Brown Girl Self-Care

This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life.If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I hope you take them as reminders to claim your life sooner rather than later.In this episode I share:Why I will no longer overexplain myselfHow my body, not the clock, sets the pace for my lifeThe line I’ve drawn around reciprocity in relationships and workThe honest truth about not knowing how to be a good friend until later in lifeWhy I am no longer comparing my timeline to anyone else’sMentioned in this episode:Book a B.E.I.N.G. Session Our Sponsors: * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 25 August 2025

Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me.In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity:Not answering texts right awaySaying “I can’t talk right now”Blocking off the first 30 minutes of your morningLeaving when you’re readyRefusing to explain your “no”These may look simple, but they’re radical. Because every time a Black woman says no to urgency, over-functioning, or people-pleasing, she’s also saying no to the systems that demand her exhaustion.Listen in if you’re ready to stop being “on call” for the world and start saving your energy for yourself.Book a B.E.I.N.G. self-care session with me Our Sponsors: * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 18 August 2025

We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your entrepreneurial journey. Don't let the "highs" fool you into thinking you need to flaunt because things can change very quickly. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 15 August 2025

I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself.We talk about:The moment I realized my trust was starting to changeHow my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels nowWhy trust takes time to rebuild Also, as mentioned: BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is where we sit together and put out the fires—whether it’s burnout from your job, the weight of family dynamics, being the go-to for everyone in your circle, community or church obligations, caregiving without support, or constantly feeling like you have to be the strong one—so you can reset and move forward lighter. You’ll leave with clarity and steps you can actually use right now. If you want to go deeper, we can work through the full BEING framework together. Book your session here. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 11 August 2025

So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength.We talk about:What the Superwoman Contract actually isWhy we feel obligated to carry so muchHow this “strength” is expensiveWhat it could look like to void the contract and choose something else Mentioned in this episode:➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. If you’ve been carrying it all, this is your space to finally set it down. Book your session today. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is.We talk about:Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us anymoreWhat self-care meant before vs. what it means nowThe transitions we’re moving through in midlifeWhy this shift is necessary—not just for me, but for us Mentioned in this episode:➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. Price increases in a few days—book now to lock in the current rate. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Hey, hey!Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk.Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and can't get a handle on prioritizing your needs, book some time on my calendar right here! It's hard to figure out your needs or even what's next for you when life is full of people-pleasing, carrying the weight of family and the job, and always having to be "on." These sessions help you feel clearer, lighter, and more connected to what you need so that you can bloom. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 25 July 2025

We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good?In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes to protect your peace and now feel unsettled by the stillness, this conversation is for you.In this episode:Why stillness can feel unsafe at firstHow your nervous system reacts to peace when it’s used to chaosThe temptation to refill what you just clearedWhat to do when the quiet feels like too much If you're in a season of stretching, releasing, or sitting in uncomfortable in-between moments, book a 1:1 B.E.I.N.G. session with me. It’s a space to process, reconnect, and move through what’s surfacing with care. → Join me here! Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

Hey, hey!!This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will. Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about judgement or blame but about awareness and reflection as we continue leaning into community care and support for one another. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw*Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week.Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of $49/session. We all need space to be held. We all need space to unravel. We all need space to center OUR needs and to get guidance on ways to bloom. This is your space. Join me in the B.E.I.N.G. Space anytime. Our Sponsors: * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse****It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when you choose peace and refuse to shrink, even when people expect you to go back.I’m sharing this episode for anyone who's navigating estrangement, emotional distance, or rebuilding themselves after breaking ties. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not wrong for choosing yourself.In this episode, I share:How I spent the one-year anniversary3 real lessons from going no contactThe ways I’ve learned to honor myselfHow people will try to guilt you Mentioned in the Episode:→ Learn more about B.E.I.N.G. Self-Care Coaching: [Book Your Session w/ Me Here] Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episodeReal talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times.In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern.We’re talking about why so many Black women feel unseen in their businesses, and how to unlearn the guilt around getting paid for your care.If you’ve been grinding with heart and getting crumbs in return, this one’s for you.Mentioned in this episode:Book Self-Care CoachingMy LinktreeSupport my work (CashApp) Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 27 June 2025

