Hi, it's Jay Parker with this week's Sex Chat Quicky.

One thing I love about the song of songs is how the wife communicates her own enjoyment of sex with her husband.

Likewise, how can we wives lovingly communicate our enjoyment of marital lovemaking?

Here are five ways to let your husband know you enjoy sex. First, say yes. One sure way to let your husband know you don't

desire and enjoy sex is to say no often. Of course, the opposite is true. Say yes often and he'll get

the message that you see sex as a priority for your marriage. But don't merely be available, get engaged. Say yes to the whole experience.

Show up to the marriage bed as a fully participating lover.

If you give your physical intimacy more attention and focus, you'll likely find yourself enjoying sex more and more.

This doesn't mean you can't say no. You certainly can. But overall, the set

point in a marriage should be toward yes. And if you have good reasons for refusing, including

sexual pain, trauma, betrayal, health issues, and more, address those so that you can receive

healing for yourself and for your marriage. Second, move your body. When you have sex with your husband,

touch and caress him, kiss his lips and his body, rub against him with your body, tilt your

hips toward him, move in rhythm with his thrusting. Your movement will likely increase your own

arousal. Moreover, when you get into it, you convey to your husband that you're fully involved

in what's happening

with your bodies. It's like the difference between a man dancing and dragging his partner

across the floor, and the both of you fully enjoying the mattress mamba. Third, make some noise.

No matter how focused your husband is on other things, he can probably hear you through your

sexual encounter. So let your voice convey when you are

feeling pleasure. Noise can be anything from low moaning to heavy breathing to unbridled screaming.

Whatever fits the moment, your comfort zone, and the distance from your bedroom to the children's

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