared sit down with Case to talk about his new book The Opposite of Settling and explore why the best relationships amplify who you already are. They dig into what it means to have “out of town confidence,” how optimism and trust shape our dating lives, and why independence is the real secret to intimacy. Then, it’s time for Settling or Settling Up? where J&J get Case’s take on real listener scenarios, from stingy tippers to partners who still text their ex. Can love survive political differences or a forgotten birthday? Case shares why playfulness, clarity, and self-worth matter more than a perfect love story. This episode will shift how you think about dating and maybe even yourself! Watch episode here 👉 https://youtu.be/kfP_MN82co4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 July 2025

Jared and Jordana are kicking off the summer with a sizzling episode of U Up?, just in time for Fourth of July weekend, aka the perfect holiday to meet someone new. They dive into the difference between “main street” and “back alley” dates, and why your best romantic opportunities might be hiding in plain sight at a rooftop BBQ. A listener writes in after being kicked off Hinge by a jealous date who reported her when she didn’t want to keep seeing him after date three which brings on the game “Hinge Court,” where J&J rule on the internet’s biggest dating crimes. Plus, a heated email sparks debate: is a twin bed a red flag or just a red herring? And finally, a former sugar daddy confesses his past would you swipe right on that? This episode is packed with hot takes, dating wisdom, and enough corn-on-the-cob discourse to carry you through your next barbecue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 July 2025

In this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the chaotic brilliance of the 90s rom-com My Best Friend’s Wedding. They unpack the iconic “Say a Little Prayer” scene and ask why George isn’t the real lead?! George is loyal, hilarious, and flies to Chicago twice with zero expectations. Jared jokes he’d do the same for Jordana! The two debate who the true villain is: manipulative Julianne or emotionally unavailable Michael. They also question why everyone in the movie is kissing on the lips, including Kimberly and her dad. Through it all, they explore how the film’s dated relationship norms still spark modern-day debates about friendship, insecurity, and love, especially through the performances of Julia Roberts, Dermot Mulroney, Cameron Diaz, and Rupert Everett. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 June 2025

This week on U Up? Jordana recounts a chaotic suburban showdown between her dog Ron and a rogue bird, complete with screaming, bird smacking, and an emergency vomit, an instant Jersey Shore Sammi Sweetheart moment. Then, J&J dive into listener emails starting with a baffling date: is four bathroom breaks in three hours a red flag or just…hydration? They weigh in on whether an ex checking your LinkedIn weekly for months is creepy or kind of romantic ("The sad version of The Notebook"). Plus, a listener wonders if post-sex texting equals intimacy. Jordana breaks down why good texting isn’t the same as making real plans. From social media stalking to suburban dog drama, this episode delivers laughs, real talk, and dating advice you didn’t know you needed. Watch full ep 👉 https://youtu.be/ejaxFdMHGiY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 June 2025

It’s summer and Jordana’s pool dreams are on pause thanks to Long Island’s signature pace: dial-up internet speed! She and Jared unpack the clash between millennial efficiency and suburban business hours. Then, it’s a deep dive into modern dating quirks: should you cone or cup it on an ice cream date (and what does it say about you)? Plus, a howling ritual sparks a debate, red flag or just a full moon vibe? They also weigh in on whether a social media presence is a dating necessity or just mental clutter. From wolf howls to Insta reboots, it’s a perfect storm of pool drama, personal growth, and pizza-fueled revelations! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 June 2025

In this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared get cozy (Jordana’s new super soft tomato-knit top yes plz) and tackle the fine line between a compliment and a fashion read. “Comfortable” isn’t always a compliment! From decoding the art of dressing for a first date (hint: you only need one killer outfit) to unpacking the emotional baggage of co-parenting and overly close ex-relationships, they cover it all. Listener dilemmas spark juicy discussions about red flags, cringey sexual phrasing, and what it really means when your date goes through your purse. It’s a full rundown of fashion, feelings, and the fine print of modern dating. Tune in for real talk, relationship strategy, and a healthy dose of laughter! Check it out on YT too!👉 https://youtu.be/gPiif2pcZC8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 June 2025