We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself?In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself. You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t mean it, and ignoring what you need. That’s a form of self-abandonment.I’m sharing some things I wrote in my journal this week, a few hard truths about how we treat ourselves, and why being your own best friend is the kind of care that changes everything.Links for this episode:→ Book a Self-Care Coaching Session with me: Click Here→ Listen to last weeks episode on self-abandonment: Click Here → Follow me on Instagram: @browngirlselfcare → Want to support this work?: Click Here Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025

In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you.I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in small, intentional ways.This is not about being perfect. It’s about not disappearing on yourself anymore. This is important liberation work.Mentioned in this episode:– The 4 daily practices I use to rebuild self-trust– What it means to make a decision and not waver– How to move without proof (and why that’s important)– Real-life examples of what this looks like for everyday Black women Also, here is the link to the hypertension article I read and mentioned Work with me here:🧘🏾‍♀️ Book a B.E.I.N.G. Self-Care Session → Click here! Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter BeginsIn this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays. This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed me to move anyway.We’re talking entrepreneurship, creativity, personal growth, and what it means to reclaim your time and voice. If you’ve been dreaming of building something outside the system—or you’ve already started—this series is for you.🎙️ Ready to Start or Sustain Your Podcast?I’m now offering 1-on-1 podcast coaching for Black women who are ready to launch or keep their podcast going with clarity and strategy. If you're ready to invest in yourself, see your vision come to life, and work with me 1-on-1, book a session today.→ Here is the booking link to check it out and hold your space on my calendar🔗 Links + ResourcesBook Podcast Coaching: [Book here]Follow on Threads and Instagram: @browngirlselfcareSupport my work - Cashapp Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2025

