Sex Chat for Christian Wives

We tackle some tough listener questions today, with a biblical perspective and authenticity. Learn what we have to say about a lack of desire postpartum, a husband who wants to engage sexually through Facetime, and maintaining intimacy when chronic illness makes it difficult. Sponsor Healing from betrayal and sexual wounding is possible. Sexual Clarity for Christian Women: Reclaiming Your Sexual Identity After Betrayal, helps you know you’re not alone in wanting to have better understanding of healthy, godly sexuality and sexual experience! By the end of this course, you’ll stand tall and take the wheel of who you are sexually as a Christian woman empowered and filled with peace. Also don't forget about J's new book, The Higher Desire Wife! It's on sale wherever books are sold, but you can get the best deal through Baker Books or order through Amazon to give us a small affiliate commission without any additional cost to you. From the Bible And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:25 (ESV) Resources Motherhood and Libido • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Q&A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy & Humorous After Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven Wife How Having Kids Depleted My Sexual Desire - Knowing Her Sexually (written for husbands) Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy - Knowing Her Sexually (written for husbands) Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Sliquid Soul Coconut Oil Personal Lube - Married Dance Amazon Fresh, Organic Virgin Coconut Oil (for personal lubricant, use virgin/unrefined coconut oil) When My Sex Life Sucked - Part 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous When My Sex Life Sucked - Part 2 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Better Help (use code 4CW to get 10% off your first month) Why I Took My Breast Implants Out - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sex Advice for Wives with Chronic Illness - Honeycomb & Spice Dealing with Erection Problems | The Forgiven Wife Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program - Married Dance Penis Sleeves and Strokers - Married Dance  Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible by Chris Taylor – WORTHY Bible Studies Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - Honeycomb & Spice Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - Honeycomb & Spice Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 29 April 2025

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about whether it's okay to use vibrators—and why it might be worth looking into. Click here for the Married Dance vibrator pilot program. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 22 April 2025

Jenn Schmidt from Intimate Covenant joins us to overcoming sexual abuse and building a healthy, intimate sex life with your husband. NOTE: J totally got the episode number wrong! Not the first time she's been wrong. ~wink~ Sponsor Visit Better Help to get matched with a therapist who shares your values and can address your issues. Use code 4CW to get 10% off your first month. From the Bible Praise the Lord, my soul,     and forget not all his benefits— who forgives all your sins     and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit     and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things     so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. The Lord works righteousness     and justice for all the oppressed. Psalm 103:2-6 Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesda and which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?” “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.” Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked. John 5:2-9a For your Maker is your husband— the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Resources Intimate Covenant Podcast Intimate Covenant Retreat Trapped by Trauma | The Forgiven Wife Mending the Remnants of Brokenness | The Forgiven Wife For My Sister Sexual Assault Survivors | The Forgiven Wife Your Wife Has Been Sexually Harassed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth - Sex Chat for Christian Wives My Larry Nassar Testimony Went Viral. But There’s More to the Gospel Than Forgiveness. - Christianity Today Triggers: What They Are, How They Form, and What to Do Box Breathing for Stress - CHI Health About EMDR Therapy - EMDR International Association The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Is Your Wife a Survivor? - Knowing Her Sexually Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 15 April 2025

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about using kegel exercises to enhance your climax. Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women, Mayo Clinic   1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm, OysterBed7 Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 8 April 2025

It's the OG gang today talking about taking care of your sexual self—particularly the physical aspect of our female sexuality. Take a listen! Sponsor We still 🩷💜🩷 Share the Soap and know you will too! They're currently offering 25% off geranium hydrosol spray, plus get a FREE aloe & goat milk lotion premium sample when using code FCWA all thru the month of April. From the Bible Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19–20 Resources Episode 109: Your Sexual Self Screening for Cervical Cancer | Cervical Cancer | CDC (with Pap smear recommendations) Sliquid Splash Gentle Feminine Wash - Married Dance Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Sex After a Hysterectomy - Part 1: The Basics | The Forgiven Wife Sex After a Hysterectomy – Part 2: The Aftermath | The Forgiven Wife Sex After a Hysterectomy - Part 3: Your New Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife Barbie movie – Barbie meets an old woman Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives Feet and Sex • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Still Becoming One | Brad & Kate Aldrich What Makes You Feel Sexy? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hint Water and Body Armor This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: How the Pill Changes Everything  by Sarah Hill Episode 149: Your Body, Your Health, and Your Sex Life Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 1 April 2025

