Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

This week, Juli, Hannah, and Joe answer one of the hardest questions many of us face: What do I do if my spouse is looking at porn? This conversation is honest, compassionate, and full of hope. We talk through the pain, shame, confusion, and secrecy that pornography often brings into a marriage—and why healing is still possible for both the person struggling and the spouse who feels hurt and betrayed. You'll hear practical wisdom on how to find the support you need, why you can't be your spouse's accountability partner, and how true intimacy is about so much more than just changing a behavior. Whether this struggle has touched your marriage personally or that of someone you love, it's one you'll definitely want to share. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso It's book launch week! 🎉🎉 Order your copy of the new 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex, and Intimacy. Or, become a monthly donor to Authentic Intimacy and get it for FREE!    Follow-up Resources 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery Hot Topic Kit: Pornography In Marriage 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband's Porn Problem (blog) 3 Things Women Want You to Know About Their Addiction to Pornography (blog) Video Q&A: Is porn sinful? Video Q&A: Does my spouse watch porn because of me?   Find help and community with any of these trusted ministries: Be Broken Ministries Fight for Love Ministries Hopequest Pure Desire Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06 Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy

Transcribed - Published: 1 June 2026

This week, Dannah Gresh shares the personal story behind And the Bride Wore White—one of a few books that launched conversations about purity, shame, grace, and redemption for an entire generation of Christian young people. Together, Juli and Dannah reflect on the wounds many women carry around sexuality, the beauty of God's forgiveness, and why purity was never meant to be about perfection.  Guest: Dannah Gresh Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study!   Follow-up Resources: Pre-order And the Bride Wore White: Seven Truths to Living In Sexual Integrity No Matter Your Past by Dannah Gresh Q&A: How can I overcome the shame I experience as a result of purity culture?  Follow Dannah at @dannah_gresh Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 25 May 2026

This week, Juli and Hannah tackle the question, Am I entitled to sex—even good or regular sex—in my marriage?  Drawing on stories, biblical truth, and personal reflection, Juli challenges common assumptions about sex, covenant, and what it really means to love like Jesus did. This episode offers hope for couples navigating pain, unmet expectations, or seasons of healing—and it just might challenge everything you've been taught about sex and marriage.  Co-host: Hannah Nitz What are your thoughts on this conversation? We'd love to hear from you! Leave us a rating and review.    Follow-up Resources: Check out our new Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life God, Sex, & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery How To Go From Demand and "Duty Sex" to True Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Is Sex Sabotaging Love in Your Marriage? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Are You Entitled to (Good) Sex in Marriage? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)   Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz  Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 18 May 2026

This week, Juli sits down with pastor and author Tony Scarcello to hear his story of wrestling with same-sex attraction from a young age, the weight of shame and silence he carried, and how God met him in the middle of it all.  Some conversations aren't meant to be easy, they're meant to help us grow. This is one of those. Tony's story will challenge you, encourage you, and remind you how deeply we all need the grace of God. Guest: Tony Scarcello Online Book Studies are open. Grab your spot today!   Follow-up Resources: Preorder Love All Our Neighbors: How Churches That Hold a Traditional Sexual Ethic Can Care for LGBTQ People  by Tony Scarcello (available May 19) Regenerate: Following Jesus After Deconstruction by Tony Scarcello Follow Tony @tony_scarcello Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 11 May 2026

This week, Juli sits down with Joe and Hannah to tackle the question: What do you do when you're attracted to someone who isn't your spouse? Together, they unpack the reality that attraction outside of marriage isn't a matter of if, but when. From the myth of "soulmates" to the powerful role of brain chemistry, this conversation explores why these feelings happen, and why they don't have to define your choices. You'll also learn how small decisions, honesty, and intentional investment in your marriage can protect what matters most. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life Tell us what you think! Leave us a rating and review.    Follow-up Resources: Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery Be the first to know when Online Book Studies open up Sexual Attraction Isn't As Important as You Think, Here's Why by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06 Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Transcribed - Published: 4 May 2026

