How Do You Keep Married Sex Exciting?, #604
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
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🗓️ 20 April 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
Married sex doesn't just "stay hot"...but you can fan the flames to create something even more meaningful (and longer-lasting) than honeymoon sex.
This week, we're talking about how to keep married sex exciting over the long haul. You'll learn about the shift that happens in long-term relationships, why desire can fade into routine, and what actually helps bring the spark back.
No theory. No pressure. Just real-life rhythms and practical ways you can reconnect emotionally and physically with your spouse. If you've ever thought "we're good... but it's not like it used to be," this conversation is for you!
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Okay, Julie, this is a little bit different for authentic intimacy, but I would like to start |
| 0:06.8 | with a math problem. So everyone listening can play along. You can play along too. Math problem. |
| 0:12.6 | Yeah, listen, my seven-year-old is obsessed with math. He asks me math equations all day long. |
| 0:18.1 | I don't know where it came from, but I live in the math world now, okay? |
| 0:21.4 | So I'm bringing it to authenticity. There you go. Here we go. It's a word problem on the SAT. Get ready. |
| 0:28.4 | Let's say a married couple has sex twice a week. And they've been married for 10 years at this point. |
| 0:36.4 | That's a thousand times of having sex. |
| 0:38.7 | Please tell me you didn't do this math problem with your son. |
| 0:41.7 | No. |
| 0:42.9 | I changed the word. |
| 0:44.1 | It would ruin math for him forever. |
| 0:46.5 | We eat chick filet two times a week. |
| 0:48.9 | There you go. |
| 0:49.7 | Over 10 years, how much chick flay will eat? |
| 0:52.1 | Oh, that's so funny. |
| 0:53.1 | Okay, but the reason I'm starting with this question is because we are going to answer this question about how we are possibly making sex fun after thousands of times of having sex with the same person. |
| 1:08.0 | How many years have you married? |
| 1:09.5 | How long have I been married? 16 years this year. Okay. |
| 1:13.3 | It'll be 32 for us. So that's a lot. It's a lot of sex. Okay. So we get this question a lot. |
| 1:19.7 | Married couples saying, man, I've been having sex with the same person for a really long time. |
| 1:24.3 | Okay. So we're going to have this challenging conversation today of how do we make |
| 1:29.8 | this exciting still? Is this even possible or is it just like a task now? It's so long. |
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