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about how initiating sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 27 March 2025

On her book's launch day, J. Parker hosts three fellow higher desire wives—Tara Buchanan, Julie Sibert, and Tammy Hopkins—for a special roundtable on when she wants sex more than he does. NOTE: Please forgive the not-so-great audio at times in this episode. We did our best without the usual professional equipment. Sponsor Check out J. Parker's new book, The Higher Desire Wife, now available wherever books are sold! From the Bible I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker The Higher Desire Wife - Baker Book House (best US price) Behind Our Smiles podcast, with Tara & Joe Buchanan Intimacy in Marriage – Julie Sibert Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage by Jeffrey Murphy & Julie Sibert Higher Desire Wife Community The Marriage Bed (mentioned by Tammy) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 18 March 2025

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about how kegel exercises help your sexual pleasure. Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women, Mayo Clinic   1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm, OysterBed7 Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 12 March 2025

Phylicia Masonheimer joins us to discuss what a theology of sex is, why we struggle with it, and how to develop a better theology. Sponsor We LOVE Share the Soap! Check out their fabulous skin-care products made with from goat milk, essential oils, and other wholesome ingredients. From the Bible But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Galatians 5:22–23 (NLT) The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 1 John 4:16 (ESV) For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:15–16 Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’ “For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’” And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? Luke 18:1–7 So Moses brought their case before the Lord, and the Lord said to him, “What Zelophehad’s daughters are saying is right. You must certainly give them property as an inheritance among their father’s relatives and give their father’s inheritance to them. Numbers 27:5–7 “If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged to anyone and has sex with her, he must pay the customary bride price and marry her. But if her father refuses to let him marry her, the man must still pay him an amount equal to the bride price of a virgin. Exodus 22:16-17 (NLT) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33 Resources Every Woman a Theologian - Phylicia Masonheimer The Sex Talk You Never Had by Phylicia Masonheimer Episode 154: Why We’re Against Porn and Erotica Common Myths of Romance Novels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wired for Story: The Writer's Guide to Using Brain Science to Hook Readers from the Very First Sentence by Lisa Cron Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Reasons Satan Targets Marriage • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Francie Winslow (mentioned by Phylicia, but 😊, we'd already booked her for a future episode!) Four Ways to Absorb God’s Truth about Intimacy in Marriage | The Forgiven Wife Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too The Higher Desire Wife - Baker Book House (pre-order and get bonuses!) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 5 March 2025

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about using baby wipes in the bedroom. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 26 February 2025

Today, we tackle the sensitive subject of masturbation. What does the Bible say about it? Why do Christians differ on their opinions? And how can we discern what's right for us? Sponsor Thanks, once again, to Married Dance for sponsoring this episode. Check them out for quality products displayed in a nudity-free and marriage-focused environment. Great customer service too! From the Bible But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. 1 Timothy 3:1–5 (not about masturbation, but a passage we discussed and worth reading in context for yourself) “Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12 “Everything is permissible,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible,” but not everything builds up. 1 Corinthians 10:23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. James 4:17 Resources Solo Masturbation? | The Forgiven Wife Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Orgasms Make You Squeamish? It's OK To Explore Your Body • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 76: Listener Questions (includes "Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works?") Episode 124: Touching Yourself, Sex Just for Fun & Erectile Problems (Answering Listener Questions) (including touching yourself during sex) Two Wives & Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous Two Wives. Talking About Masturbation. – Intimacy in Marriage More Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous More Masturbation Talk. From a Couple of Wives. – Intimacy in Marriage Episode 151: Q&A - Sex Tips, Fantasy, Refusing Sex & Elusive Orgasm (fantasizing during sex) How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker (releases March 18, preorder now!) Episode 185: Women’s Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy by Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka Joy Skarka – Creating Spaces to Set Christian Women Free from Porn and Sexual Shame Porn Addiction Help for Women | XXXchurch.com Help for Women Who Have a Sex Addiction - SAA SheRecovery.com | Pornography & Sexual Addiction Support for Women The Female Addict & Unraveled – Pure Desire Ministries Workshop Healing For Women - Bethesda Workshops L.I.F.E. Guide for Women: A Workbook for Women Seeking Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree Love Sick: One Woman's Journey through Sexual Addiction by Sue William Silverman Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker 