Shame has a way of convincing us to hide. But Jesus doesn't turn away from your shame. He steps toward it. This week, Juli sits down with Dr. Carol Tanksley and Allie Mazur to shed light on the often unspoken reality of living with an STI. Together, they unpack the weight of shame, the fear of rejection, and the questions that can follow a diagnosis like herpes.  You'll be reminded that while consequences of sin may linger, they don't have the final word. Jesus meets us right in the middle of our brokenness, offering freedom, healing, and hope.  If you've ever felt like your story is "too much" or "too broken," this conversation is for you. Guests: Dr. Carol Tanksley, OBGYN and Allie Mazur   Follow-Up Resources: Q&A: Are sexual sin and sexual brokenness the same thing? (video) Q&A: Where do I begin healing? (video) How to Get Past Shame from Sexual Sin by Juli Slattery (blog)   Dr. Carol Tanksley's website: drcarolministries.com Follow Dr. Carol at @drcarolt Allie Mazur's website: livebeyondherpes.com Follow Allie Mazur at @allie_beyond Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 27 April 2026

Married sex doesn't just "stay hot"...but you can fan the flames to create something even more meaningful (and longer-lasting) than honeymoon sex. This week, we're talking about how to keep married sex exciting over the long haul. You'll learn about the shift that happens in long-term relationships, why desire can fade into routine, and what actually helps bring the spark back.  No theory. No pressure. Just real-life rhythms and practical ways you can reconnect emotionally and physically with your spouse. If you've ever thought "we're good... but it's not like it used to be," this conversation is for you!   Co-host: Hannah Nitz   What did you think of this conversation? We'd love to hear from you! Leave us a comment and review.    Follow-up Resources: Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery Be the first to know when Online Book Studies open up Join Dr. Jennifer Degler's Dare of the Month email list. Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 20 April 2026

One of you is ready to leave early. The other is still looking for their shoes. Welcome to marriage. This week, Juli and Mike are on stage at the Love Like You Mean It Cruise! Live and unfiltered, they talk honestly about how their differences have shown up in parenting, intimacy, and their pace of life—and how they've learned to let those differences draw them closer, instead of driving them apart. Guest: Mike Slattery Join Mike & Juli on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise in 2027!    Follow-up Resources: 3 Reasons Women Tend to Take Over in Marriage by Juli Slattery (blog) Q&A: How can I help my husband grow up and take responsibility? (video) The Very Important Difference Between Conflict & Fighting by Juli Slattery (blog)

Transcribed - Published: 13 April 2026

Some wounds don't just live in your memories… they live in your body, in your relationships, and in your sense of safety.  If you've ever wondered, "Can I be whole after sexual trauma?," you're not alone—and you're not beyond healing. That's the question Juli is tackling this week. You'll hear why sexual trauma uniquely affects identity and intimacy, how shame and self-blame keep us stuck, and what real sexual wholeness looks like. This conversation is for anyone who has experienced sexual trauma (or loves someone who has) and is wondering: Is healing really possible for me?   Co-host: Hannah Nitz Register for the webinar Healing After Sexual Abuse: Practical Guidance for Pastors, Leaders, and Caregivers.   Follow-up resources: Find a Christian counselor or sex therapist: check out ABCST or MyCounselor.online Surprised By the Healer by Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender Try Softer by Aundi Kolber God's Healing Stinks by Juli Slattery (blog) Q&A: Past sexual trauma inhibits my ability to enjoy sex. Is there hope that I can ever heal? with Dr. Juli Slattery Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 6 April 2026

Their love story made headlines—but not for the reasons you might expect. In this conversation, CD and Melody Fabien share a completely different vision for dating—one rooted in purpose, boundaries, and hearing God's voice. If you're tired of hook-ups, ghosting, and the pressure of fast-paced dating, this episode is for you. Guest: CD & Melody Fabien   Check out our brand-new Hot Topic Kit: Healthy Dating & Boundaries.   Follow-up Resources: Check out CD & Melody's resources at https://cdandmelody.com/   Watch their news-worthy first kiss. Q&A: What's the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity? (video) Q&A: How Can I Steward My Sexuality As a Single? (video) What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Melody on IG at @melodyfabien Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 30 March 2026

