Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

We're diving into the often overlooked side of sexual intimacy: emotional connection in marriage. They unpack three building blocks of emotional intimacy—emotional availability, sensitive responsiveness, and trust. From understanding male and female brain chemistry to tips on daily connection habits, this conversation gives you tangible ways to create a stronger, healthier marriage. Guest: Gary Thomas Give to Authentic Intimacy today—every gift matched dollar for dollar up to $70,000!   Follow-up Resources Safe Haven Marriage by Arch Hart and Sharon May A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas Follow Gary Thomas at @garythomasbooks Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 1 December 2025

What if sexual intimacy became something you look forward to, instead of something you brace yourself for? Juli sits down with sex therapist Debra Taylor to talk about what we've learned about women's sexuality over the last 30 years. They dive into the myths that still plague marriages, the real factors shaping women's sexual desire, why exhaustion is often the #1 barrier to intimacy, and how couples can pursue healing, connection, and a more meaningful sex life—especially when trauma or mismatched desire is part of the story.  Guest: Dr. Debra Taylor  Giving Tuesday is next week—your gift will be matched, dollar for dollar, up to $70,000!  Follow-up Resources: The Secrets of Eve by Arch Hart, Debra Taylor, Catherine Hart Weber Five Things You Need To Know About Women, Orgasm, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) A Secret for the Guys by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)   Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 24 November 2025

The holidays should bring peace. Instead, they often bring tension, unresolved hurt, and that one person who knows how to get under your skin. Today, Juli sits down with author and radio host Brant Hansen to talk about what it means to be "unoffendable"—especially when you're passing the mashed potatoes to someone you struggle to forgive. Guest: Brant Hansen   Follow-up Resources: Unoffendable by Brant Hansen How to Have Tough Conversations by Juli Slattery (blog) When Your Adult Child Makes Choices You Disagree With by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Brant Hansen at @branthansen Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 17 November 2025

Lips that drip liquid myrrh, cheeks like beds of spices . . . what on earth is happening here? This week, we're making sense of the metaphors in Song of Songs. Find out how this bizarre (to us) love poetry shows us that God is wholeheartedly, enthusiastically, and unequivocally in favor of out-of-this-world sexual pleasure in marriage. Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn If you enjoyed this conversation, leave us a rating and review in your podcast app.    Follow-up Resources: What If I Hate Sex? by Juli Slattery (blog) How to Go from Demand and "Duty Sex" to True Sexual Intimacy by Juli Slattery (blog) Pre-order the Lifeway CSB Women's Study Bible (with contributions by Dr. Glahn) Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love are You Making? with Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow (a 12-week study through the Song of Songs) Follow Dr. Glahn @sandraglahnauthor Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Transcribed - Published: 10 November 2025

If you've ever felt unseen, disconnected, or tired of pretending you're okay, this episode is for you. This week, author and speaker Toni Collier shares how healing begins when we stop hiding and start letting others in. Through her own story of heartbreak and redemption, you'll hear encouragement and practical wisdom on finding safe people, breaking toxic patterns, and walking with God and others toward healing. Guest: Toni Collier Follow-up Resources: Don't Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain by Toni Collier God's Healing Stinks by Juli Slattery (blog) Why Is Healing So Hard by Juli Slattery (blog) Q&A: How do I get past my sexual shame? (video)   Follow Toni Collier @tonijcollier Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 3 November 2025

This one’s a hot topic—and we know it. 🔥 Juli sits down with Dr. Christopher West to talk about birth control, self-control, and God’s design for our bodies. Whether you’ve wrestled with this teaching or never thought twice about it, this conversation invites you to pause, listen, and seek truth with us.  Guest: Dr. Christopher West   Follow-up Resources: Our Bodies Tell God’s Story by Dr. Christopher West Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Christopher West at @cwestofficial  

Transcribed - Published: 27 October 2025

As Jesus followers, is it okay that we want to look younger, thinner, and prettier?   We live in a world obsessed with appearances. Everywhere you look, someone’s getting fillers, enhancements, or posting a “perfect” version of themselves online. In this episode, Juli and Hannah take an honest look at these questions—not to hand out a new list of rules, but to invite you into a bigger story.  Co-host: Hannah Nitz If you enjoyed this conversation, leave us a rating and review in your podcast app.  Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy @authenticintimacy Find more resources at www.authenticintimacy.com