This week’s Friday Feels kicks off with Jared reading a wild email straight from Hinge warning him that he may have matched with a scammer, which shocks Jordana but begs the question, did she have big boobs? From there, J&J spiral into a hilarious breakdown of dating app red flags and how scams somehow still get the swipe! Jordana defends her claim that eating tuna on a plane isn’t a crime, a lot of people love tuna! Then it’s time for some truly petty (or prudent?) listener emails, including one woman who stayed rent-free in her ex’s house and pulled off a stealth open house heist. Another listener hooked up with her downstairs neighbor and is now dodging plans, clingy texts, and sunburn lotion requests! Tune in on YouTube too! 👉 https://youtu.be/wzbXie8USpE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2025

Jared’s back from his first official week in Delray Beach, and Jordana wastes no time roasting his full Florida transformation complete with Joe Dirt vibes and surprise gifts for the crew (check out on YT!) In this ep, J&J weigh in on a Couples Court case where a boyfriend suggests his girlfriend ditch the hair dye to cut costs, sparking a convo about appearance, control, and whether your partner gets a say. Then, they dive into the age-old question: are women funny? A listener’s date doesn’t laugh at her (objectively great) jokes but loves Joe Rogan, and the hot takes start flying. Another emailer preps for a speed dating event and asks how to talk about her dating history without killing the vibe. And finally, it’s a Red Flag or Deal Breaker that involves a 3D anime boob mousepad and a very confused boyfriend! Tune in for a hilarious show and hot takes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 June 2025

Summer is here as Jared shares his 4-step plan to beat dating app burnout, including why taking yourself out to dinner alone might be the reset you need! Then, J&J dive into a wild “Petty or Prudent?” email from a listener who exposed her cheating ex in a Facebook group, was it justified or just messy? They unpack the fine line between closure and revenge. Later, a married listener asks how to be a better wingwoman for her single sister without overselling or making things awkward. From dating drama to sisterly love, this episode is packed with laughs, real advice, and plenty of hot takes for summer! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/qJCrvMeT6Cs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 June 2025

Jared and Jordana unpack the emotional rollercoaster of casual dating with a 30-year-old man who swears he’s not looking for anything serious, but still plans elaborate dates that scream boyfriend energy. They ask: is it really casual if it feels that intentional? Then things get hilariously weird with a naked farmer, some questionable yoga rules, and a date who’s just trying to process it all. Plus, the hosts share the texting abbreviations that give them the instant ick—WYA, prolly, and NMU—and debate what your texts reveal about your dating potential. In Red Flag or Dealbreaker, they dissect a mistaken identity double date, a pasta-at-brunch breakup, and a guy using AI to scale his love life like a startup. With summer vibes, emotional honesty, and plenty of laughs, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating modern dating chaos! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 June 2025

From the scarcity of eligible men to the rise of sober dating, J&J explore in this Friday Feels ep how gender dynamics and societal shifts are reshaping the current dating landscape! The hosts unpack why ambitious women feel like they're settling and why men seem overwhelmed by options. Listener emails spark juicy debates, like whether it’s a red flag to bring your own Crystal Light to a date, and if saying “I love you” for the first time during sex means anything. With honest insights and hilarious moments J&J give their unfiltered takes! 👉https://youtu.be/dBD_46ZWYbU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 May 2025

J&J discuss scheduling conflicts and vet visit blunder to confessions of infidelity and the emotional fallout that follows! They read listener emails that unpack cheating dilemmas, post-divorce pettiness, and the struggles of physical incompatibility in otherwise perfect relationships. With signature humor and honesty, the hosts explore red flags, dealbreakers, and the importance of communication in both romantic and platonic relationships. From the aftermath of a wine spill to the complexities of being the only woman at a bachelor party, no dating dilemma is off-limits.  Tune in for relationship advice that’s equal parts therapy session and group chat energy, always with a comedic twist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2025

In this Friday Feels, we're joined by Matchmaker Maria, author of ⁠Ask a Matchmaker: A No-Nonsense Guide to Finding Love⁠. Maria returns to the show to dive into her viral “12-Date Rule,” a dating method that promotes emotional connection before physical intimacy. The results? Over 500+ engagements from a single U Up? episode alone! Who knows how many more overall! She even dishes on how she once tried to set Jared up on a date. For those skeptical about matchmaking, Maria shares insider tips on spotting industry red flags, recognizing legit certifications, and avoiding the fakes. They also explore Chapter 11 of her book, the “Relationship Roadmap,” a practical guide to getting from date one to planning your wedding. Whether you're single, dating, or knee-deep in the apps, this episode is full of no-nonsense advice that could seriously transform your love life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 May 2025