Many married couples carry a secret: one of them doesn't like sex—they may even dread it.  For years, sex has felt more like obligation than pleasure, and they've quietly believed something must be wrong with them. This week, we're tackling the unspoken question: "What if I'm married and I don't like sex?" We'll talk about the real reasons sex can feel difficult or even painful, and call out a few common lies that keep couples stuck. If you've ever felt confused, disappointed, or alone in your struggles with sex, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and the reminder you don't have to stay where you are. Co-host: Hannah Nitz We'd love to hear your thoughts about this conversation. Leave us a rating and review.    Follow-up Resources:  Be the first to know when Online Book Studies open up Q&A: Past sexual trauma inhibits my ability to enjoy sex. Is there hope that I can heal? (video) Q&A: Sex has never been pleasurable in our marriage. Should I fake it? (video) Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery God, Sex & Your Marriage by Juli Slattery Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Juli Slattery Restoring the Pleasure by Cliff & Joyce Penner  Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Cliff & Joyce Penner   Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 23 March 2026

Life gets busy—especially with kids, work, and everyday stress. But research shows that couples who consistently make time for each other are significantly happier  in their marriages. This week, we're talking about why date nights matter more than you think. We'll tackle common obstacles couples face, like exhaustion, busy schedules, lack of childcare, and awkward conversations. Plus, you'll hear simple and practical tips to help you reconnect with your spouse—even in the busiest of seasons. Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley   Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: Healthy Dating & Boundaries.    Follow-up Resources: Take the Date Night Challenge: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun by Greg & Erin Smalley Date Night Conversation Starters from Greg & Erin Smalley Q&A: How often is "normal" for having sex in marriage? (video)

Transcribed - Published: 16 March 2026

You know your spouse's love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty? This week, we're expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that's possible!), and love tank "leaks." Plus, you'll learn why gifts aren't always about money and why physical touch isn't always about sex.  Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love. Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott   Follow-up Resources: Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk about the Five Love Languages on Java #592 The Love Language that Matters Most. Take the free relationship assessment at myheartchart.com  The Five Love Languages Premium Assessment The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott  Follow Les & Leslie at @lesandleslie Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 9 March 2026

Maybe you're already living together. Maybe this topic feels uncomfortable. Maybe you've never questioned it before. This week, Juli unpacks what God says about living together before marriage, what (secular) research is telling us, and how covenant—not convenience—creates lasting security. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso Tell us what you think! Leave us a rating & review.   Follow-Up Resources:  Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery Q&A: Is God okay with me having sex with someone I love even if we're not married? Q&A: What is the difference between sexual integrity and purity? Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06 Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 2 March 2026

Men get a lot of mixed messages about masculinity. Some say it's toxic. Others say it doesn't really matter anymore. It's no surprise guys are left wondering, "What does it even mean to be a good man?" This week, Juli sits down with Brant Hansen, author of The Men We Need, to get honest about the struggles men face and why true strength looks very different from the stereotypes we're used to. This conversation is an invitation to see manhood not as a problem to fix, but as a calling worth stepping into. Guest: Brant Hansen What did you think about this conversation? Let us know in a rating and review.    Follow-up Resources: The Men We Need:God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up  by Brant Hansen Blog: 3 Reasons Women Tend To Take Over in Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Blog: 7 Ways We Unknowingly Sabotage Intimacy in Our Marriages by Dr. Juli Slattery Blog: Resign As Boss: How To Help Your Husband Lead by Dr. Juli Slattery Video: Q&A: How Can I Help My Husband Grow Up and Take Responsibility? Follow Brant Hansen at @branthansen Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 23 February 2026