Transcribed - Published: 20 October 2025

Ever feel like you're the only one in your marriage who wants to have sex?  In most marriages, there is typically one partner with a higher sex drive—and that person is usually trying to convince the other to have more sex. In this episode, Juli and Dr. Corey Allan talk about how to move beyond "I have a need, and you have an obligation" to real sexual intimacy. Guest: Dr. Corey Allan Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app.   Follow-Up Resources: God, Sex & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Sexy Marriage Radio with Dr. Corey Allan Follow Dr. Corey at @sexymarriageradio Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Transcribed - Published: 13 October 2025

Don’t miss your chance to win $200! Take the Java with Juli Survey.  In this episode, we uncover the real stories of women in the Bible who have been misunderstood, silenced, or abused—and discover the God who saw them. From Bathsheba to Tamar to the woman at the well, we revisit stories where we have blamed or shamed women, when in fact scripture points to God’s compassion, justice, and redemption. ⚠️ This episode mentions rape. Please take care when listening. Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn   Follow-up resources: Vindicating the Vixens by Dr. Sandra Glahn Follow Dr. Glahn on IG @sandraglahnauthor Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app      

Transcribed - Published: 6 October 2025

Instead of shutting it down, what if you could meet your needs for touch, intimacy, and opposite-sex friendships in ways that honor your sexuality? (Spoiler alert: you can.) If you've wrestled with desire, boundaries, or shame, this candid conversation will help you see the God-given purpose of your sexuality—even when you're single. P.S. This is one you'll want to share with your single friends. Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau   Don't miss your chance to win a $200 gift card: take the Java with Juli Survey.  Follow-up Resources: Single & Sexually Whole: Soulfully Celebrating the Dance of the Sexes by Dr. Doug Rosenau Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery  

Transcribed - Published: 29 September 2025

In this episode, author Kimberly Haar opens up about surviving a violent abduction and assault at the hands of her ex-husband. With unflinching honesty, she recounts the night her world shattered—and how faith, forgiveness, and Christian therapy helped her rebuild her life.  Guest: Kimberly Haar Take our Java with Juli survey and enter to win $200! 🎉   Follow-up Resources: Healing from Life’s Deepest Hurts by Kimberly Haar  

Transcribed - Published: 22 September 2025

Are you teaching your kids to follow Jesus—or to just follow the rules? In this episode, Juli sits down with Matt & Laurie Krieg to talk about how to give our kids a gospel-centered worldview. From early conversations about sexuality and gender to equipping them for a sexually broken world, you’ll get practical, faith-filled guidance to help you raise resilient, Christ-focused kids. Guests: Matt & Laurie Krieg Take the Java with Juli Listener Survey to get a FREE Building Intimacy with God devotional and be entered to win a $200 VISA gift card!   Follow-up resources: Watch Christian Sexuality: Raising Kids hosted by Laurie Krieg Preorder Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World by Laurie Krieg Get Protect Young Eyes, the tool Matt & Laurie mentioned to help protect your kids online.  

Transcribed - Published: 15 September 2025

How do you speak life to your husband when all you want to do is yell at him?  Juli sits down for a candid conversation with author Ann Wilson about the transformative power of our words. Hear how Ann discovered that her (helpful!) criticism, even her subtle “sophisticated nagging,” wasn’t helping her husband at all—in fact, it was hurting both of them. With real-life stories and practical wisdom, this conversation proves that a few well-chosen words can transform a marriage. Guest: Ann Wilson (with Dave Wilson)   Online Book Studies close soon—grab your spot today! Pick up your copy of How To Speak Life to Your Husband When All You Want To Do Is Yell at Him by Ann Wilson Java with Juli #386 What’s the Secret to Getting the Marriage You Want? Go Vertical with Dave & Ann Wilson (a members-only resource)

Transcribed - Published: 8 September 2025

If you struggle with low desire, pain during sex, or difficulty with orgasm and don’t know where to go for help, this week’s Java with Juli is for you! Juli sits down with certified sex therapist Josh Spurlock to explore what Christian sex therapy really is—and what it isn’t.  Josh explains the difference between sex therapy and traditional counseling, the most common challenges he helps couples overcome, and why having a therapist who respects God’s design for sexuality matters. From dispelling myths like “sex is supposed to hurt” to offering hope that orgasm is possible for nearly every woman, this conversation brings biblical wisdom and practical help to some of the most sensitive places in your marriage. “I wish I would’ve known this 20 years ago” doesn’t have to be your story. Listen in! Guest: Josh Spurlock, LPC, CST   Online Book Studies are open. Join one today! Find a Christian sex therapist at MyCounselor.Online.