Transcribed - Published: 18 February 2025

This week's quickie is from J Parker about celebrating Valentine's Day. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 11 February 2025

We've been talking about sexual experience for many years now, and we figured it was time to discuss why sex even matters in marriage? What's the point? Sponsor It's Choose Your Promo month at Share the Soap! Pick either: Celebration box, a quarterly subscription box filled with uniquely curated items only available for that box as well as proven customer favorites. Get $10 off your first box with code FCWCELBOX1! The subscription is open now through February 21 and ships on February 28. It’s the perfect way to prepare for date night while treating yourself. Sensual Set, which sets the mood for date night or any night. Perfect for Valentine’s Day! Take $10 off with our code, FCWCOUPLE, through February 28. From the Bible God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Genesis 1:28 Adam made love to [yada] his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, “With the help of the Lord I have brought forth a man.” Genesis 4:1 May your fountain be blessed,     and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—     may her breasts satisfy you always,     may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19 [He] I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;     I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;     I have drunk my wine and my milk. [Friends] Eat, friends, and drink;     drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:7-9 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25 For your Maker is your husband— the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you. Isaiah 62:5 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31-32 Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready. Revelation 19:7 Resources Episode 171: What’s So Great About Sex? What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Touchstone: Sex Is Fun, Part 1 | The Forgiven Wife Boom-Boom Playtime: Sex Is Fun, Part 2 | The Forgiven Wife Supernatural Sex: Spiritual Dimension of Libido for Low-Drive Wives | OysterBed7 Episode 147: God, Sex, and Your Marriage, with Dr. Juli Slattery Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy Sex Is Like Rose-Colored Glasses | Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 50: Happily, with Kevin A. Thompson Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson 8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex | The Forgiven Wife Episode 125: Is Sex a Need? "Sexual Morality," Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis Hope for Wives Podcast (with Bonny Burns) Our Webinars (6 available, each $10 or less!) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker  

Transcribed - Published: 5 February 2025

As we embark on a new year, we talk about the goal of sexual growth, how to pursue it, and what you can expect along the way. Sponsors Get the insights and help you need with therapy from Better Help. Also sponsored by Married Dance, your go-to site for marital aids, lubricant, and more—all in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment. From the Bible In the same way, you wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won over without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your pure and respectful behavior. 1 Peter 3:1–2 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 Resources Intimacy in Marriage – Julie Sibert's website Knowing Her Sexually podcast Submission Doesn’t Mean Putting Up with Sexual Misbehavior Episode 163: What About Sex Toys? How to Turn Your Marriage Around | Hot, Holy & Humorous How Growth Looks | The Forgiven Wife Strong Wives – coaching with Bonny What If Your Husband Responds Negatively to Your Sexual Changes? | The Forgiven Wife Sexual Disintegrity – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #1 | The Forgiven Wife Sexual Stewardship – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #2 | The Forgiven Wife Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3 | The Forgiven Wife Intimacy Mentoring with Chris Taylor How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels | Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels | Hot, Holy & Humorous Behind Our Smiles Podcast Tara Buchanan's story is in J's upcoming book, The Higher Desire Wife (you can preorder now) Tip Me Over | The Generous Wife (Lori Byerly) Unexpected Benefits: 10 Years of Growth | The Forgiven Wife Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 28 January 2025

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the many ways you can give your husband oral sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 14 January 2025

Subscribe to Our Upcoming Newsletter HERE. What is "celebration sex"? You might think of it as sex on a special occasion like a birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day, or some other holiday. But we believe it can and should be a true celebration of marital intimacy, so today we tackle the what, why, and how of planning for celebration sex.  Sponsor We love Share the Soap and know you will too. Check them out! From the Bible I belong to my beloved,     and his desire is for me. Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,     let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards     to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened,     and if the pomegranates are in bloom—     there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:10–12 Resources Doc Johnson GoodHead Spray Song of Songs Coupons for Him - Hot, Holy & Humorous Song of Songs Coupons for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous With 1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (kegels!) 5 Ways "Hotel Sex" Can Improve Your Marriage Episode 60: Vacation Sex Episode 182: Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie) Episode 117: Prayer and Sex Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 8 January 2025

This week's quickie is from J Parker about focusing on intimacy during the holidays. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! If you're looking for Christmas ideas for you and your sweetie, check out our 2025 Christmas gift episode!