What's okay in the bedroom—and how are married couples supposed to know?  In this episode, Juli doesn't hand you a checklist. Instead, she walks you through three questions every couple can ask when navigating gray areas in the bedroom. From pornography and fantasy to sex toys and more, this conversation helps you discern where you may need to draw a line and where you may need to step out of your comfort zone. Joined by Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso, this episode marks the kick off of a new series inspired by Juli's newly revised, upcoming book, 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy. Co-Hosts: Hannah Nitz, Joe Caruso What did you think of this episode? Leave us a rating and review in your podcast app.   Follow up resources: Check out our brand-new Hot Topic Kit: Pornography in Marriage. Blog: What's OK in the Bedroom? (Includes a list of what God has said "no" to) Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Book: Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06 Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 16 February 2026

Are awkward "side hugs" the best we can do when it comes to opposite-sex friendships? Juli sits down with author Bronwyn Lea, who helps us rethink what it means to live as brothers and sisters in God's family. They talk about why we often confuse intimacy with sexuality, how Jesus modeled close, non-romantic relationships, and what healthy Christian community can look like (even in a sex-saturated world). Listen in to discover how moving beyond fear-based boundaries can lead to more connection and stronger, life-giving friendships in the body of Christ. Guest: Bronwyn Lea   Follow-up Resources: Beyond Awkward Side Hugs: Living as Christian Brothers and Sisters in a Sex-Crazed World by Bronwyn Lea What Defines an Intimate Relationship? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Q&A: What is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single? w/Dr. Juli Slattery Q&A: How Can I Tell The Difference Between Sexual Desire And A Desire For Intimacy? w/Dr. Juli Slattery  Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes . . . Everything  by Dr. Juli Slattery  Follow Bronwyn at @bronwyn_lea Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 9 February 2026

Juli unpacks four of the most common (and subtle) lies we believe about sex, desire, and compatibility. From "sex is about expressing myself" to "the best sex is compatible sex," they explore how these ideas shape our relationships—and how God invites you into something deeper. If you've ever felt stuck, confused, or distant from God because of sexuality, pull up a chair—this conversation is for you. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app.   Follow-up Resources: Surrendered Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery   Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Joe at @joecaruso06  

Transcribed - Published: 2 February 2026

What if your relationship with God  didn't start with how broken you are—but with how beloved you are? This week, Juli is joined by Marty Solomon, host of the BEMA Podcast, to explore the difference between our Western desire to have all the answers and the Bible's invitation to mystery, curiosity, and wonder. They talk about how systematic theology can both help and hinder our faith, and why being "beloved" is more foundational than being "right." This conversation reframes how we see our humanity in light of God's steadfast love—not as a  problem to fix, but as a relationship to steward. Guest: Marty Solomon Preorder Marty's new book, The Gospel of Being Human: How Asking Better Questions of the Bible Reveals Who We Are Listen to The BEMA Podcast (we recommend starting with Season 1) Follow Marty Solomon at @marty_solomon Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 26 January 2026

If you're trying to heal after betrayal, you may be doing everything you were taught to do—and still feel stuck. Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our own healing—all in the name of love and forgiveness. Instead of feeling better, you end up feeling silenced, unsafe, and confused about why healing hasn't happened.  Author and counselor Tammy Gustafson joins Juli to share four necessary phases of healing, and three common mistakes that actually shut it down.  With clinical insight and biblical wisdom, this conversation will help you move forward with strength and hope.  Guest: Tammy Gustafson, LPC   Follow-up Resources: Preorder Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (comes out Jan. 27) Register for The Betrayal Healing Conference, January 26-30. (It's online and free.) Take the Betrayal Healing Quiz  to find what phase of the journey you're in. Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?  Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal? Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Drs. Chuck and Mike Misja (for the betrayed spouse who stays in a marriage even though their spouse is not doing the work needed to heal) Follow Tammy at @tammylgustafson Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 19 January 2026

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether we're married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged! Co-host: Hannah Nitz Tell us what you thought of this conversation!  Leave a rating & review, Share this episode. Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Follow-up resources: Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (Juli's blog) What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog) Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli's blog) Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 12 January 2026