Transcribed - Published: 1 September 2025

The power of abuse lies in secrecy. The power of healing begins with telling. In this episode, Tim Hein shares his story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and the journey of healing. From the courage it takes to break the silence, to the importance of being believed, to the steps of recovery that lead to restoration, Tim offers raw honesty and hard-earned wisdom. He reflects on how trauma shaped his life, marriage, and faith—and how choosing to tell your story is ultimately an act of self-love and grace. This hopeful conversation offers encouragement for survivors and practical insight for those who walk alongside them. Guest: Tim Hein Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Follow us or leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app.   Follow-Up Resources: Understanding Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Ministry Leaders and Survivors by Tim Hein Blog: God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery Video Q&A: Past sexual trauma keeps me from enjoying sex. Is there hope that I can heal? Blog: How to Choose a Wise Counselor by Dr. Juli Slattery        

Transcribed - Published: 25 August 2025

Juli and her guests explore the infiltration of erotica and LGBTQ themes into young adult fiction. From board books to bestselling novels, today’s literature isn’t what it used to be—and parents are the last to know. You’ll hear stories from the frontlines and get practical tools to help you navigate today’s fiction. Whether you’re raising toddlers or talking with teens, this is a conversation every parent, teacher, and youth leader needs to hear. Guests: Greta Eskridge and Korrie Johnson   Follow-Up Resources: It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity by Greta Eskridge Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh Good Book Mom Plugged In Redeemed Reader Read Aloud Revival  

Transcribed - Published: 18 August 2025

Have you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now’s your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex. From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands’ need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom. Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz Follow us in your favorite podcast app. Join an online book study today!   Resources:  God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Blog: Struggling with Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need a “Sex Break” Blog: Are You Entitled to “Good” Sex in Marriage? Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Is Looking at Porn? Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me? Find more resources at www.authenticintimacy.com Follow us on social media at @authenticintimacy  Follow Chip Ingram at @chip_ingram    

Transcribed - Published: 11 August 2025

If loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it’s the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free. Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies. Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Follow-up Resources: Get your copy of Surrendered Sexuality now! Find more resources at authenticintimacy.com Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz    

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

In a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church. Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you’re invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side. Co-host: Joe Caruso   Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here.

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender. Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation. Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo   Follow-up Resources: Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here. Follow Jackie Hill Perry at @jackiehillperry Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Published: 21 July 2025

Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender. Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation. Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo   Follow-up Resources: Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here. Follow Jackie Hill Perry at @jackiehillperry Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

We’re moving from shame-based “sexual purity” to sexual integrity—the day-by-day journey of aligning your sexual choices with God’s truth. Whether you're single, married, or just asking hard questions, you’ll find hope in this episode.    Co-host: Joe Caruso   Become a monthly donor to Authentic Intimacy today!  Get your copy of Surrendered Sexuality. Follow Authentic Intimacy Follow Joe Caruso

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

If you’ve ever wrestled with how to reconcile your faith with your sexuality, or how God’s design seems outdated (or even unloving), this is an episode you can’t miss. Continuing in our theme of Surrendered Sexuality, Juli exposes the cultural narratives shaping how you think about sexuality — often without realizing it.   Become a monthly donor and get your free copy of Surrendered Sexuality today! Or, buy your copy here.

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

You believe God loves you—but you're afraid to trust Him with your most painful places. In this conversation, discover why surrender is one of the most courageous acts of trust—and the beginning of real healing. Plus . . . its book launch week! 🎉 Co-host: Joe Caruso   Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here. Follow Authentic Intimacy Follow Joe Caruso

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

What if God asks you to surrender not because of what He wants to take from you, but because of what He wants to give? Grab your Java and listen in as Juli shares the core message of  her new book, “Surrendered Sexuality.”     Follow-up resources: Watch on YouTube Preorder your copy of “Surrendered Sexuality” Register for the Launch Party! Follow us at @authenticintimacy