In this episode, J&J tackle a juicy batch of listener emails from kissing on first dates to baby pic icks and leftover disasters. We start off the ep with Jared finding himself stuck in planning hell, trying to lock down a date with one girl over 10 times! Should he keep trying or just wish her the best? One listener asks whether making out too early sends the wrong signal, sparking a deep dive into intentional dating and the 12-date rule. Then, it’s an “Icky or Picky” scenario straight from Snapchat hell: a guy reconnects after years apart only to flood her phone with baby selfies and MILF jokes. Ick or endearing? Plus, a date goes sideways when a woman drops her date’s bolognese, and he reacts like it’s a crime scene. Another listener wonders if being asked to pay for a date’s oil change is a red flag. Tune in for laughs, cringe, and straight-up truth bombs about love, attraction, and first date expectations! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/_RlsJyWsWRY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2025

In this week’s Friday Feels episode of the U Up? Podcast, Jared and Jordana take on the viral article that has everyone side-eyeing the West Village. From party buses to the “clean girl” aesthetic, they hilariously dissect the Gen Z lifestyle dominating Manhattan, complete with identical Adidas Sambas and curated matcha runs. The conversation sparks a nostalgic look at their own NYC moves and how zip codes became status symbols. Then, it’s time for two jaw-dropping listener emails: one from a woman who accidentally told her ex’s mom about his drug use, and another from a newly engaged listener questioning a shady congratulatory message from her fiancé’s ex. Tune in for real talk and funny, sharp takes! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/CgFHn3alGbk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 May 2025

Is it weird to like your ex’s engagement photo on Instagram? Jared poses the question to Jordana, kicking off an episode full of honest, hilarious, and sometimes cringey dating moments. The hosts dive into a listener’s story about being judged for her body count, exploring how sexual history conversations can shift a relationship’s tone. They break down a musty dating dilemma what to do when your date smells off despite checking every other box. Another listener struggles with her boyfriend keeping sentimental letters from exes, raising questions about emotional baggage and boundaries. Red Flag or Dealbreaker brings even more dating chaos, from chronic lateness to the sting of not having your number saved. Whether it’s intimacy, hygiene, or digital etiquette with your ex, J&J offer sharp insights and plenty of laughs. Watch full ep here! 👉 https://youtu.be/jh5FQLrx1sk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2025

On this Friday Feels ep of U Up?, Jared and Jordana are joined by Grammy-winning artist Maren Morris for a candid, heartfelt, and hilarious conversation you don’t want to miss! With her new album Dreamsicle dropping today, May 9, Maren opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of writing music, including the tear-jerking song “Kiss the Sky” that had both her and Jared crying on a plane. She also shares the ups and downs of her recent divorce and the journey of dating women for the first time. Maren explores the complexities of connection, chemistry, and the blurry line between friendship and romance when dating women. Plus, they dive into a juicy listener email about a boyfriend still following his ex on social media is it icky, or are we just being picky? Tune in for honest takes, big laughs, and the kind of emotional depth that only U Up? delivers! Watch full episode here 👉 https://youtu.be/4sQV7QQr5rQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2025

In this episode of U Up?, J&J dive into a tricky dilemma: can a promising romance survive the jobless stage? Then, they react to a guy who sent an AI-generated glam shot of his date before they even met—icky or picky? It gets weirder when a listener gets a Google Form survey after a first date. Is “red flag” even a strong enough term? 🚩 They also unpack a marital money mystery: what happens when your husband suddenly won’t split the tax return? Plus, hot takes on sober dating, parental meddling, and the weird stuff people do before a date. Listen, share, and catch the full episode on YouTube! https://youtu.be/bapaA54Mb_M Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2025

On this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, a listener shares a dating dilemma after learning her Hinge match has a blind, crossed eye only revealed after she asked him out. Was it honest transparency or low-key eye-fishing? Then, a Cute or Creepy case: a woman reads Harry Potter aloud to her boyfriend every night, sometimes in bed, sometimes with head scratches. Jordana loves the intimacy of the ritual, but Jared thinks is borderline weird and childlike. Jordana questions if it was a different book. Say 50 Shades of Grey instead? They debate where comfort ends and cringe begins in modern relationships. Tune in for honest takes, dating nuance, and the kind of judgment you want! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/Fo8Jscu4XLs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 May 2025