What if knowing your loved one's love language isn't enough? Kicking off this new year, Juli sits down with Dr. Gary Chapman to unpack how it is that we can know each other's love language and still feel disconnected. Whether you're married, parenting, or navigating close friendships, this episode will challenge you to love more intentionally—and more effectively. Guest: Dr. Gary Chapman   Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Pre-order The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott  

Transcribed - Published: 5 January 2026

As we wrap up 2025, this is the conversation God put on Juli's heart. Juli and Hannah sit down to talk about how we love each other when we disagree. This conversation invites you to rethink how you engage in tough conversations and what it really means to contend for truth with love.  Give to Authentic Intimacy today! Between now and January 31st, your gift will be matched dollar-for-dollar—up to $70,000.   Follow-up Resources: Until Unity  by Francis Chan Q&A: How do you love people you disagree with? How We Love Each Other by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)  

Transcribed - Published: 29 December 2025

Grab your Java for one of our most popular episodes of 2025! This conversation with Dr. Dan Allender helped us understand why the stuff we haven't dealt with from childhood eventually shows up—right in the middle of our relationships. Listen in to find out why you must be willing to explore your own story in order to create safety and repair what's broken. Guest: Dr. Dan Allender Give to Authentic Intimacy today and your gift will be matched dollar-for-dollar, up to $70,000! Follow-up Resources: The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dr. Dan Allender Follow Dr. Dan at @danballender Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 22 December 2025

How do you raise kids who feel grounded in their God-given identity in a world of confusing messages about gender? Dr. Kathy Koch and Dr. Jeff Myers join Juli to unpack how to guide youg people with truth, curiosity, and presence. You'll hear how to lay the foundations of identity, respond to cultural pressures, and raise confident boys and girls.  Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or mentor, this conversation offers you practical tools and biblical insight for today's tough questions. Guests: Dr. Kathy Koch and Dr. Jeff Myers Give to Authentic Intimacy today and your gift will be matched dollar-for-dollar, up to $70,000! Follow-up resoures: Get your free book at genderconfidentkids.com Follow Summit Minstrieds at @Summitmn Follow Dr. Kathy Koch at @celebratekidsinc Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 15 December 2025

Women everywhere are turning to spicy romance novels to escape stress, overwhelm, and the monotony of everyday life. Today, Juli talks about why these trending titles feel so intoxicating, how they subtly shape our expectations of intimacy, and why they often leave us feeling disconnected from real relationships. Instead of escaping into fictional worlds, hear how you can rediscover the adventure and connection God designed for real life. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Give to Authentic Intimacy today! Between now and January 1st, your gift to Authentic Intimacy will be matched dollar for dollar up to $70,000. Follow-up Resources: What Do I Do With My Sexual Desire? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Masturbation: Is It Wrong? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Confessions of a Former Erotica Author by Francine Rivers (blog) Java with Juli #579: Good Girls, Bad Books: Erotica in Young Adult Fiction? Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy   Resources quoted in this episode: The Rise of Smut: How TikTok is reviving romance literature.  Thanks to BookTok, Barnes & Noble is opening more stores than ever.  More than Mommy Porn: Why I read smut

Transcribed - Published: 8 December 2025

We're diving into the often overlooked side of sexual intimacy: emotional connection in marriage. Juli and guest Gary Thomas unpack three building blocks of emotional intimacy—emotional availability, sensitive responsiveness, and trust. From understanding male and female brain chemistry to tips on daily connection habits, this conversation gives you tangible ways to create a stronger, healthier marriage. Guest: Gary Thomas Give to Authentic Intimacy today—every gift matched dollar for dollar up to $70,000!   Follow-up Resources Safe Haven Marriage by Arch Hart and Sharon May A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas Follow Gary Thomas at @garythomasbooks Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 1 December 2025