Transcribed - Published: 26 November 2024

It's our annual holiday gift guide for wives! We've got great gift ideas to enhance intimacy in every room of your house: kitchen, living room, bathroom, and bedroom.  Sponsor Married Dance – a Christian sex toy store with discreet shipping, great customer service, and marriage-focused product information From the Bible Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17 Resources To Romance, With Love: A Cookbook for Lovers and Those Who Want to Be Date Night Cookbook and Activities for Couples: Recipes and Games for a Romantic Night In The Date Night Cookbook Cooking Aprons for Couple Mr./Mrs. Aprons, Dish Towels, Oven Mitts, and Pot Holders Set Set of 3 Gold Candle Holders Chirstmas Green Taper Candles Dinnerware Dishes Set - Green, Service for 4 Wine Glass Set of 2, Modern Stemless Golden Edge Sony Wireless Portable Bluetooth Speaker Throw Blanket Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw Twister (classic midcentury game!) Retro Jacks Game (perfect for two) To Catch a Thief Movie (smart midcentury romance) Crayola Take Note Dry Erase Markers or Chalkola Dry Erase Marker Chalk Pens (vintage colors) Post-it Heart Shape Notes OR Cute Animal Appreciation Sticky Notes Aqua Love Notes Shower Note Pad "Disco" Shower Head Gorilla Grip Extra Thick Kneeling Pad Face & Body Crayons Mr. Bubble Bubble Bath Share the Soap Assorted Half-dozen Goat Milk Bath Soaks or Bath Soak Powders Sex Furniture - Married Dance Liberator Sex Bean Bag Sex Loungers Liberator Wedge Pillow Song of Solomon 3:4 Wall Decal Sex Position Cards Lingerie from Honoring Intimates or Mentionables 60-Day Risk-Free Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator Pilot Program - Married Dance 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program - Married Dance 60-Day Risk-Free Vibrating Ring Pilot Program - Married Dance Brut Splash-On Original Fragrance for Men Prince Matchabelli Wind Song Fragrance for Women La Jolie Muse Sandalwood Rose Natural Soy Candle Vintage Peignoir Set (one size) Peignoir Set (plus-size) Feathered Slipper Heels Feathered Slippers Without Heels Donate to Our Ministry! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 21 November 2024

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with four ways to be fully present during sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 13 November 2024

When it comes to making time for sexual intimacy during the holiday rush, it can be wonderfully stressful or wonderfully playful or anything in between. We discuss how to navigate the busy-ness and stress of the holidays so that you can create a time of playfulness with your spouse and give you some ideas to build playfulness in your relationship and sex life. Sponsor Share the Soap provides skin care products with natural and carefully curated ingredients. With the Sensual Senses Set, Share the Soap is offering an additional bonus for our listeners: FREE lip balm for kissable lips when using code FCWDATENIGHT. Add the set and the lip balm to the cart, then apply the code, and the lip balm will show FREE. From the Bible Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6–7 Resources Season of Joy or Season of Stress? | The Forgiven Wife Pare Christmas Down to Four Priorities • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Weathering the Holiday Storm | The Forgiven Wife The Pop-Up Christmas Tree J. Parker Owns Video of Pop-Up Christmas Tree Set-Up Purchase Your Own Easy-Peasy, Pop-Up Tree Pine-Scented Candle (Amazon) 7 Tips for Having Sex at the Parents' House - Hot, Holy & Humorous Make Your Home Sex-Friendly for Holiday Guests - Hot, Holy & Humorous 10 Intimate Things to Enjoy for Christmas - Hot, Holy & Humorous Elaine Dancing (Seinfeld) Mentionables Lingerie (use code 4CHRISTIANWIVES for 10% off!) Honoring Intimates Lingerie Bow-Dazzle! and 10 Other Ways to Keep Your Sex Life Alive During the Holidays | The Forgiven Wife String Lights (Amazon) Hallmark Christmas Bows (Amazon) Donate to Our Ministry HERE Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 5 November 2024