This week on U Up?, a listener asks whether a relationship can survive without sexual chemistry when her otherwise perfect boyfriend just isn’t into sex. Jared and Jordana also debate a Red Flag or Deal Breaker: is it a turnoff if your boyfriend uses prepaid Visa gift cards to buy an engagement ring? Plus, a cringeworthy dating moment when a Bumble match splits the bill, then retracts an extra tip to save $12. From low sex drive to money-related red flags, J&J break it all down with humor and real talk! Watch here on YouTube! Tune in for relatable dating advice and if in NYC, come to the live show!👉 ⁠https://betches.co/uuplive⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2025

On this Friday’s episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the drama surrounding Kaitlyn Bristowe and her ex-fiancé Jason Tartick! Specifically, the internet debate over Jason naming his new dog “Teddy,” the baby name Kaitlyn had saved for years. Was it shady, intentional, or just a dog name? Then, they read a listener email from a woman who feels like she's always "hosting" her dates. Trying so hard to be fun and charming that she forgets to figure out if she actually likes the person. Jared relates hard, and they both reflect on how to stop performing and start showing up authentically in dating. Whether you’re triggered by a dog name or just trying to enjoy your date, this ep’s got you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 April 2025

In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the emotional complexities of how often we say “I love you” in relationships and how to handle jealousy when a friend’s situationship turns into a full-blown romance. They respond to a listener who feels insecure about not hearing "I love you" enough from her boyfriend, despite a strong connection. Later, they unpack a listener’s jealousy over a friend’s relationship glow-up, likening the shift to going from doubles to singles tennis. Can being honest about jealousy actually deepen your connections? Tune in to find out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the emotional complexities of how often we say “I love you” in relationships and how to handle jealousy when a friend’s situationship turns into a full-blown romance. They respond to a listener who feels insecure about not hearing "I love you" enough from her boyfriend, despite a strong connection. Later, they unpack a listener’s jealousy over a friend’s relationship glow-up, likening the shift to going from doubles to singles tennis. Can being honest about jealousy actually deepen your connections? Tune in to find out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

Jay Shetty is back in the U Up? studio to catch up on his world tour and his new and unexpected love of pickleball. Jared and Jordana ask him some of your most burning listener questions, from navigating dating and emotional maturity to understanding what it truly means to “choose yourself.” Jay opens up about how people tend to respond to breakups and shares why trying to fix someone might actually be a red flag we often ignore. Jared also presents a few real-life dating scenarios, giving Jay the perfect setup for his signature pep talks filled with both insight and warmth! From decoding your own relationship patterns to supporting a partner without turning into a nag, Jay offers advice that feels both practical and deeply thoughtful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 April 2025

This week on U Up?, Jared and Jordana tackle listener emails covering everything from dog discipline to dating app strategy and even bad breath. A Confused Dog Mom asks if hitting a misbehaving pit bull is a red flag or deal breaker, while a self-described “catch” wonders if downplaying his profile might actually attract real love. Another listener faces a hygiene dilemma with an otherwise perfect partner. Plus, they dissect Justin Bieber’s cryptic post of Hailey set to Beyoncé’s Irreplaceable, shady or just chaos? Lastly, Jared’s doing a Dry April… but will he break the streak on the eve of the U Up? Live Show on April 30? (Spoiler: you’ll want to be there to find out!) 👉https://betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2025

On today’s Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana are joined by special guest Dr. Jaimie Glick, who shares the jaw-dropping story of her recent relationship that unraveled in the most modern, maddening way. Not because of lack of chemistry, but because she was too successful! Dr. Jaimie takes us from the spark of a rom-com-worthy meet-cute to a slow-burn realization that her partner might be dodging dinner dates and subtly relying on her to foot the bill. From intermittent fasting excuses to rent-controlled revelations and the infamous "solace in the philosophy" text, this is a story about money, pride, vulnerability, and the weird ways ambition can complicate connection. Jared and Jordana unpack the red flags and ask the big question: when is it okay to support your partner financially? Can transparency about money actually build intimacy? Or does success just intimidate the wrong people? Tune in for a hilarious, emotional, and thought-provoking look at modern dating, self-worth, and how sometimes the person who says they’re proud of you just can’t keep up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 April 2025

J&J are back with a fresh batch of dating dilemmas! First, Jordana’s journey into puppy parenthood has her seeing dog owners in a whole new light! But when a listener’s date casually mentions feeding their dog human food and giving it steroids, is that just a quirky habit or a major red flag? Jared and Jordana break down what pet parenting says about a person (and their dating potential). Then, they tackle a frustrating situation: What do you do when your friend hypes up a great guy but refuses to make the intro? They unpack the psychology behind "gatekeeping" in dating, why some people hesitate to set up their friends, and whether this guy is even interested or just a fantasy. Jared tells us how to ask your friends to set you up!! Plus, a wild dating scenario involving a guy who refuses to give oral (and thinks that’s normal?!) and another where a date finds their own dad’s headshot saved in someone’s phone. Tune in for laughs, hot takes, and some very strong opinions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 April 2025