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025

Discover why finding your identity in Christ isn't about changing your behavior—it's about knowing Jesus, and letting Him redefine who you are. In this episode, get a sneak peek at what’s inside Juli’s new book as she shares four identity traps that keep us stuck. Co-host: Joe Caruso    Follow-up Resources: Preorder your copy of "Surrendered Sexuality" and get a FREE devotional!  Follow Authentic Intimacy Follow Joe Caruso     

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

What's the most important thing about you? Get ready—this episode will challenge what you've always believed about yourself. Listen in as Juli shares why our identity must be rooted in who God says we are—not in our past, our "purity," or our pain.  Co-host: Joe Caruso, @joecaruso06   Follow-up Resources: Join our email list to stay in the know about all things related to Juli's upcoming book, "Surrendered Sexuality." Pre-order "Surrendered Sexuality" today!

Published: 9 June 2025

What’s the most important thing about you? Get ready—this episode will challenge what you've always believed about yourself. Listen in as Juli shares why our identity must be rooted in who God says we are—not in our past, our “purity,” or our pain.  Co-host: Joe Caruso   Follow-up Resources: NEW! Watch Java with Juli on YouTube Join our email list to stay in the know about all things related to Juli’s upcoming book, “Surrendered Sexuality.” Pre-order “Surrendered Sexuality” today!  

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Want to raise faithful and loving kids in an LGBT-affirming world? This episode is one you can't afford to skip. You don't have to choose between truth and love—this conversation will equip you to give your kids both. Grab your Java and join us!  Guest: Rachel Gilson    Follow-up Resources: Parenting Without Panic in an LGBT-Affirming World by Rachel Gilson Java with Juli  #312 Born Again This Way: Rachel's Story (AI Members Only) Sign up for our email list and stay in the know about all things happening around Juli's upcoming book, Surrendered Sexuality.

Published: 2 June 2025

Want to raise faithful and loving kids in an LGBT-affirming world? This episode is one you can’t afford to skip. You don’t have to choose between truth and love—this conversation will equip you to give your kids both. Grab your Java and join us!  Guest: Rachel Gilson    Follow-up Resources: Parenting Without Panic in an LGBT-Affirming World by Rachel Gilson Java with Juli  #312 Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story (AI Members Only) Sign up for our email list and stay in the know about all things happening around Juli's upcoming book, Surrendered Sexuality.

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

Turns out, the stuff we haven’t dealt with from childhood shows up ... right in the middle of our relationships. Sit down with Juli and Dr. Dan Allender as they discuss why we must be willing to explore our own stories in order to create safety, nurture curiosity, and repair what’s broken. Guest: Dr. Dan Allender   Follow-up Resources: The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dr. Dan Allender Java with Juli #169 Your Wounded Heart (AI Members Only) Join an Online Book Study!

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

We spend a lot of our marriages thinking that “becoming one” means, "You'll become more like me. And once you become more like me, then we'll become one." Instead, what if you could say to your spouse, “I can love you just the way you are without having to change you.” If that’s the kind of oneness you want for your marriage (present or future), grab your Java and pull up a chair with Juli and Hannah. Co-host: Hannah Nitz (@hannahnitz)   Follow-up Resources: My Husband Isn’t My Best Friend (blog) Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study!

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

We spend a lot of our marriages thinking that "becoming one" means, "You'll become more like me. And once you become more like me, then we'll become one." Instead, what if you could say to your spouse, "I can love you just the way you are without having to change you." If that's the kind of oneness you want for your marriage (present or future), grab your Java and pull up a chair with Juli and Hannah. Co-host: Hannah Nitz (@hannahnitz)   Follow-up Resources: My Husband Isn't My Best Friend (blog) Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study!