What do women want to know about sex when we're face to faced with them? While we have regular listener question episodes, we wanted to address FAQs we get when speaking to a group or working with individuals or small groups. So get ready for six common questions and our answers. Sponsor Better Help can match you with a licensed, trained, experienced, and accredited therapist who shares your faith foundation. Access care through messaging, live chats, phone, and/or video conferencing. Check them out HERE. Our episode is also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a marriage-focused Christian sex toy store. From the Bible Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9–11 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,     so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west,     so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:11–12 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 (not Acts 2:38 or John 3:16...though those are great too!) But that is not the way you learned Christ!— assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:20–24 You turned my wailing into dancing;     you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent.     Lord my God, I will praise you forever. Psalm 30:11–12 Resources Episode 194: Creative Timing (Quickie) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why She's Too Busy to Have Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (for husbands) Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 191: What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It? - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 18: How Will I Ever Trust My Partner, Again? - Hope For Wives Rebuilding Intimacy in Marriage (When Trust Has Been Damaged) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 185: Women's Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka - Sex Chat for Christian Wives The Intimacy Pyramid Approach Your Sex Life Like It’s a Jigsaw Puzzle - Honeycomb & Spice Episode 141: How to Do Oral Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Is It Okay to Say No? - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Is Anal Sex Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Don't Men Fess Up About Having the Lower Drive? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our Speaking, Coaching & Communities Learn more about J Speaking to Your Group J's Higher Desire Wife Community Contact Bonny about Speaking Learn more about Coaching with Bonny Chris's Intimacy Mentoring Preorder THE HIGHER DESIRE WIFE (J. Parker's upcoming release) at 40% off or purchase from Amazon. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2024

This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about how to have a conversation about mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 22 October 2024

This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about things to consider when you and your spouse have mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2024

Chris and J answer listener questions about sex after a vasectomy, competing with his phone for attention, plus-sized lovemaking, and how to use lube without losing the mood. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap, our favorite skin-care shop, for sponsoring this episode. Check them out: Share the Soap online store From the Bible Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance. Proverbs 1:5 (ESV) Resources What's So Great about "Shooting Blanks"? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Get Off Your Screen & Have Sex with Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives (Available for preorder now!) Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - Honeycomb & Spice Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - Honeycomb & Spice Episode 111: Accepting Your Body Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid – Married Dance Full Chart of Over 300 Different Sex Positions (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Q&A with J: A Guide to Using Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous Ask Us a Question KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 10 October 2024

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the importance of prioritizing sexual intimacy in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 2 October 2024

We welcome Christian sex therapist Karissa Curtis to discuss talking to kids—our own and others in our church—about sex. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, I have sent them into the world. John 17:14–18 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:5–9 Resources Karissa Curtis's website, Freedom Counseling Talking to Your Kids about Sex: No More One & Done - Hot, Holy & Humorous Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation by Dan B. Allender Authentic Intimacy - Juli Slattery's site Teach Your Kids the Correct Words for Body Parts - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Talk to a Teen about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Top 10 Things To Teach Teens About Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 181: Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley Creating an Intimacy Timeline - Hot, Holy & Humorous Before The Sex Talk: A Theology of the Body Approach for Parents and Mentors by Linda Noble and Linda Stewart 5 Times You Teach Holy and Healthy Sex to Your Kids - Hot, Holy & Humorous Parent Resources Recommended by Karissa Curtis (downloadable PDF) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 24 September 2024

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about adding fun to your marriage using items commonly found in autumn. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2024

We discuss how a wife's sexual response differs from her husband's, and how she can explain her female sexuality to him. Sponsor Happy Fall from Share the Soap! Buy 2 Get 1 FREE any item! Put 3 items in the cart. Use coupon code FCWFALL. Lowest item will be FREE. Mix and match products. *Applies to all products except Just a Girl Merch.* From the Bible You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body   and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!   Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. Psalm 139:13–14 (NLT) Resources Understanding Your Sex Drive - Webinar Replay - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Understanding Her Sex Drive - Webinar Replay - Sex Chat for Christian Wives 2019 Webinar Series - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (includes two above + foreplay) 2019-2020 Webinar Bundle - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (all of our current webinars) Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex Man vs. Woman: The Differences - Hot, Holy & Humorous “The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model,” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, Rosemary Basson Rosemary Basson's circular response cycle diagram Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Webinars - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 10 September 2024

This week's quickie is from J Parker about using creative timing to maintain or increase your sexual frequency. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 4 September 2024