On this special Friday Feels episode, Jared and Jordana welcome two incredibly hilarious guests, Andrew Chappelle and Cody Rigsby of the Tactful Pettiness podcast. These longtime friends take us on a journey through their rise in two powerhouse brands, Hamilton and Peloton, sharing hilarious and heartfelt stories of ambition, friendship, and love! Plus, they spill the tea on how they went from frenemies to business partners, their wildest breakup stories, and the struggles of dating while in the public eye. From the importance of punctuality in Broadway and fitness to navigating friendships and dating in the digital age, Andrew and Cody bring their signature wit and wisdom. They break down a listener’s dating dilemma, is he being strung along, or is his date just taking things slow? And of course, no episode would be complete without a little tactful pettiness. The crew debates the ultimate post-breakup move: stealing condoms on the way out. Petty or practical? Tune in for hilarious hot takes, savage dating truths, and plenty of laughs. Don't miss it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 April 2025

Chelsea Handler joins U Up? for a hilarious deep dive into her dating history—celebrities, non-celebrities, and even a near-miss with Andrew Cuomo. She spills the tea on how the former governor slid into her DMs (but didn’t seal the deal), the power players she’s dated, and why she’s got a thing for skiers. Chelsea also shares her “soar like an eagle” dating philosophy, admitting she’s not looking for "the one" but enjoys having fun on her own terms. Maybe Chelsea is Jared’s ideal woman?! The conversation also touches on the psychology of dating high-profile men, relationships with no money, and how her no-kids lifestyle has shaped her relationships. Plus, Chelsea opens up about her recent relationship with Mountain Man and reveals why chardonnay is an ick! It’s everything you love about U Up? with an extra shot of unfiltered Chelsea. And be sure to check out her new Netflix special, The Feeling, streaming now! Friday, March 28th Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 April 2025

It’s a Friday Feels episode, and we’ve got the hilarious Nimesh Patel joining Jordana and Jared! He’s here to talk about rebelling against his traditional parents and how life has changed since becoming a dad. Jared shares with Jordana and listeners that Nimesh has been crushing it on TikTok…without ever monetizing it (yep, that’s money gone)! Nimesh shares the peaks and pits of being a first-time parent and how his marriage has changed since having a baby. Then, they dive into a listener’s dilemma: her boyfriend promised to archive a photo of his ex from Instagram, but months later, it’s still there! Is this a red flag or just classic guy behavior? Nimesh gets put in the hot seat when Jared challenges him to answer as if he were giving his own daughter advice! Tune in now! Watch the full episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 March 2025

In this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the art of meeting people IRL. A listener asks about making real-life connections outside of dating apps and wonders how to approach people in person. Bar Comment Baits are Jared’s go-to method for starting conversations. Simple questions like “Did they have food at this bar?” or “Which team are you rooting for?” These small, natural ways to start a conversation can lead to meaningful interactions. Then, an awkward encounter leaves a listener confused after her date bailed at a salsa social and canceled their brunch plans the next day. What happened? Jordana and Jared weigh in on why men sometimes act mysteriously in these situations. Tune in for all the advice and laughs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 March 2025

J and J are talking to professional organizer Summer Rose to discuss the surprising connections between organization and dating. They explore how decluttering can transform not only physical spaces but also emotional well-being, making individuals feel more confident and ready for relationships. Summer shares insights on the emotional ties people have to their belongings, the benefits of hiring a professional organizer, and how organization can serve as a form of couples therapy. She shares insights on how clutter can impact one's ability to invite partners into their lives, the emotional attachments we have to our belongings, and practical strategies for decluttering both physical and digital spaces. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 March 2025

In this episode, Jordana's feeling a little bruised and Jared is unpacking the paradox of love’s give-and-take. First, J and J dive in, tackling a tried and true listener dilemma—should you be dating when your life feels like a total layover? Then, they break down the all-too-relatable struggle of texting purgatory on dating apps—are NYC men just looking for pen pals? Next up, Petty or Prudent features a long-lost (and very aggressively reclaimed) pair of grandma’s sneakers. And today's Red Flag or Deal Breaker debates some truly wild dating scenarios: a guy posting a second-date photo as his Facebook cover, a woman totally unphased by playing her dad’s love interest in a musical, and the ultimate modern communication nightmare—someone who only sends voice memos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 March 2025