Listen to the episode from 2020Link to the free mini quideIn this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.And I didn’t apologize.This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.I talk about:What really happened that day on the sidewalkHow that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the pastThe truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorryThe quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not toWhy taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestralThis episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address. Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.I share:Why crying helped me realize what my soul is cravingThe emotional toll of always showing up for othersWhy some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start overWhy self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessaryA question that might help you get closer to your own self-loveThis one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, we're cutting through the noise and naming the truth: Black women are not the problem — the systems are. Capitalism, white supremacy, grind culture, and patriarchy have conditioned us to blame ourselves for exhaustion, financial struggle, and “inconsistency.” But that ends here.We’re not just naming the harm — we’re talking about how to push back in 2025. From reclaiming rest, to doing less without guilt, to unlearning money shame, this episode is your reminder that healing and resistance can co-exist.In this episode, I cover:Why rest still feels hard (and who benefits from that)How capitalism set us up to fail with moneyThe truth about “doing the most” and what it costs usReal ways to resist — even if you're still tired, in debt, or just getting started This is for you if:You’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enoughYou’re healing while still playing the gameYou’re ready to choose rest, ease, and clarity — without guilt Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.If you’re feeling heavy the day after Mother’s Day, this episode is for you. Whether the day brought up grief, frustration, numbness, or just left you feeling emotionally off, you are not alone. In this gentle episode, I’m holding space for the Black women who are expected to “bounce back” on Monday when their hearts are still tender. We’re talking about softening into the week, honoring your truth, and giving yourself permission to move slow. You’ll also hear a series of affirmations to carry with you as you reclaim your energy, one breath at a time. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.Now, onto todays episode. Have you ever been called boring or even a square? I have been several times and I allowed that to shame me into trying to be someone that i was never intended to be. I realized that the idea that I was too boring to show up or share parts of my life online (parts that I deem aren't too private or sacred) had a huge impact on my business and and even how I felt about myself. If this is you too, I'm sharing some takeaways I want you to consider. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.Now, on to todays episode. I decided to let chatgpt give me a prompt that would help me do some self-reflection and it didn't disappoint. I wasn't sure that I would share this when I hit record because this was a personal note that I created for myself to process my thoughts on fear + self-worth. I'm sharing this because I want YOU to trust your voice. It's hard to trust your voice if you are searching for the perfect thing to say or the perfect thing to feel. Healing is not about an aesthetic, it's about being real, raw and unfiltered. Using your voice can be a great step to becoming a place of safety for yourself and this is so important. Don't be afraid to use the prompt in todays episode to see what comes up for you.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode I want to remind Black women of the importance of giving themselves their best. We have got to stop reserving our 'pretty' for others or future occasions. Black women have done enough, we have given enough, it's beyond time we utilize our best for our benefit before it is given away to others. On top of that, I'm tired of playing the supporting character in life so I share a bit about that, too. 2025 is about shaking tables and no longer hiding ourselves. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.Overconsumption can be tearing down your self-identity and self-worth, instead of helping us take action on our inherent abilities and knowledge. You were put here to lead but your conditioning tells you that you need to consume more before you can take action. No matter your purpose, this episode is for you.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.2025 is a pivotal year for me and for many other Black women who are sick of these systems and sick of laboring at jobs that deplete and exhaust us. Black women deal with societal systems every day that are not designed for us to thrive and I've come to realize that I have to break free from fear, perfectionism and imposter syndrome so that I can reject traditional 9-5 labor and instead do things that tap into my purpose and joy. Sound like you too? Press play!Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcare * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.I've got a listener question today that came from my Instagram dm's. She wanted to know how I hancled/am handling my IRS debt. Listen in and I'll share the simple steps I took for my 13k of IRS debt as well as the mindset shifts I finally made regarding financial/struggle cycles.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.This episode is specifically for those of us who grew up believing that we were "bad" or too flawed to be loved due to how we were treated as children/the conditioning we received in our childhood years. I've been thinking about my identity a lot as of late and once I learned that our identities were perfect when we were born, it made a profound shift in my life. Instead of grasping blindly at trying to be someone I'm not, I'm more focused on nurturing my "soil."Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode I'm getting real about my financial struggles, personal growth, and the steps I'm taking to break free from generational cycles of trauma and lack. I talk about my decision to leave corporate life in 2019 for my mental health, the challenges I faced thereafter, and my ongoing battle with debt. I want to STRESS the importance of shedding shame and guilt tied to financial hardships while discussing the conditioning and societal expectations that often plague Black women. My hope is that other 'cycle breakers' will continue to prioritize healing, make intentional choices, and reframe their mindset around money and self-worth as they navigate their unique journeys in 2025 alongside me.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’tSometimes we need to ask for grace, and there is no shame in that. Whether it’s adjusting a financial commitment, backing out of a purchase, or simply admitting that we don’t have the capacity for something right now—giving ourselves permission to be honest is an act of self-care.In this episode, I share two real-life moments this week where I had to step back and say, “I can’t do this right now.” It wasn’t easy. It felt a little embarrassing. But I let that go because the reality is this: Being honest about what you need is responsible, not shameful.Come get this reminder that we are all human and that self-preservation is a must.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’tI had big plans for this season—new episodes, a bold rebrand, coming back stronger than ever. But the truth? This might not be the season for big things. And that’s okay.In this episode, I’m sitting with that truth and letting go of the pressure to force momentum. If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or like you should be doing more, let’s breathe through that together. Sometimes, the most radical thing we can do is honor where we are.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m opening up about what I learned from taking an unplanned break. After moving and needing time to settle in, I found myself sitting in the discomfort of not producing—of not showing up in the ways I usually do. And even though I knew I needed the rest, there was still that lingering feeling that I should be doing more.I’ll share how this experience reminded me that we are often more tired than we realize, how the pressure to always be productive is deeply tied to colonization and capitalism, and why it’s so important to give ourselves permission to pause before burnout forces us to stop.In this episode, I’m sharing five key things to keep in mind when you’re struggling to rest:You’re probably more tired than you even realize. We’ve been conditioned to run on empty for so long that exhaustion can feel normal—until we finally stop.Resting will make you uncomfortable at first. When we’re used to equating our worth with productivity, stepping back can feel unnatural. That’s colonization talking.The world won’t fall apart because you take a break. We carry so much on our shoulders, but the truth is, things will keep moving even when we pause.You don’t have to feel “ready” to rest. If you’re waiting for a perfect moment to slow down, it’ll never come. Your body, mind, and spirit need care now.You have permission to pause. You don’t have to earn your rest. You don’t have to justify it. Rest is your birthright.If you’ve ever felt uneasy about slowing down—like you’re somehow falling behind or not doing enough—this episode is for you. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m sharing an intimate life update as I prepare to move from California to Arkansas. I’m opening up about the emotional and practical challenges I’ve faced along the way, including letting go of 95% of my possessions due to financial constraints.I’ll share how deeply rooted scarcity and self-worth struggles have shaped my life and why this move represents more than just a physical transition—it’s a journey of healing, grief, and reclaiming intentionality.I’ll also introduce my upcoming collaboration with Yolanda, founder of Parenting Decolonized, as we work together to create a sustainable living community for single Black mothers and their children. This episode is about resilience, community, and embracing change, even when it feels hard.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out SKIMS: https://skims.com * Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is a space where Black women come to honor our humanity and reclaim our power in a world that takes us for granted. Here, choosing ourselves—our healing, our joy, and our rest—is an act of radical resistance and deep self-love.In this episode, we’re exploring the emotional toll that masking takes on Black women. We’ll start with a few deep breaths to create a calming space and then dive into my journey of setting boundaries and acknowledging my emotions, reminding us that healing can bring up some friction.We’ll also unpack the societal pressures Black women face to mask their true feelings, using Angela Bassett’s reaction at the Oscars as an example. This conversation critiques cultural expectations that demand we hide our pain to keep others comfortable, and instead encourages us to embrace our humanity, honor our emotions, and create spaces where we can be authentic.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our worth. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become radical acts of love and justice, profound ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode, we unpack the discomfort and stigma that Black women often feel when it comes to asking for and receiving help. Cultural, familial, and societal influences can make vulnerability feel unsafe, but learning to receive is essential for our healing, growth, and liberation.I’ll share personal reflections, practical tips for practicing vulnerability (including how to accept compliments!), and encouragement to embrace the abundance and support that divine resources offer us.Let’s walk this path together—you are deserving of a life where you feel supported, held, and whole. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 20 January 2025