Let's talk about the five senses—touch, sight, hearing, smell, and taste—and how to make the most of them to increase your sexual interest and enhance your lovemaking experience. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance, a Christian sex toy & marital aid store.  From the Bible For you created my inmost being;     you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;     your works are wonderful,     I know that full well. Psalm 139:13–14 My dove in the clefts of the rock,     in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face,     let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet,     and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Episode 179: Light Hearts & Lingerie Introduction to Sensate Focus Dona Massage Lotion - Married Dance Intimate Organics Energizing Massage Oil - Married Dance Fuzu Massage Candle - Married Dance Red Lightbulbs - Amazon Episode 74: Getting Comfortable with Your Body Episode 111: Accepting Your Body Experience Deeper Intimacy During Sex | The Forgiven Wife (eye contact) Sensual Music Archives • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Copulatory Vocalization (aka, Sex Sounds) | The Forgiven Wife Scented Aromatherapy Candles - Amazon Episode 184: The Power of a Shower (Quickie) Bergamot Linen Spray - Amazon Let Me Touch You Scented Massage Oil Gift Set - Married Dance Scented Lotion - Amazon Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife Essential Oils for Sex and Intimacy - 5 Things to Know (calmhealthysexy.com) Lip Smacker flavored lip gloss - Amazon Food and Sex | The Forgiven Wife Episode 34: Food and Sex JO H2O Flavored Lubricant - Married Dance Donate to the Ministry by clicking HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2024

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about what to remember when making sexual changes. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 20 August 2024

What is sexual betrayal? Have you experienced it? Today, we address the sensitive topic of sexual betrayal with honesty and compassion, relying quite a bit on our in-house expert, Bonny Burns.  Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring this episode. Visit sharethesoap.com for quality bath and skin care products! And for August, take advantage of their special just for our listeners. Buy a Neroli Hydrosol Sprayer and get a FREE Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-On. Put both items in your cart and use coupon code FCWNEROLI. From the Bible "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28 “For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the Lord of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” Malachi 2:16 (NASB) I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Jeremiah 3:8a John’s disciples came and took his body and buried it. Then they went and told Jesus. When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Matthew 14:12-13a Resources Strong Wives - Bonny's ministry Hope for Wives podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Betrayal Trauma (healthline.com) The Sarah Society Hope Redefined A Partner's Dilemma (apsats.org) Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Episode 189: Myth-busting What You’ve Heard about Sex, with Gaye Christmus! - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It's Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Immature by Peter Scazzero The Search For Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes by Robert McGee Bonny's Heading to Australia & New Zealand! 9/6–9/7 - https://www.crossview.com.au/ 9/14, 9/19 - https://www.prbc.org.au/ 9/17 - https://www.newheartbaptist.com/ 9/20–9/21 - https://genesisgc.com.au/ Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 16 August 2024

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about the power of words to foster friendship and overflow into your bedroom. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 6 August 2024

The gang's all together again! Gaye Christmus joins us to talk about myths about sex, where they come from, and what truths wives need to embrace instead. Sponsor Married Dance – a Christian sex toy store From the Bible I slept but my heart was awake.     Listen! My beloved is knocking: “Open to me, my sister, my darling,     my dove, my flawless one. My head is drenched with dew,     my hair with the dampness of the night.” I have taken off my robe—     must I put it on again? I have washed my feet—     must I soil them again? Song of Songs 5:2–3 My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening;     my heart began to pound for him. I arose to open for my beloved,     and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh,     on the handles of the bolt. I opened for my beloved,     but my beloved had left; he was gone.     My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him.     I called him but he did not answer. Song of Songs 5:4–6 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,     so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west,     so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:11-12 Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord.” And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice. 1 Kings 19:11-12 (NKJV) Resources CalmHealthySexy - Gaye's site Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye's other site! Where Purity Culture Got It Wrong, Let's Get It Right - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too How to Read a Marriage Book - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade Episode 185: Women’s Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka Episode 182: Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie) Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex Embrace a Sexual Growth Mindset - Hot, Holy & Humorous Our Webinars! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 31 July 2024

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor and is specifically for wives who have been sexually reluctant and are ready to work on improving their sexual engagement with their husbands. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 23 July 2024