What if sexual intimacy became something you look forward to, instead of something you brace yourself for? Juli sits down with sex therapist Debra Taylor to talk about what we've learned about women's sexuality over the last 30 years. They dive into the myths that still plague marriages, the real factors shaping women's sexual desire, why exhaustion is often the #1 barrier to intimacy, and how couples can pursue healing, connection, and a more meaningful sex life—especially when trauma or mismatched desire is part of the story.  Guest: Dr. Debra Taylor  Giving Tuesday is next week—your gift will be matched, dollar for dollar, up to $70,000!  Follow-up Resources: The Secrets of Eve by Arch Hart, Debra Taylor, Catherine Hart Weber Five Things You Need To Know About Women, Orgasm, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) A Secret for the Guys by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)   Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 24 November 2025

The holidays should bring peace. Instead, they often bring tension, unresolved hurt, and that one person who knows how to get under your skin. Today, Juli sits down with author and radio host Brant Hansen to talk about what it means to be "unoffendable"—especially when you're passing the mashed potatoes to someone you struggle to forgive. Guest: Brant Hansen   Follow-up Resources: Unoffendable by Brant Hansen How to Have Tough Conversations by Juli Slattery (blog) When Your Adult Child Makes Choices You Disagree With by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Brant Hansen at @branthansen Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 17 November 2025

Lips that drip liquid myrrh, cheeks like beds of spices . . . what on earth is happening here? This week, we're making sense of the metaphors in Song of Songs. Find out how this bizarre (to us) love poetry shows us that God is wholeheartedly, enthusiastically, and unequivocally in favor of out-of-this-world sexual pleasure in marriage. Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn If you enjoyed this conversation, leave us a rating and review in your podcast app.    Follow-up Resources: What If I Hate Sex? by Juli Slattery (blog) How to Go from Demand and "Duty Sex" to True Sexual Intimacy by Juli Slattery (blog) Pre-order the Lifeway CSB Women's Study Bible (with contributions by Dr. Glahn) Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love are You Making? with Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow (a 12-week study through the Song of Songs) Follow Dr. Glahn @sandraglahnauthor Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 10 November 2025

If you've ever felt unseen, disconnected, or tired of pretending you're okay, this episode is for you. This week, author and speaker Toni Collier shares how healing begins when we stop hiding and start letting others in. Through her own story of heartbreak and redemption, you'll hear encouragement and practical wisdom on finding safe people, breaking toxic patterns, and walking with God and others toward healing. Guest: Toni Collier Follow-up Resources: Don't Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain by Toni Collier God's Healing Stinks by Juli Slattery (blog) Why Is Healing So Hard by Juli Slattery (blog) Q&A: How do I get past my sexual shame? (video)   Follow Toni Collier @tonijcollier Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 3 November 2025

This one's a hot topic—and we know it. 🔥 Juli sits down with Dr. Christopher West to talk about birth control, self-control, and God's design for our bodies. Whether you've wrestled with this teaching or never thought twice about it, this conversation invites you to pause, listen, and seek truth with us.  Guest: Dr. Christopher West   Follow-up Resources: Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Dr. Christopher West Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Christopher West at @cwestofficial  

Transcribed - Published: 27 October 2025

As Jesus followers, is it okay that we want to look younger, thinner, and prettier?   We live in a world obsessed with appearances. Everywhere you look, someone's getting fillers, enhancements, or posting a "perfect" version of themselves online. In this episode, Juli and Hannah take an honest look at these questions—not to hand out a new list of rules, but to invite you into a bigger story.  Co-host: Hannah Nitz If you enjoyed this conversation, leave us a rating and review in your podcast app.  Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy @authenticintimacy Find more resources at www.authenticintimacy.com

Transcribed - Published: 20 October 2025

Ever feel like you're the only one in your marriage who wants to have sex?  In most marriages, there is typically one partner with a higher sex drive—and that person is usually trying to convince the other to have more sex. In this episode, Juli and Dr. Corey Allan talk about how to move beyond "I have a need, and you have an obligation" to real sexual intimacy. Guest: Dr. Corey Allan Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app.   Follow-Up Resources: God, Sex & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Sexy Marriage Radio with Dr. Corey Allan Follow Dr. Corey at @sexymarriageradio Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Transcribed - Published: 13 October 2025