Published: 19 May 2025

AI is changing the game when it comes to pornography—and it's becoming more addictive and more dehumanizing than ever. This episode explores the impact of modern porn, including its ties to fantasy, gaming, and a distorted view of connection. If you or someone you love is navigating this journey, there is hope! Guests: Jonathan Daugherty & Joel Warneking   Follow-up Resources: Join an Online Book Study!  Hot Topic Kit: Porn in Marriage (for AI Members)—not a member, get it here. Gateway to Freedom Intensive Workshop 423 Communities, 423 Podcast

Published: 12 May 2025

AI is changing the game when it comes to pornography—and it’s becoming more addictive and more dehumanizing than ever. This episode explores the impact of modern porn, including its ties to fantasy, gaming, and a distorted view of connection. If you or someone you love is navigating this journey, there is hope! Guests: Jonathan Daugherty & Joel Warneking   Follow-up Resources: Join an Online Book Study!  Hot Topic Kit: Porn in Marriage (for AI Members)—not a member, get it here. Gateway to Freedom Intensive Workshop 423 Communities, 423 Podcast

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

The relationships you struggle with the most? This episode is for those. Juli sits down with Bible teacher Jada Edwards to share stories about the ways they’ve fallen short when it comes to loving others, and how God has transformed their understanding of what it means to love the way He does. (Spoiler alert: Sometimes the best way to learn love is to start with the person who bugs you the most.) Guest: Jada Edwards (@jada_edwards)   Resources: Sign up for our email list and stay in the know! Jada’s book: A New Way to Love Your Neighbor How to Have Tough Conversations (blog) Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus (blog) AI Members Only: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means, Ep. #401  

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Sadly, wrestling with pornography addiction is increasingly commonplace. But how do people find pornography? And why do they keep going back to it? In the final of this series revisiting Reclaim, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest, share their testimony and expertise around pornography addiction, and what it takes to overcome it.   Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas   Troy and Melissa’s Website: hopequestgroup.org/ Troy and Melissa’s Instagram: @hopequestgroup   Partner financially with Authentic Intimacy!   Resource: #549 What the Latest Research Shows About Porn Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

Navigating the teenage years has never been easy, whether you’re the parent or the child. So as parents, how can you help your teenager or pre-teen have a better experience? What practically can you do to put them in a stronger position to navigate their teenage years safely, with more clarity about God’s love for them and design for their sexuality? Three guests – James Talbert, Josh Miller, and Chelsey Nutgren – join Juli to share some much-needed practical advice for raising surrendered kids in our current cultural moment.   Guests: James Talbert, Josh Miller, Chelsey Nutgren   James’ Website: Citizens Akron Josh’s Website: Riverwood Chapel Akron   Website: AXIS.org Website: Center for Humane Technology   Resource Series: Blog: Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Why, When, and How Blog: 5 Reasons You’re Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them) Blog: Sexual Integrity: The Heart of Sexually Discipling Your Kids   Find out more about donating to Authentic Intimacy.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

James 4:1 so famously writes, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?” It’s not surprising that marriage is a hotbed for conflict. When you live so closely with someone else, it’s easy to see their flaws, shortcomings, and mistakes in high definition. So what can you do to stop constantly fighting? In this special session from Reclaim 2024, Brad Rhoads shares what helped cut fighting and elevate fun in his marriage. Guests: Brad Rhodes, Grace Marriage Brad’s Website: gracemarriage.com Brad’s Instagram: @grace_marriage   Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

We’ve talked about the fact that many women struggle to ‘flip the switch’ and enjoy married sex, and we’ve talked about what might contribute to that. But we haven’t talked about what husbands can do to help their wives enjoy sex. Juli shares a conversation from Gary Thomas’ Podcast where she was a panelist alongside Debra Fileta and Belah Rose.   Host: Gary Thomas   Featured Speakers: Dr. Juli Slattery, Debra Fileta, MA, LPC and Belah Rose   Gary’s Website: garythomas.com Gary’s Newsletter: garythomasbooks.substack.com   Book: Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, MA, LPC Book: Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery   Juli’s Website: authenticintimacy.com Debra’s Website: debrafileta.com Belah’s Website: delightyourmarriage.com   Please support Joy and Zack Skarka on GoFundMe   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

There are so many challenges that come with leading a church well, especially when it comes to how to express their stance on Biblical sexuality. Many want to be a place where people can wrestle with the truth about God and sex and figure things out, while also being sure to prioritize biblical orthodoxy. How can they do both? Pastor Evan Wickham, from Park Hill Church in San Diego, joins Juli to share lessons he’s learned and what his church is doing to lead biblically with clarity and love.   NOTE: We had some technical issues with recording this episode, but wanted to make sure you got to hear a great conversation--thanks for being patient with us!   Guest: Evan Wickham   Park Hill’s Instagram: @prkhllchrch Evan’s Instagram: @evanwickham   Park Hill’s Website: parkhillsd.church   Join our email list!   Blog: Has God Changed His Mind About Sex?   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