In this episode, we tackle listener questions—specifically how to feel more confident in the bedroom by choosing something positive to wear, how to find a therapist in your area or online, and how to mentally shift from seeing oral sex as “dirty” to something married couples can (if they both want) do. Sponsor Better Help – connect with a fellow believer online within our network of licensed, professional therapists. From the Bible Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Songs 2:3 Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. Song of Songs 4:16 Resources Honoring Intimates Mentionables “Getting Ready for Sex,” Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (Signed) by J. Parker Episode 179: Light Hearts & Lingerie Better Help Online Therapy Psychology Today – Find a Therapist, Psychologist, Counselor Therapist Directory – IITAP (CSAT & more) Find a Specialist – APSATS Trained Specialists Sexual Wholeness Inc – Find a Christian Sex Therapist Strong Wives – Bonny Burns Aldrich Ministries Coaching “Oral Sex,” Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design (Signed) by J. Parker Take a Step Toward Oral Sex | The Forgiven Wife The Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny’s Oysterbed7 5 Things You Should Know about Oral Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Oral Sex Webinar – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Some resources may be affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 16 July 2024

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the importance of speaking up about what you need to experience sexual pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2024

Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka join us today for a candid conversation about women and their struggle with porn. If you struggle, this episode will help. But if you don't, listen anyway so that you can be there to support fellow women trying to break free. And be sure to check out the new resource, Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out Of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy, cowritten by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Joy Skarka Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap, your go-to site for natural, quality bath and skin care products! And check out their special deal just for our listeners: free aloe gel with any order using coupon code FCWALOE. (Put gel in your cart, use the code, and the price for that will go to zero.) From the Bible It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1 I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God. Ezekiel 11:19–20 The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,     because the Lord has anointed me     to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,     to proclaim freedom for the captives     and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor     and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn,     and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty     instead of ashes, the oil of joy     instead of mourning, and a garment of praise     instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness,     a planting of the Lord     for the display of his splendor. Isaiah 61:1–3 Resources Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery & Dr. Joy Skarka Joy Skarka – Creating Spaces to Set Christian Women Free from Porn and Sexual Shame Authentic Intimacy - Juli Slattery Fight the New Drug The First Time I Saw Porn - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 3: 50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again Episode 154: Why We’re Against Porn and Erotica Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart by Dannah Gresh & Dr. Juli Slattery Why Do Women Pose for Porn? - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Supernatural Sex: Spiritual Dimension of Libido for Low-Drive Wives • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (about yada') Episode 183: What Does God Have to Do with Our Sex Life Sex and the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery, Abby Ludvigson & Chelsea Nugteren Talking to Your Kids about Sex: No More One & Done - Hot, Holy & Humorous Start Talking to Your Kids about Sex by Julia Sandusky Who I Am in Christ by Neil T. Anderson Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker 

Transcribed - Published: 2 July 2024

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, guest Julie Sibert talks about the benefits of showering. Yes, showering! Stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage. Resources Episode 69: Shower Power Intimacy In Marriage Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage by Jeff Murphy & Julie Sibert

Transcribed - Published: 25 June 2024

For many Christians, it can be difficult to think about God and sex at the same time. How present is God in our bedrooms? And how does knowing that He knows make us feel? We dive deep into what God has to do with our sex lives and how to think about and embrace His involvement. Sponsors Thanks to MarriedDance, a Christian sex toy store that’s discreet and presents products in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment. And be sure to check out J's upcoming cruise! From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image,     in the image of God he created them;     male and female he created them. God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day. Genesis 1:27, 31 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17 I belong to my beloved,     and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources Has Christianity Hurt Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Why Doesn't the Church Talk about Song of Songs? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Augustine's Sex-Life Change: From Profligate to Celibate | Christianity Today Praying to Your Heavenly Father: Do You Have Daddy Issues? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Theology of the Body for Beginners by Christopher West The Names of God: 52 Bible Studies for Individuals and Groups by Ann Spangler Sex Addiction Recovery - Willow Tree Counseling (runs support groups for mental health professionals and other professionals that want another level of anonymity) The Sarah Society (has a group for pastors wives; start with the regular newcomer meeting) Christian Recovery, Counseling & Coaching | Prodigals International (runs both pastors and pastors wives group, both are free) Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 18 June 2024

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, Bonny Burns talks about praying for your sex life. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Transcribed - Published: 12 June 2024