Signs of spring are popping up everywhere, and we're embracing this spirit of renewal. Jordana shares some of her favorite lottery slogans and how they can be applied directly to your love life. And Jared takes his YouTube trolls head on and ends the Leonardo DiCaprio dating comparisons. Then, on "Petty or Prudent?", a listener gets cheated on by her longtime partner and decides to share the news with her ex's childhood role model and favorite high school teacher (Mr. Feeney anyone?). Later, a listener wonders if competitive dates are a bad idea after a night mini golfing with her boyfriend turns disastrous. New Yorkers -- U Up? LIVE is coming to a venue near you! Get your tickets to see Jared & Jordana live and in-person at The Palladium in Times Square on April 30th: https://betches.co/uuplive Today's the LAST DAY to get the official U Up? "Is That My Wife?" hat! Get yours here before it's too late: https://shop.betches.com/collections/hats/products/is-that-my-wife-hat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 March 2025

This week on U Up?, we’re making the most of our extra hour of daylight, mostly by making excuses to leave work early. Jared’s fresh off of a trip to Boca and has the fresh tan to prove it. Jordana’s planning for her own winter getaway with an upcoming trip to the Cayman Islands. Jared tells us about a strange run-in he had with a fan while on a swanky date.  Later, we hear from a listener who’s conflicted about whether or not she should go on a girl’s trip to Miami because it makes her boyfriend uncomfortable. On “Awkward Encounter,” an apartment nightmare turns into a reality when a listener’s sister finds out her ex boyfriend’s new girlfriend moved into the unit next door. On “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, we got bet bragging, dog poop hurling and trauma dumping.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 March 2025

On today's Friday Feels episode of U Up?, we're joined by musician and songwriter, Spritely, who captured the hearts and attention of millions after posting a spoof song about her shocking breakup with her longterm boyfriend. Spritely breaks down the full story behind her viral video, reflects on red flags from the relationship and answers some tough questions from J&J. Spritely's new single, "Before I Fall Apart," comes out on March 7th and can be streamed on Apple Music and Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 March 2025

Spring is only a few weeks away and J&J are here to get your dating life in tip-top shape. Jordana recounts a late night with the Betches that turned hairy when they almost got deserted at a Long Island steakhouse. Then, Jared gives his tips on how to make your dating app profile stand out and catch attention in only half a second. Later, Jordana explains how to work through an awkward texting dynamic early on in dating and Jared shares his own head-scratching situation.  Then we dive into our listener inbox and J&J talk a listener through how to follow up with a stranger he met in a real life meet-cute without seeming creepy. On “Are We Dating?”, J&J help out a listener whose weekend trips with her situationship have her stuck in the “back alley” of dating. Another listener writes in with fears that the guy she’s interested in may have put her on the back burner. On this week’s “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, aggressive texts, anti-vegetarian dating profiles and piss pots.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 March 2025

It’s Friday and Jordana’s feeling sassy. She’s got a new game to play with Jared called “Pack or Pass?” Here’s how it works—would you relocate to Buffalo to stay with the love of your life? The game explores just how far you'd be willing to go, literally, for your relationship. Later, on "Awkward Encounter," we hear from a listener who experiences an unforgettable ick when her date insists on carrying an umbrella for shade during an entire hike. Then, a busy single mom writes in about a new guy she’s excited about, but feels overwhelmed by his constant texting. J&J offer advice on how to set communication boundaries without killing the spark of a new romance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 February 2025

Jared’s officially off on his Australia and New Zealand tour and hopes to meet some of our down under listeners at his upcoming shows. Later, he tells a story about his own awkward encounter with a gastroenterologist and Jordana dissects a texting exchange Jared had with a woman he was seeing that turned sour. We dive into our email inbox and hear from a listener who is worried that sleeping with a new romantic interest on their first date may have jeopardized their chance at a committed relationship. Then we hear from a listener who isn’t sure if shooting her shot was worth it. And this week’s Awkward Encounter has us wondering if there's any situation where a cheese grater is a remotely acceptable birthday gift. Later on Red Flag or Deal Breaker, we hear about some eligible bachelors who are still legally married (possibly for financial reasons), who use bots to flirt with women and who ask you to go barefoot at a bar on the first date.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 February 2025