Hi, it's Jay Parker back to talk about kissing a bit more. We often fall off in the

amount of kissing we engage in after we marry or as our marriage ages. Maybe it feels like

you don't have enough time or the kids are around a lot or you just have other physical

intimacy options open to you that kissing doesn't

get as much attention as it once did. And hey, you might not even enjoy the experience of kissing

that much. But in our last quickie, we talked about the benefits of kissing, including better health,

physiological bonding, and relational intimacy. So let's figure out how to get some puckered up

passion into our marriages. Here are three

tips. First, start with commitment. Prioritize kissing by making it a habit for a while, even a goal.

Like you could say, we're going to kiss for several seconds every day when we get home. It might feel

awkward or even forced at first, but after a little while, you probably won't even need to think about it.

You'll simply enjoy it enough to do it automatically. Second, make time for it. When I first told my

husband that I wanted to kiss more, he thought I was expecting a 20-minute makeout session. While I'd

welcome that too, I let him know that I was really just wanting us to take a few seconds several

times a day to kiss.

What if you just started by kissing for five minutes a day? Could you find five minutes? I bet you could.

And you might find yourselves extending that period of time. Third, communicate. As I said, I had to

communicate with my husband what I meant by kissing more. You might also need to communicate

about what kind of

kissing you like or any adjustments you'd like to make and how you two kiss. If the kissing

you've been doing doesn't curl your toes, explore other options. Be positive about asking

for changes in what he's been doing, but be willing to tutor each other, practice often,

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