What If My Spouse Is Looking at Porn?, #609
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 1 June 2026
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
This week, Juli, Hannah, and Joe answer one of the hardest questions many of us face: What do I do if my spouse is looking at porn?
This conversation is honest, compassionate, and full of hope. We talk through the pain, shame, confusion, and secrecy that pornography often brings into a marriage—and why healing is still possible for both the person struggling and the spouse who feels hurt and betrayed.
You'll hear practical wisdom on how to find the support you need, why you can't be your spouse's accountability partner, and how true intimacy is about so much more than just changing a behavior.
Whether this struggle has touched your marriage personally or that of someone you love, it's one you'll definitely want to share.
Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso
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Follow-up Resources
25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery
Hot Topic Kit: Pornography In Marriage
5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband's Porn Problem (blog)
3 Things Women Want You to Know About Their Addiction to Pornography (blog)
Video Q&A: Is porn sinful?
Video Q&A: Does my spouse watch porn because of me?
Find help and community with any of these trusted ministries:
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you've been listening to Job with Julie for a while, have you noticed that there aren't any ads here? |
| 0:06.5 | Well, that's intentional because we want this podcast to feel like a safe place for conversations about God and sexuality. |
| 0:13.6 | At authentic intimacy, we hear every day how much these conversations matter. |
| 0:19.4 | And if this podcast has encouraged you, challenged you, |
| 0:22.6 | or help you feel just a little less alone, would you consider becoming a monthly donor? |
| 0:28.3 | Your partnership helps us reach more people with truth, hope, and healing. And I would love |
| 0:33.9 | to have you as part of our team. As a way to say thank you, I'm going to send you a copy of my new updated book, |
| 0:41.2 | 25 questions you're afraid to ask about love, sex, and intimacy. |
| 0:45.7 | You can become a monthly partner today at Authenticinemacy.com slash give |
| 0:50.5 | or just look for a link in the show notes. |
| 0:53.7 | Now let's head to the coffee shop. |
| 0:57.7 | Hey, welcome to another episode of Chavo with Julie. |
| 1:01.0 | I'm Julie Slattery. |
| 1:02.2 | This podcast is an outreach of a ministry called Authentic Inimacy, which really aims to help people make sense of God and sexuality. |
| 1:10.7 | And I'm here today with a couple friends, Hannah Knits and Joe Caruso. really aims to help people make sense of God and sexuality. |
| 1:11.0 | And I'm here today with a couple friends, Hannah Knits and Joe Caruso. |
| 1:15.5 | Hannah, you are my cousin and a very, very frequent co-host on Job with Julie. |
| 1:20.4 | You always say yes when I ask, so thank you. |
| 1:22.7 | For better or for worse. |
| 1:23.7 | Here I am. |
| 1:24.7 | Yeah. |
| 1:25.7 | Always for better, Hannah, at I am. Yeah. |
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