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our worth. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become radical acts of love and justice, profound ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode, we explore what it means to listen deeply to the signals our bodies send us and how that listening is a practice of love and liberation. When survival mode has been our default, it’s easy to overlook these signals, but they are key to protecting our peace and reclaiming a life of wholeness and joy.I’ll share personal reflections, wisdom from my therapist, and reflective journal prompts to support you in reconnecting with yourself and creating a life that centers care, liberation, and joy.Let’s walk this path together—you are deserving of radical love and care. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 13 January 2025

In this quick episode, let's talk about the idea of breaking free from legalism and embracing grace as a foundation for personal growth in this new season. Legalism is the strict adherence to moral codes that kept me stuck for years until I realized how important it was for me to unlearn the harm of this kind of mindset. If you are moving towards more self-love, acceptance, and peace, your daily practice of life has got to include allowing for more grace and less strictness. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFCARE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 6 January 2025

In honor of the new year ahead, let's talk about being in a place where we want to allow change into our lives to align with personal growth and abundance. You weren't put here to live, struggle and die so, prepare yourself for the changes ahead. In this episode I'm giving you a few simple steps to get you started. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 30 December 2024

This year has had some amazing things come to fruition, but it was also hard in some ways. too. When you are the one in your family or circle breaking generational cycles, or if you are blooming into some life changes right now, it's easy for our minds to feel like it's always going to stay hard or that you will struggle forever. Choosing peace as I'm talking about in this episode isn't about bypassing your feelings or pretending that everything is cool. Instead it's deciding that you are doing the best you can and that it is ok to lay claim to peace instead of chaos.I wanted to share a quick insight from the book 'The Four Pivots' by Shawn A. Ginwright, PhD. Specifically I'm highlighting a powerful quote from the book: 'I choose peace of mind instead of this.' It brought me so much clarity as I continue working through some challenges that my hope is that it's a powerful affirmation for you as well. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 23 December 2024

Hey, hey! In this episode I'm talking about 4 things we all need, even if on occassion: silence, stillness, solitude, and surrender. These elements are essential for holistic self-care, especially for us, Black women who deserve to prioritize well-being as we resist cycles of stress and dysfunction.If you are thinking about tuning into your intuition, embracing vulnerability, and practicing self-care this episode is for you. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 16 December 2024

In this episode of the Brown Girls Self Care Podcast, I'm sharing three critical actions Black women can take in 2025 to transform their lives with more healing and joy. The episode emphasizes the importance of dating oneself regularly, undertaking solo trips to foster self-reliance and personal growth, and implementing 'think weeks' or days for deep reflection and planning. These are practices we can use to validate ourselves, embrace our humanity, and prioritize our comfort, ease, and liberation. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2024

Hey y’all, it’s Bre, and I’ve got something important to share with you today. After reflecting on the constant hustle culture we’re all caught up in and seeing a powerful confirmation in an unexpected place—a video of Macy Gray, no less—I’ve decided to take a sabbatical for the month of December.In this episode, I’m sharing:Why rest is a necessaryHow I knew it was time to pause and honor my intuition.What you can expect when I return in January with fresh, intentional episodes.If you’ve been feeling like you need permission to pause, this is it. Rest is a way to honor your humanity and sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is nothing.Thank you for being part of this beautiful community, for listening, and for holding space. I’ll see you in January—until then, take care of yourself, rest deeply, and know that you’re already enough.Connect with Me:Join the email list for updates: Join Here!Follow me on Instagram and Threads: @browngirlselfcare on both Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2024

Hey, sis. Let this episode be your reminder that the work you’re doing—yes, even the small stuff—is working. Whether it’s pausing to take a deep breath, setting a boundary, or speaking to yourself with more kindness, these small shifts are creating big changes.Today, I’m sharing personal reflections and encouragement to remind you that you are making progress, even when it doesn’t feel obvious. I’ll talk about a recent experience where I noticed my own growth, celebrate the small wins that often go unnoticed, and offer journal prompts to help you reflect on your own journey.The work is working, sis—so keep going. Let’s celebrate the small victories together.Journal Prompts to Explore:What’s one small shift I’ve noticed in myself lately?Where can I show myself more grace today? Let’s Connect:Did this episode resonate with you? DM me or share your reflections on Instagram (@browngirlselfcare)—I’d love to hear how the work is working in your life. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 25 November 2024

In this very transparent episode, I share the challenges of staying true to the mission of Brown Girl Self-Care while navigating the harsh realities of capitalism. As a one-woman operation, I discuss how sponsorships have helped sustain this platform but also created inner conflict when values clash with business opportunities.You'll hear:Why I’m reimagining the future of Brown Girl Self-CareThe struggles of centering Black women in a capitalist systemHow I’m leaning into faith, community, and creativity to move forwardMy thoughts on Black women creating sustainable spaces for joy, healing, and liberationPlus, I touch on what’s next for the platform, including a free Podcasting 101 workshop and a fresh approach to community-building through my new minimalist website.If you’ve ever wrestled with balancing authenticity and survival in your work, this episode is for you.💌 Stay connected by joining the Brown Girl Self-Care newsletter at browngirlselfcare.com and become part of the 92% who are thriving unapologetically. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 18 November 2024