Don't miss your chance to win $200! Take the Java with Juli Survey.  In this episode, we uncover the real stories of women in the Bible who have been misunderstood, silenced, or abused—and discover the God who saw them. From Bathsheba to Tamar to the woman at the well, we revisit stories where we have blamed or shamed women, when in fact scripture points to God's compassion, justice, and redemption. ⚠️ This episode mentions rape. Please take care when listening. Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn   Follow-up resources: Vindicating the Vixens by Dr. Sandra Glahn Follow Dr. Glahn on IG @sandraglahnauthor Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app      

Transcribed - Published: 6 October 2025

Instead of shutting it down, what if you could meet your needs for touch, intimacy, and opposite-sex friendships in ways that honor your sexuality? (Spoiler alert: you can.) If you've wrestled with desire, boundaries, or shame, this candid conversation will help you see the God-given purpose of your sexuality—even when you're single. P.S. This is one you'll want to share with your single friends. Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau   Don't miss your chance to win a $200 gift card: take the Java with Juli Survey.  Follow-up Resources: Single & Sexually Whole: Soulfully Celebrating the Dance of the Sexes by Dr. Doug Rosenau Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery  

Transcribed - Published: 29 September 2025

In this episode, author Kimberly Haar opens up about surviving a violent abduction and assault at the hands of her ex-husband. With unflinching honesty, she recounts the night her world shattered—and how faith, forgiveness, and Christian therapy helped her rebuild her life.  Guest: Kimberly Haar Take our Java with Juli survey and enter to win $200! 🎉   Follow-up Resources: Healing from Life's Deepest Hurts by Kimberly Haar  

Transcribed - Published: 22 September 2025

Are you teaching your kids to follow Jesus—or to just follow the rules? In this episode, Juli sits down with Matt & Laurie Krieg to talk about how to give our kids a gospel-centered worldview. From early conversations about sexuality and gender to equipping them for a sexually broken world, you'll get practical, faith-filled guidance to help you raise resilient, Christ-focused kids. Guests: Matt & Laurie Krieg Take the Java with Juli Listener Survey to get a FREE Building Intimacy with God devotional and be entered to win a $200 VISA gift card!   Follow-up resources: Watch Christian Sexuality: Raising Kids hosted by Laurie Krieg Preorder Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World by Laurie Krieg Get Protect Young Eyes, the tool Matt & Laurie mentioned to help protect your kids online.  

Transcribed - Published: 15 September 2025

How do you speak life to your husband when all you want to do is yell at him?  Juli sits down for a candid conversation with author Ann Wilson about the transformative power of our words. Hear how Ann discovered that her (helpful!) criticism, even her subtle "sophisticated nagging," wasn't helping her husband at all—in fact, it was hurting both of them. With real-life stories and practical wisdom, this conversation proves that a few well-chosen words can transform a marriage. Guest: Ann Wilson (with Dave Wilson)   Online Book Studies close soon—grab your spot today! We're hiring! Check out our open position. Pick up your copy of How To Speak Life to Your Husband When All You Want To Do Is Yell at Him by Ann Wilson Java with Juli #386 What's the Secret to Getting the Marriage You Want? Go Vertical with Dave & Ann Wilson (a members-only resource)    

Transcribed - Published: 8 September 2025

If you struggle with low desire, pain during sex, or difficulty with orgasm and don't know where to go for help, this week's Java with Juli is for you! Juli sits down with certified sex therapist Josh Spurlock to explore what Christian sex therapy really is—and what it isn't.  Josh explains the difference between sex therapy and traditional counseling, the most common challenges he helps couples overcome, and why having a therapist who respects God's design for sexuality matters. From dispelling myths like "sex is supposed to hurt" to offering hope that orgasm is possible for nearly every woman, this conversation brings biblical wisdom and practical help to some of the most sensitive places in your marriage. "I wish I would've known this 20 years ago" doesn't have to be your story. Listen in! Guest: Josh Spurlock, LPC, CST   Online Book Studies are open. Join one today! Find a Christian sex therapist at MyCounselor.Online.

