The 5 Love Languages (& Why Your Spouse's Love Tank Is Still Empty), #599
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
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🗓️ 9 March 2026
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
You know your spouse's love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty?
This week, we're expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that's possible!), and love tank "leaks." Plus, you'll learn why gifts aren't always about money and why physical touch isn't always about sex.
Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love.
Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Follow-up Resources:
Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk about the Five Love Languages on Java #592 The Love Language that Matters Most.
Take the free relationship assessment at myheartchart.com
The Five Love Languages Premium Assessment
The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott
Follow Les & Leslie at @lesandleslie
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
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| 0:00.0 | Hey friend, welcome to another episode of Java with Julie. |
| 0:05.0 | I'm your host Julie Slattery, and this podcast is an outreach of authentic intimacy, which is ministry that helps people make sense of God and sexuality. |
| 0:15.0 | Well, I'd say unless you've successfully dodged every book club, marriage conference, and Instagram quiz. You've probably |
| 0:22.9 | heard of the five love languages, and you probably know your own, and if you're married, you |
| 0:28.1 | might know your spouses too. But let me ask you, have you ever felt like you're trying so |
| 0:33.7 | hard to love your spouse or a child or a friend and it's just not landing. I know what that |
| 0:39.5 | feels like. Today I'm joined by Dr. Les and Leslie Parrott. They are relationship experts, |
| 0:45.3 | longtime friends, and they're collaborators with Dr. Gary Chapman on a fresh take on how to |
| 0:52.4 | implement the five love languages. |
| 0:55.0 | And in this conversation, Les and Leslie are going to share how they discovered, |
| 0:59.1 | first in their own relationship, that it wasn't just about speaking the right love language, |
| 1:04.0 | but there's also nuance and personality and what they call love leaks that were playing into this communication dynamic. |
| 1:11.6 | And that's when they reached out to Dr. Gary Chapman and said, |
| 1:15.0 | hey, I think we need to take this a step further. |
| 1:18.1 | Together, the parrots and Dr. Chapman have written a new book called The Love Language |
| 1:22.4 | That Matters Most, and you will also hear less talk about a new premium assessment that you could take |
| 1:28.5 | right now. |
| 1:29.5 | And if you need a refresher on the five love languages, Dr. Chapman was on this podcast in |
| 1:35.6 | January, and we'll link to that episode in our show notes. |
| 1:39.4 | Hey, this is one of those conversations that doesn't just give you information. |
| 1:42.9 | It really gives you something to try like right now. |
| 1:46.2 | So let's head to the coffee shop with Dr. Les and Leslie Parrott. |
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