Hey y’all, it’s Bre here, and this week, I’m pulling back the curtain to let you in on the big changes happening with Brown Girl Self-Care as well as with me. I recently made the decision to close down the newsletter, and today, I’m talking about why—and what’s coming next.I’ll be sharing how this next chapter of Brown Girl Self-Care will include three areas that are deeply important to me and, I think, to you too:Black Women’s Health: Taking care of our mental, physical, and emotional well-being, because health is part of our freedom.Building Businesses That Honor Rest: Talking about how we can make a living on our own terms without grinding ourselves down or having to feel fake as we do it.Living Sustainably and Bucking Norms: I'm going all in on a lifestyle that aligns with my values and supports Black women, roots keeping, our community, and my peace. So more us and less capitalism and consumerism. Our Sponsors: * Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code SELFCARE at checkout! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 11 November 2024

Meet me on Zoom for "Gather and Be" on Monday, November 4th @ 5pm Pacific / 8pm Eastern. Link Here In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm talking about 'creasing the page' as a way to engage fully with life especially for those of us that are afraid to step out and be seen or make mistakes. I sill struggle with perfectionism, the fear of making mistakes, and in the past these fears have held me back from leaving my mark.I want to encourage you to embrace imperfection, show up authentically and take small steps towards your goals while aligning yourself with curiousity and the willingness to step out of your comfort zone. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 4 November 2024

Hey y’all, it’s Bre here with a special check-in episode of Brown Girl Self-Care. With election season in full swing and November 5th quickly approaching, I’m holding space for Black women who are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or even terrified by the current climate. In this episode, I share responses from our Threads community and offer practical tips to stay grounded, empowered, and resilient during this time. We discuss taking things one step at a time, preparing for uncertainty, decentering men, and prioritizing our well-being above all. Remember, you are not alone—we’re in this together. Tune in for a moment of support, reflection, and solidarity. Our Sponsors: * Check out NPR: npr.org * Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2024

As the end of the year approaches, it's time to talk about something crucial: taking time off. In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, Bre is breaking down why Black women need to prioritize their health by using their personal time off (PTO), Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), and short-term disability. Many of us let our PTO go unused or feel guilty about asking for time away from work—but not taking time for yourself has real consequences. In 2024 we are going to lay claim toL the time we are leaving on the table. Our Sponsors: * Check out NPR: npr.org * Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/ * Check out Thrive Causemetics: https://thrivecausemetics.com/SELFCARE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 21 October 2024

In this episode, let's chat about the delicate line between protecting your peace and speaking up for yourself, especially as a Black woman navigating a world shaped by trauma. I'm sharing my thoughts on when speaking up is necessary and how to distinguish between fear and empowerment. We are reclaiming our voices, healing with compassion, and balancing self-care in a society that often tries to silence us so let's go. Our Sponsors: * Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/ * Check out Thrive Causemetics: https://thrivecausemetics.com/SELFCARE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 14 October 2024

It's going to be one of those episodes, today. I'm sharing about my perimenopause/menopause journey, signs that I'm actually in perimenopause so that you can have a "heads up" as well as giving you a few tips to help get you through when it comes for you. Our Sponsors: * Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/ * Check out Thrive Causemetics: https://thrivecausemetics.com/SELFCARE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 7 October 2024

In this episode of the podcast, Bre is sharing a reminder straight from "corporate life." Our Sponsors: * Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/ * Check out Thrive Causemetics: https://thrivecausemetics.com/SELFCARE * Check out Thrive Causemetics: thrivecausemetics.com/SELFCARE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024