Historically, inside and outside the church, male sexuality has been talked about as a purely orgasm-driven experience. But is it possible we have oversimplified the male sexual experience? What if there’s more to the way men think and feel about sex than we’ve previously considered?  Dr. Corey Allan joins Juli for a very different conversation about male sexuality. Guest: Dr. Corey Allan Corey’s Website: smr.fm Corey’s Instagram: @sexymarriageradio   Resource: Purity Culture Failed Men Too   Sign up for the email list!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

As we work to change the purity narrative and undo many of its effects, we have to look at some of the continued harm it does to marriages. There’s still so much missing in the way Christian couples are taught about marital intimacy. How can Christians celebrate the gift of sex that God gave in marriage? Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, where he shared both what is missing and what is needed in the church when it comes to talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.   Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau, Institute for Sexual Wholeness   Institute for Sexual Wholeness   Book: The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner Book: A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Douglas E. Rosenau   Podcast: #543 How the Old Testament Reveals God’s Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love   Transcript 00:00 - Introduction to Christian Sexuality Conversations 03:14 - The Church’s Perspective on Sex in Marriage 16:26 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Mutual Pleasure 29:13 - Nuancing Gender and Desire in Sexual Conversations   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do’s and don’ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it. Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.   Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante   Website: drcamden.com Instagram: @drcamden   Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante Free Resource: Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity   Sign up for our email list!   Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture 02:13 Camden’s Personal Journey and Professional Insights 05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture 09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence 13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values 15:57 Dating Dynamics and Courtship Culture 22:08 Modesty and Its Misinterpretations 25:07 The Role of Patriarchy in Purity Culture 30:54 Steps Towards Healing and Wholeness 39:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

If questions about sex lead to questions about God, it’s important that we know and follow Jesus as He really is. Rick Lawrence, author of “Editing Jesus”, joins Juli to discuss how many American Christians make Jesus into an image other than Himself.   Guest: Rick Lawrence   Rick’s Website: ricklawrence.com Book: Editing Jesus: Confronting the Distorted Faith of the American Church by Rick Lawrence   Join our email list! Guide: “3 Reasons Questions About Sex Lead to Questions about God”   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

In this special Q&A episode, Juli answers your questions about sex and marriage. You’ll hear answers to questions like, why did God make us sexual when it causes so much pain? Does sex matter in marriage? And, is it possible to be too focused on sex in marriage?   Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage.   Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Blog: Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage Blog: Help! How Much Sex is “Normal” for Married Couples?   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

How can women overcome fear and shame around their bodies and embrace the beauty of God’s design for sex? Whether from purity culture, other messages, or poor experiences, many women don’t see their bodies and sex as good or beautiful. Francie Winslow, host of the podcast “Heaven in Your Home” went through her own struggle with this, and joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design.   Guest: Francie Winslow   Website: franciewinslow.com Instagram: @franciewinslow   Strong Foundation To Starting Well: Claiming A Healthy Vision For Married Sex Pleasure & Orgasm: Passion & Practicals Of A Wife Receiving Pleasure   Java with Juli: #550 What to Do When Sex is Painful   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

When a marriage is in crisis, it can be hard to know what the next step should be. Is divorce the only option? Are there other steps available that couples often miss? Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore.     Guest: Dr. Greg Smalley     Focus on the Family Website   Java with Juli: #489 Thinking About Divorce? You Might Want to Listen to This First Java with Juli: #519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church   Blog: Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation Blog: Is Divorce the Right Answer?   Become a member!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

It’s reported that 20-30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife and lower-desire husband. This means that while many women may wish their husbands requested less sex, there are also many women who experience the opposite. For the woman who wants her husband to want sex a little more, Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.   Guest: Sheri Mueller, LCPC   Sheri’s Website: marriagetrac.com Sheri’s Instagram: @growthtrac   Book: I Want Him to Want Me by Sheri Mueller, LCPC Blog: Why Christians Need to Care About Sex   Missed last week’s episode? Listen to it here.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

What secret are you keeping? Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved. Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it’s worth us living in the light.   Guest: Jason VanRuler   Website: jasonvr.com Instagram: @jason.vanruler   Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler   Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025