We welcome guest Dr. Carol Tanksley, who is an author, speaker, podcaster, licensed OB-Gyn, and a trained and ordained minister. She joins us to talk about how your sexual story shaped you and how to pursue sexual wholeness as God intended. Sponsor Share the Soap – goat milk soap & bath products. Special offer for our listeners: free lip balm (any flavor) with purchase of aloe & goat milk lotion! Put both lotion and lip balm into your cart and check out with the code FCWJUNE. From the Bible John 4:1-42 (Jesus and the Samaritan Woman at the Well) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23 Resources Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships by Carol Tanksley, MD, DMin Your Sexpectations Dr Carol Ministries The Chosen Scene: Jesus and the Outcast Woman at the Well Who's in Your Story of Sexual Intimacy? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 5 June 2024

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, J Parker talks about the bad messages we hear about sex.

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2024

Many of us face obstacles to playfulness around sexuality and sexual experience. Today, we discuss ways to foster light hearts on a sometimes serious subject. Sponsor Thanks to MarriedDance, a Christian sex toy store that's discreet and presents products in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment. From the Bible Song of Songs - the whole book! A cheerful heart is good medicine,     but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22 Resources Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 25: Sex Is Funny - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Faithful Counseling by Better Help - online therapy Does He Make You Laugh? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) 3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Why I Still Wear Lingerie (though My Hubby Doesn't Care) - Hot, Holy & Humorous 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie | The Forgiven Wife Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2024

This week's sex tip quickie comes from Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage: self touch.

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2024

Did you know that 3 out of 4 women at some point experience pain during intercourse? Today, we're joined by Debby Wade, a licensed therapist and expert in the area of women's sexual pain. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring the episode! Buy Goat Milk Getaway Box OR Indulgent Facial Spa Box and get a (or 2) FREE premium aloe  & goat milk lotion sample(s). No Coupon Code but MUST put FCW in the comment box! Visit Share the Soap. From the Bible Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me. Psalm 30:2 Resources Debby Wade (ACTSolutions Therapy) Debby Wade — Institute for Sexual Wholeness Faculty Wives Struggling with Sexual Pain - Authentic Intimacy Painful intercourse (dyspareunia) - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorder - University of Texas Hypertonic Pelvic Floor: Symptoms, Causes & Treatment (clevelandclinic.org) Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Casino Royale Scene Bonny Referenced (oops, it wasn't Skyfall, but in the same series!) - NSFW or with kids around Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Find an ABCST Therapist Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Why I Chose To Get Rid Of Parabens & What I Use Instead! - MARRIAGE AFTER GOD (Unveiled Wife) Email Debby Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2024

J explains why it's a great idea to have a euphemism for sex.

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2024

Earlier on in our podcast, we had an episode in which we gave advice to our newlywed selves. Today we want to revisit that topic a bit, but rather than talking to ourselves, we want to share the wisdom we've gained with young wives. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance, a Christian marital aid and sex toy store, for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 Resources Episode 32: Advice for Our Newlywed Selves Episode 43: Dealing with Sexual Baggage The Bad Plan of Bartering for Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Embrace a Sexual Growth Mindset - Hot, Holy & Humorous What I Wish I'd Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Letter to My Newlywed Self: Age 25 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Faithful Counseling (online therapy with a fellow believer through Better Help) Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Orgasm Webinar - ONLY $10! Donate to the ministry HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2024

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, Chris gives you four tips on dealing with a gag reflex during oral sex.

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2024

When we talk about romantic attraction, we think of personal charm, visual appeal, and that spark of chemistry when a certain person is near. But for today's episode, consider this scientific one from Merriam-Webster, defining attraction as "a force acting mutually between particles of matter, tending to draw them together, and resisting their separation." We're not just particles, but we want to be drawn toward our husband and to resist separation from him (and vice versa). But attraction doesn't stay the same over the whole of our marriage. Today, we talk about how we can keep attraction going or revive it if it's been lost. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring the episode! Get 25% off the Transform Your Shower Set for the month of April with our special code FCWTA. From the Bible My beloved is radiant and ruddy,     distinguished among ten thousand. Song of Songs 5:10 But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen. 2 Peter 3:18 Resources What If You Don't Find Your Husband Attractive - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Boost Romantic Chemistry in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 70: Pursuing & Wooing Your Wife, with Kevin A. Thompson - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson (kevinathompson.com) Donate to the Ministry HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Transcribed - Published: 9 April 2024