Welcome to sex chat for Christian wives.

Where three marriage bloggers discuss the naked truth.

What does God really want for the sexual intimacy in our marriages?

I'm Bonnie Burns of Strong Wives.

I'm Chris Taylor of Honeycomb and Spice.

And I'm Jay Parker of Hot, Holy and Humorous.

Pull up a chair to our virtual kitchen table and let's chat.

Welcome to another episode of sex chat for Christian wives. Today we're discussing how to help

your husband heal when he comes into marriage with a traumatic childhood. And to help us with

this important subject, we are welcoming Tara Buchanan as a third to our virtual

kitchen table. And she's a third because we're so sad that Chris couldn't join us today. She's just not

feeling well. So we wish Chris speedy recovery. With that being said, thank you, Tara, for being here.

It's awesome to join you. So Tara, would you mind telling our listeners a little bit about yourself? Yeah, so my name is Tara and I've been married for 28 years to my husband, Joe. We have four children, three of who are grown and two of whom are married. I've just one left at home. And if I were just to tell you about my marriage, I guess the starting point is that I grew in a very stable and Christian family and kind of came in with all the cards stacked in my favor.

And my husband, though, grew up in foster care, experienced all kinds of abuse as a child.

He was pretty much toxic from home to home, streamed amount of instability until about nine.

And then when he was adopted as an older child, he experienced more abuse in his adoptive home,

often ways that threw salt in the wounds of his childhood.

So he never really had a chance to experience any kind of stability, any kind of safety,

any kind of healthy model for marriage or for family.

But we were in love, so it all be okay.

And we got married in 1997.

And they lived happily ever after.

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