Transcribed - Published: 1 September 2025

The power of abuse lies in secrecy. The power of healing begins with telling. In this episode, Tim Hein shares his story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and the journey of healing. From the courage it takes to break the silence, to the importance of being believed, to the steps of recovery that lead to restoration, Tim offers raw honesty and hard-earned wisdom. He reflects on how trauma shaped his life, marriage, and faith—and how choosing to tell your story is ultimately an act of self-love and grace. This hopeful conversation offers encouragement for survivors and practical insight for those who walk alongside them. Guest: Tim Hein Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Follow us or leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app.   Follow-Up Resources: Understanding Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Ministry Leaders and Survivors by Tim Hein Blog: God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery Video Q&A: Past sexual trauma keeps me from enjoying sex. Is there hope that I can heal? Blog: How to Choose a Wise Counselor by Dr. Juli Slattery        

Transcribed - Published: 25 August 2025

Juli and her guests explore the infiltration of erotica and LGBTQ themes into young adult fiction. From board books to bestselling novels, today's literature isn't what it used to be—and parents are the last to know. You'll hear stories from the frontlines and get practical tools to help you navigate today's fiction. Whether you're raising toddlers or talking with teens, this is a conversation every parent, teacher, and youth leader needs to hear. Guests: Greta Eskridge and Korrie Johnson   Follow-Up Resources: It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent's Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity by Greta Eskridge Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman's Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh Good Book Mom Plugged In Redeemed Reader Read Aloud Revival  

Transcribed - Published: 18 August 2025

Have you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now's your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex. From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands' need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom. Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz Follow us in your favorite podcast app. Join an online book study today!   Resources:  God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Blog: Struggling with Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need a "Sex Break" Blog: Are You Entitled to "Good" Sex in Marriage? Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband's Porn Problem Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Is Looking at Porn? Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me? Find more resources at www.authenticintimacy.com Follow us on social media at @authenticintimacy  Follow Chip Ingram at @chip_ingram    

Transcribed - Published: 11 August 2025

If loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it's the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free. Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies. Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Follow-up Resources: Get your copy of Surrendered Sexuality now! Find more resources at authenticintimacy.com Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz    

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

In a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church. Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you're invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side. Co-host: Joe Caruso   Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here.

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender. Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation. Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo   Follow-up Resources: Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here. Follow Jackie Hill Perry at @jackiehillperry Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

We're moving from shame-based "sexual purity" to sexual integrity—the day-by-day journey of aligning your sexual choices with God's truth. Whether you're single, married, or just asking hard questions, you'll find hope in this episode.    Co-host: Joe Caruso   Become a monthly donor to Authentic Intimacy today!  Get your copy of Surrendered Sexuality. Follow Authentic Intimacy Follow Joe Caruso

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

If you've ever wrestled with how to reconcile your faith with your sexuality, or how God's design seems outdated (or even unloving), this is an episode you can't miss. Continuing in our theme of Surrendered Sexuality, Juli exposes the cultural narratives shaping how you think about sexuality — often without realizing it.   Become a monthly donor and get your free copy of Surrendered Sexuality today! Or, buy your copy here.

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

You believe God loves you—but you're afraid to trust Him with your most painful places. In this conversation, discover why surrender is one of the most courageous acts of trust—and the beginning of real healing. Plus . . . its book launch week! 🎉 Co-host: Joe Caruso   Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here. Follow Authentic Intimacy Follow Joe Caruso

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

What if God asks you to surrender not because of what He wants to take from you, but because of what He wants to give? Grab your Java and listen in as Juli shares the core message of  her new book, “Surrendered Sexuality.”     Follow-up resources: Watch on YouTube Preorder your copy of “Surrendered Sexuality” Register for the Launch Party! Follow us at @authenticintimacy

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025